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How to deal with this/the lost art of "sitting nicely"
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This was known as "gobble and go" when ds was younger, :rotfl:
DH doesn't quite get it though and keeps wanting to go to fashionable busy restaurants with him. We're going to to a family event in the city this weekend and we're planning to have lunch out. DH wants to go for sushi. It took a lot of explaining to make him understand that as DS really does not like food with sushi like textures he would not like sushi and no I do not think that a still 2 year old child needs to widen his palate to such an extent that he enjoys raw fish. We'll be going to Pizza Express0 -
Or alternatively maybe he was forced to sit when he needed to move and as a consequence has never found a way to be comfortable when sitting still. Or maybe he's usually perfectly normal but his wife is 41.5wks pregnant and was feeling twinges in her back when he left home and he was barely containing his excitement about the challenge that's about to come and was afraid to switch off his phone in case he was needed urgently. Maybe he was recovering from a recent injury and sitting still caused him severe pain which he was trying to distract himself from. Maybe the talk so inspired him that he suddenly came up with a solution to a problem he was having at work and was making notes in his phone.
Then again maybe he is just an irritating fidget who needs to learn to sit at peace. Especially if he is going to sit with his legs so far apart then his leg ends up touching the person next to his as he bounces up and down like an excited puppy.
He is an adult and even if he is excited he should be able to control himself so that he's not bouncing around.But yup, he's young engineering professional. It's far more likely that he just had bad parenting, I mean it's not like qualifying in a STEM field takes any of the self control his awful parents never taught him.
Usually people don't become fidgets, they were like that as children and never made to sit at peace. It's the same with table manners. People who think it is acceptable to chew with their mouths open, slurp, lick their fingers and shovel the food into their mouths at a great rate of knots learned that behaviour as children or at the very least their bad habits were not corrected.0 -
barbiedoll wrote: »I've got a rather efficient, "evil mum" stare which not only worked with my kid, but also appears to work with other people's [STRIKE]brats[/STRIKE] little darlings.
I use it a lot in my local supermarket where it comes in handy when encountering those parents who seem to think that their child is perfectly entitled to play with my food on the conveyor belt. One stare from me and they're frozen in fear, their little sticky hands just hovering over my bananas, which I dare them to touch.......
It works quite well on the "screamers" too, the ones who think that shrieking at the top of their voices is hilarious, whilst their parents just stand and watch, inexplicably proudly. My son always tells me to "give them one of your evil looks".....it does usually shut them up.
I'm not proud of myself but it would be a shame to waste my talent!
Love this !!! I have the evil stare, which incidently works perfectly when administered between the seats on an airplane to the unruly child who insists on kicking the back of my seat, although recently found out it also works on adults when staring at them through the seats at the cinema too. Seat kicking, makes me want to punch people on the nose !!! :mad: :rotfl:0
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