I'm really scared about my son

busiscoming2

Brilliant news

Ms_Chocaholic

Fab news Frog, my thoughts are with you all xx

heartbreak_star

Just seen this thread - great news that your son is awake Frogletina.

Lots of love to you all!

HBS x

RuthnJasper

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Just seen this thread - great news that your son is awake Frogletina.

Lots of love to you all!

HBS x

Me too. Oh, Frogletina, bless you. You and your DiL must feel like you've been through an industrial shredder. Awful for you, some comfort in that you can support each other, but heart-wrenching. I am so sorry.

Sending lots of love and good wishes for you and your family. PLease keep us updated, if you can. Many virtual hugs going to you from me and Gisele the dog. xxxx

Counting_Pennies_2

I am delighted to hear all is going in the right direction.


I am sure he is being very well looked after. I do find sometimes in the transition from hospital to community care things can sometimes get lost. So do keep on at them to make sure there is the necessary and adequate talking therapies offered to him to help make sense of life and how he got to his situation.


It is a free service in most areas with very limited waiting. It is also self referral, so if for any reason they don't assist you in the hospital I would highly recommend ensuring it is in place.


Good luck with everything

3xPrism

Having dealt first hand with a suicidal family member, my heart goes out to you. The next few months, for everyone involved, will be one of the most challenging periods of your life.

If you find it is starting to wear you down, phone Samaritans. They provide free confidential support and advice. For me, without them, I would not have had the strength to help my sister when the going got tough.

Frogletina

An update.

The day my son left hospital his wife left him.

He took more pills a couple of weeks later but this time he was only in hospital overnight and thankfully not as serious.

Now he is going through a traumatic divorce. He has a car which was put in his wife's name (to avoid her loss of no claims) while she was driving a company car and he also had a motorbike.

Before they split she changed her job and she had a new car which was put in her name. Bought with a loan by the two of them but she paid that off and took out a new loan for it.

Now she is claiming his car and a share in the motorbike.

Without a car he is worried about how to get to work as he doesn't feel he can use the bike this winter. He had a couple of heart attacks in recent years and other health problems.

Cited in the divorce papers is that he never wanted to go out (mostly because his work is so tiring that he was exhausted when he returned home) and that he tried to commit suicide!

He has no savings, and although may be able to pay the mortgage he is unlikely to be able to increase it to buy her out of their property. I will do what I can to enable him to stay in his home.

I feel incredibly sad that his marriage has ended - I really liked his wife, and it all seems so out of character. But his life changed that night and her reactions to it, in hindsight, trouble me.

frogletina

ravilious_fan

Frogletina wrote: »

I feel incredibly sad that his marriage has ended - I really liked his wife, and it all seems so out of character. But his life changed that night and her reactions to it, in hindsight, trouble me.

frogletina

I can see both sides, to be honest. Her choice was to leave him or live with someone who is unstable and have to walk on eggshells all the time, for fear of upsetting him and being permanently on edge for fear of him taking an overdose again. No-one should have to live like that.


I hope your son gets the help he needs. Maybe anti-depressants or counselling.

Frogletina

ravilious_fan wrote: »

I can see both sides, to be honest. Her choice was to leave him or live with someone who is unstable and have to walk on eggshells all the time, for fear of upsetting him and being permanently on edge for fear of him taking an overdose again. No-one should have to live like that.


I hope your son gets the help he needs. Maybe anti-depressants or counselling.

I do understand that, but to leave the day he came out of hospital seems incredibly callous.

I feel that the least she could have done was inform his family. I was with him at his home until about 9 that evening and I could have stayed with him if I had known he would be alone.

He does have a good doctor.

Lioness_Twinkletoes

Frogletina wrote: »

I do understand that, but to leave the day he came out of hospital seems incredibly callous.

I feel that the least she could have done was inform his family. I was with him at his home until about 9 that evening and I could have stayed with him if I had known he would be alone.

He does have a good doctor.

Would it have been any kinder to wait a while, give him hope before leaving him? Fact is, there is no good time to leave someone.

It is hard - for both parties.