Im pregnant - doctor and i disputes my dates?!

johanne

Hi,

Just posted something similar on oldstyle but thought people here may be able to advise better.. basically i found on out thursday that im pregnant

I did 3 tests (just to be sure!) This was about 2 weeks after i expected my period to come BUT id only just come off the contraceptive pill so was not 100% sure when it was exactly due and kept putting it down to that...

This is where it gets confusing though.............

Going by my last period or "bleed".. the first day was 24th june which makes me 7 weeks pregnant now if i have a 28 day cycle (i have no idea ive been on the pill for nearly 6 years prior!)

BUT i did a test on 23rd july cos i just felt "different" and it was negative then i did one again on 25th july because i was due to have an dye xray the next day for a kidney problem but knew they wouldnt do it if i was pregnant - that was negative too! LUCKILY..... The hospital didnt do the procedure sending me home instead with instructions to ring them the day my period come.. because after thinking it over the consultant wasnt happy to just go off a negative pregnancy test as proof even if they done one there and then in the hopsital as it wasnt 100%..............

Confused yet?

So i went to see my doctor today to get everything confirmed etc and told her my last period started 24th june.. my last negative test was 25th of july... my positive was 9th august....... her response was to tell me im "at most 4 weeks pregnant" due to the fact i tested negative on july 25th so must have concieved after that... My dates make me 7 weeks...

She didnt do another test ,She didnt examine me, She didnt take blood or anything..... She just sat her side of her desk and made this diagnosis...

Now just over 3 weeks ago she diagnosed me with depression and prescribed prozac after me telling her i felt ill, exhausted couldnt sleep properly, couldnt eat properly and didnt feel myself... i argued i wasnt depressed and didnt want antidepressents but she didnt believe me... luckily i only took 2 doses of it! Now I wonder if i was actually just pregnant not depressed??

She is insisting im only 4 weeks at most ... - which means i concieved 2 weeks ago approx 1st/2nd Aug - then tested positive (and were talking strong cerise pink lines appearing in seconds... before even the control lines had appeared positive) on the 9th ...... which is only 7/8 days later..... one type of tests i used can supposedly detect 7 days after conception, but the other on says "first day of missed period" which working on a 28 day cycle in theory is 14 days after conception.... Which in theory would mean wouldnt detect till yesterday/today?

I forgot to mention ive felt lousy for about 5/6 weeks, really tired and queasy, running the loo all the time, havent been able to drink tea for the past 2 weeks despite being a tea-aholic usually... boobs have gone bigger the last 3 weeks too and are now bigger than ive EVER seen them (even in a really good wonderbra! :rotfl: ) i also have a little swollen belly like im really due on but its rock solid.... and i have other symptoms of the 7 weeks pregnant like being starving hungry but too tired to make anything...

Im really upset shes "put me back" 3 weeks.... specially without even examining me.... its my first baby and im so excited and dont wanna be "put back" but more seriously im also worried omething might go wrong but if IM right and SHES wrong i might not get a scan till 15-20 weeks.... instead of 12-16 weeks like i was expecting so it would be later too on to find it.

Id also heard if youd come off the pill and got pregnant straight away so were unsure of your dates that they sent you for an early scan to get a date... but she hasnt mentioned this at all.

i also wont know when its safe to tell people other then OH and our parents..... or selfishly when i cant start taking my antihistamine again for my allergy (which shes told me not to take till im over 12 weeks) cos im suffering badly without it! ... They messed my mums dates up with my little brother and he ended up being 2/3 weeks overdue by her dates and he come out all scaly and ill cos hes been in there too long! I dont want that!

I have my first midwifes appointments on tuesday but being my first i dont know if she will think im being funny if i tell her i think the doctors got my dates wrong... dont wanna be trying to tell granny how to suck eggs if you see what i mean???

I was just really not happy with the way the doctor treated me... shes also told me im only a low-risk pregnancy despite me having scoliosis (curve of the spine) which my consultant for said may cause problems in pregnancy, that im under referral for a blockage in my kidney which cant be sorted now...... and that i was also under referral for "abnormal bleeding" and abdonminal pain at the gynacelogical hospital and they didnt discover what it was and didnt investigate further last time i went just discharged me cos id stop bleeding after my last period in june and not had my usually 3 weeks period or a period every 2 weeks like when i was on the pill! :rolleyes: So all these things and the being a first time mum have got me really anxious..............


OH GOSH! didnt realise how long this post was... i just needed to get it off my chest..... !!!!:o

Am i overreacting... should i trust my doctors dates and her judgement?? Or should i say something to the midwife?? Is it just "first time mum" worries??

crispeater

firstly congratulations

i really wouldnt worry about your gp's dates as you should be given a dating scan albeit it maybe when your gp feels your 12 weeks pregnant and not when you think iyswim. anyway the date they give you will be the one on your notes.

what you could do is when you see your mw is tell her exactly what you have told us and she should arrange a scan for you.

moozikgal

Congratulations

Your first appointment with your midwife will be a booking appointment when they take all your medical history, dates etc. You will get refered to the hospital for a dating scan because of the confusion and they will be able to tell you for sure how far along you are.

Take it easy, rest, take folic acid and try to enjoy still being able to wear normal clothes!

ukbandit

congrats, forget the dates. you will have a dating scan around 12 weeks, use that to calculate the definitive dates

patchwork_cat

Hi
OK your dates will be confirmed at scan. When someone gets pregnant after being on the pill the dates can be difficult.If you are concerned you could be able to opt for hospital care rather than GP care for your pregnancy.

The dates really don't matter at the moment. As the new film Waitress says when asked how pregnant am I the Dr replies there really is only 1 degree - pregnant!

The dr sounds like her personal skills were not up to scratch - if this is normal then would you consider changing GP's, if not - maybe she was just having an off day.

Congratulations

Bagpuss1973

Congratulations!! :j :j


From your last period of 24.06.2007 you would today be 7 weeks and 3 days giving you an estimated date of delivery of 30 March 2008.

I would certainly discuss your concerns with your midwife. Just because you had a negative result does not mean that you were not pregnant at that time, merely that maybe you did not have enough hormones in your system to show up yet - everyone is different.

Speak to your midwife about that other things too to ensure that your consultant is told about your pregnancy in case it affects any other treatment you might need.

Remember that doctors are not Gods and can make mistakes like anyone else.

Goodluck with your pregnancy.

Bagpussxx

mai_tai_2

Congrats on the pregnancy.

I wouldn't worry too much about when your scan will be. I was confirmed pregnant at 8 weeks and still didn't have my first scan until almost seventeen weeks. Everything should be put right by then coz thats when they tell you how far you really are. Its only from then on that you really start your pregnancy care with the midwife anyway.

minime5

Hi, as a midwife myself, I would advise you to get a scan to confirm your dates. Hopefully you will be able to have on at 12 weeks at your hospital, but if it's later than that then I would ask for a dating scan. I agree with the other people's reply's and try not to worry. Unfortunately there are always going to be peole who's bedside manner is not the best. Definately keep going with the folic acid, and don't take your anti histamines till u find out how many weeks you are for definite.
Good luck with the pregancy. Enjoy it xx

Dormouse

You're not overreacting - it sounds very weird to me too the way the Dr calculated the dates.

The good thing is your booking appointment with the MW is soon, so explain everything to her and I'm sure they'll try and give you a dating scan ASAP.

And congratulations.

helenhugs

I wouldn't worry too much about the dates, the scan you have will tell you more. It sounds like you don't get a dating scan in your area but you can request one if you make them aware there is doubt over it.
Congratulations on the pregnancy.
Hugs
Helen

honeypop

I agree with the others, the dating scan will tell you for definite the dates.

When you see your midwife, instead of saying you think the doctor got it wrong, you could ask her if she could explain how the doctor arrived at that answer as you worked it out to a different date. She might be able to explain it a bit better than your doctor did, or she may re-calulate it herself if she realises there is a significnt difference in dates.