People using up your time

Gloomendoom

vroombroom wrote: »

This annoys me greatly.

My CM is great example of this.

I hate it when I have to waste valuable time trying to work out what an unexplained acronym means.

CM anybody?

Pollycat

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I hate it when I have to waste valuable time trying to work out what an unexplained acronym means.

:rotfl::T

Gloomendoom wrote: »

CM anybody?

I think somebody asked earlier it the thread, apparently it's child minder.

Trek_girl

A close relation insisted we have our wedding near to where she lived. I have family scattered across the country as does my now husband so there was no 'obvious' location to hold it. We lived somewhere close to work with no real ties to the area, then we had separated parents all in different cities etc. in the end we chose a city where my relative 'Sally' lived - her two daughters were to be the flowergirls. the venue was a ten minute walk from her house. I got to the church and was told that Aunt Sally had not yet arrived. A part of me wanted to just go up the aisle and if she and the bridesmaids turned up they could sneak in late but in the end I waited and was seething. No apologies and lots of other passive aggressive behaviour from her. e.g. she said she would help us clear the venue but at the end of the evening she said she had a headache so there I was in my wedding dress filling up bin bags so we get our deposit back. A lot of lateness is passive aggressive.

lulu_92

Pollycat wrote: »

:rotfl::T

I think somebody asked earlier it the thread, apparently it's child minder.

Don't ask the trying to conceive girls, we'd say cervical mucus! :rotfl::rotfl:

Trek_girl

When visiting other countries be aware of different concepts regarding time (there are hundreds of articles online via google) Many cultures see the relationship as more important than time - e.g. if you are speaking to someone and the issue is not resolved - it is more important to see it through than to keep the next appointment on time.

onlyroz wrote: »

I once went on a two-week coach tour of Italy, and there was a couple that was routinely late for everything. One particularly memorable day in Rome resulted in them being so late that we only got seven minutes in the Colloseum, which was the thing I was the most looking forward to seeing.
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This once happened to me on a school trip - the teacher shouted at me in front of the group and twenty years later I still remember it. I had bought a new watch two days earlier but the battery in it meant it had started losing time and the second day I had it (the day I was late) is when it slowed down 20 minutes. I was mortified and still feel embarrassed today.

I have also started being regularly late for work. 5-10 minutes - the reason being, my manager always has 'an emergency' or a 'quick favour' - during my lunch hour or at the end of the day. Never leave before 15 minutes after leaving time. I have mentioned it a few times e.g. 'I need to be on time to pick up my daughter' - then he acts all surprised and it goes back to the same thing the next day. I have never been very assertive and it has taken it out of me to have to be assertive and it be completely ignored. I hate donating my time to that awful company so I take a bit back every morning. In a week I will have at least two hours taken out of my lunch/leaving late and about 30 minutes of me coming in late.

gayleygoo

I feel sorry for the pensioners getting the blame for getting in people's way/taking up their time. I'm sure you could pick any group of people and find something about them that is irritating - small children, high school students, mums with prams, people dawdling down the street, whatever! Sometimes the annoyance might clearly be a selfish person, but other times it's just little things, so let it go!

Besides, it's not pensioners' fault they're not as fast as you, and in theory they probably don't have as much time as you... so be patient

Simply_Ted

gayleygoo wrote: »

I feel sorry for the pensioners getting the blame for getting in people's way/taking up their time. I'm sure you could pick any group of people and find something about them that is irritating - small children, high school students, mums with prams, people dawdling down the street, whatever! Sometimes the annoyance might clearly be a selfish person, but other times it's just little things, so let it go!

Besides, it's not pensioners' fault they're not as fast as you, and in theory they probably don't have as much time as you... so be patient

What a very sensible post

Simply_Ted

Pollycat wrote: »

Yeah right. Put on more buses. And who will pay for that increase in cost to the bus companies?
That's right, the people who actually pay for their tickets.
And it is actually taking up my time because if I need to be somewhere by a specific time, I need to build in extra time because the buses often run late because of the sheer volume of passengers.

Is that really taking up your time?
I guess you could argue that - if you have a toddler and the designated spaces are all full, you have to use a space further away.

So I assume that if pensioners had to pay to use the bus you would be happy with that. But it would not solve the problem you have with your buses being late because of the extra passengers. I find that by 9.30 am the buses are much quieter because most people have already gone to work that is why the pensioners are allowed to use them after 9.30


As for the toddler parking spaces, I did not automatically expect to get a child space when my children were younger I just looked for a space which was larger so I could get my child into the car seat without banging the door onto an adjacent car. After they finished with the strollers and baby seats I just parked in the regular spaces. I'm saying is that a lot of people still use them when they don't have young children any more. Yes it was a bit off piste and thankfully we are back on course about selfish people who waste our time.

BigAunty

andydownes123 wrote: »

I had a friend who's issue was to never give up more time than was absolutely neccessary. Meaning that we would never leave for anywhere or he would not arrive anywhere in time that was 'his'.

His missus is just the same, completely oblivious to the fact that she's holding everyone up.... Certainly agree with the comments that it's about bending the situation so they are in control.

So you agree with other posters, including myself, that lateness can be an act of aggression and manipulation?

My ex friend came across as an extremely disorganised and procrastinating type of person, and on the surface it appeared her continual lateness and forgetfulness was just a facet of her personality, nothing personal, just her being her.

With the power of hindsight, I've started to think it was about showing who was boss - she couldn't impress people in all the usual ways and perhaps felt a bit under confident about her place in the world - so she stamped her personality and left an impression in other ways - which is that she feels important if other people are left to wait on her, made her feel like some kind of Queen. She probably thrived on other people's panic and frustration.

I don't even think she was conscious of her mad power games. She could keep us waiting hours to serve dinner, turn up late for important events, miss deadlines at work, forget to do or do things badly she was asked as favours so that you would never ask her again.

But she never missed a flight when it came to her beloved long haul extended holidays...Airplanes don't wait, there's no game to play there!

Gingernutty

I'm not anti pensioner, but there is a core group of 'chancers' who routinely show up early in the hope that the bus driver/receptionist takes pity on them and lets them get in/on early.

I don't begrudge a pensioner using their bus pass on a bus at 09:30, that's what's it's there for, it's the usual suspects who routinely show up around 09:00 and, as every bus stops, they shuffle on, show their passes and are then told to get off again.

They are there for the 09:05, 09:12 and 09:22 buses before they're allowed on at 09:30.

The same for routine hospital appointments, there are a hardened core, who will show up early (complaining about paying for the bus fares) as if it's a first come, first served 'thing' and are most put out to be told no their clinics aren't open yet, their appointments are later in the day and due to a variety of factors they can't have a cup of tea whist they're waiting.

There are a number of tests can't be performed because of tea, coffee or having something to eat and they walk away with a bee in their bonnets about having to come in again, they've come all this way, it's a disgrace, don't we know they're old etc...

It's beyond irritating to see these listed for reschedules when they could have had their appointments if they'd arrived at the right time and been seen to then.