The Ashley Madison Hack

lostinrates

burnoutbabe wrote: »

its a slippery slope, the hackers start with this site (where we can feel a bit "haha serves the cheaters right" ) but what next? Hacking marie Stopes and publishing all names of women who have booked abortions or contraceptive advice?

This sort of activity needs to be completely condemned, no matter what site they aim for. Its a crime.

Agreed, on the same basis as my previous posts, two wrongs do not make a right.

Fireflyaway

I don't think its OK even if you are not married and have no kids. Actually that would imply its easier to leave the relationship.... cheating is never a good thing - its deceitful.

I was once in a situation where I knew a colleague was having an affair. I felt so strong about it that I contemplated telling her husband. However I didn't because who knows what could happen? You hear of people being killed over stuff like that.

These hackers might think they are doing the moral thing but it could have unintended consequences.

FBaby

gabriel1980 wrote: »

My opinion on having an affair is that I personally wouldn't have one as I don't have the time or inclination and having one woman impose demands on you is more than enough. However, I also don't demonise men or women that do until I know the whole story. I don't believe that cheating is the worse thing you can do in a relationship.

My view is that if you are having an affair, or your OH is, your relationship is not good and you can do better. The person who does it and do everything to make it a secret wants his/her cake and eat it. If they keep it secret, it is because there would be consequences if found out, ie. it will hurt their OH, otherwise, why not having it in the open.

It is rarely the actual physical act of cheating that is the issue, it is the betrayal of trust that means your relationship is a lie.

AubreyMac

What is classed as an affair and where does it start?

I know someone who is technically married, she never really got divorced, have been separated for over a decade and in a long term relationship with her now partner. They don't plan on getting married so she doesn't feel the need to go through the hassle of divorce. Plus, she has no contact with her estranged hubby. Is she being 'unfaithful'?

Your partner is texting/communicating with another person but they do not get physical. There is just attraction there and an opportunity if they wanted to persue it. A back up guy/girl or whatever the term is. Is this classed as cheating?

I do not agree with hurting your partner, to lie and be deceitful. There is no excuse or justification for it. But this website did not invent cheating and if it closed down as a result of the hacking, it'll just open doors to create another one.

People deserve to know if they have been cheated on, but in an ideal world the would find out from the partner and not a hacker.

David301