The Ashley Madison Hack

lostinrates

gabriel1980 wrote: »

I think being treated badly, does justify betrayal. A lot of things justify betrayal not least being betrayed yourself.

Ah yes,like that well known saying ; two wrongs make a right?

indiepanda

gabriel1980 wrote: »

I'm sure many of you have heard about the Ashley Madison hack (you know the website that helps you have an affair). I can't help but feel kinda sorry for the poor folks on that site. They going to get outed by a malicious group of hackers and all they wanted was a little fun. I mean an affair that isn't found out, is great fun and both parties are obviously agreeing to it, it can make both people very happy. All Ashley Madison is doing is attempting to make it easier to have an affair and to make it easier keeping it discreet, but that's been shattered now.

All Ashley Madison is trying to do is make money and from the unpleasant source of people who don't have the balls to solve the issues in their relationships rather than go cheat. This is not some charitable exercise on the part of Ashley Madison helping people to have innocent fun. Affairs break hearts and families.

No sympathy for any of them. I really don't get people who cheat. If you don't want to be faithful, don't get into a serious relationship. If you're in one and it's not working, do your best to fix it, and if it can't be fixed move on rather than live a lie.

pickledonionspaceraider

gabriel1980 wrote: »

I don't believe that cheating is the worse thing you can do in a relationship.

Betraying the trust you have built up since day one is not the worst thing you can do in a relationship?

would it not be a deal breaker for you, if your OH had an affair?

lostinrates

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Betraying the trust you have built up since day one is not the worst thing you can do in a relationship?

would it not be a deal breaker for you, if your OH had an affair?

OP is entitled to make his/her own decisions about relationships ( and actually although I agree with what you have said I also think its not the Worst think, or other things equal as badly. ( domestic violence for example, betrayal of trust over other matters, and other examples).

But where I feel OP ( and such agencies as mentioned) is not fair is to make this judgement for OTHER people's relationships. I would have thought that there are very few scenarios in comparison to the numbers of people impacted whose relationships were genuinely inextricable from due to circumstances such as health. And if one feels run down self esteem from being betrayed, how will one feel when they are 'no better' than their spouse, or when in a difficult relations ship when they add fear of discovery to the treatment they suffer?

Heffi1

According to the news article I read earlier today there are 37 million members worldwide, with 1.2 million of them in this country alone, now one or two bad apples I can understand but that many is too many to see this as a passing phase, affairs have gone on since the beginning of time, and whether you agree or not, they will continue to go on. some people for a variety of reasons want to have extra in their lives.

I was going to say about the partner at home with an ill wife/husband, but no intention of leaving the marriage, for them this can be a welcome relief to what might be an awful life, to escape once in a while, but still take care of things at home, the one thing missing is the intimacy that was once there, for everything else the relationship is good, would you see that person as doing a bad thing if the other partner knew what was going on and gave their blessing? Would they want everyone to know what was happening, I doubt it.

Sometimes it is not as cut and dried as it appears on the surface.

For the majority of the affairs that take place though, it is a case of wanting something you are not supposed to have.

Nada666

I'm alright. I don't use such a site. I go dogging in my Jeep. (SFW)

System

Nada666 wrote: »

I'm alright. I don't use such a site. I go dogging in my Jeep.

Cheapskate:(

mgdavid

gabriel1980 wrote: »

I'm sure many of you have heard about the Ashley Madison hack (you know the website that helps you have an affair). I can't help but feel kinda sorry for the poor folks on that site. They going to get outed by a malicious group of hackers and all they wanted was a little fun. I mean an affair that isn't found out, is great fun and both parties are obviously agreeing to it, it can make both people very happy. All Ashley Madison is doing is attempting to make it easier to have an affair and to make it easier keeping it discreet, but that's been shattered now.

in my world it's called poetic justice.

burnoutbabe

its a slippery slope, the hackers start with this site (where we can feel a bit "haha serves the cheaters right" ) but what next? Hacking marie Stopes and publishing all names of women who have booked abortions or contraceptive advice?

This sort of activity needs to be completely condemned, no matter what site they aim for. Its a crime.

Gavin83

gabriel1980 wrote: »

I don't believe that cheating is the worse thing you can do in a relationship.

Of course there are worse things you can do to a partner. However it doesn't make it right. I'm of the opinion that cheating is never justified.