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rose28454

Mum in ambulance on way to hospital. Carer said she had chest pains. I am at work so cant go and my sister grudgingly said she would go to the hospital!

rhosynbach

rose28454 wrote: »

Mum in ambulance on way to hospital. Carer said she had chest pains. I am at work so cant go and my sister grudgingly said she would go to the hospital!

i hope all is ok with her rose, must be really hard with the stress of your mum and the added hastle of your family have a big hug :grouphug:

izzy65

rose28454 wrote: »

Mum in ambulance on way to hospital. Carer said she had chest pains. I am at work so cant go and my sister grudgingly said she would go to the hospital!

Good morning, Rose so sorry your having such stress , hope your mum is going to be okay, and wishing the strength to stand your ground when it comes to your siblings:A

rose28454

Thanks Izzy and Rhos for your kind wishes. I am not sleeping well ( up at 5 again today ) as I have some money worries aswell. Told my sisters when they persuaded Mum to have this op that I wouldnt be available due to work and wedding but I may as well have spoken to the wall. My younger sis is barely speaking to me ( the one doing the wedding !!) as I was annoyed at being late for work the other morning and dared to criticise her.
Mum is actually quite confused about things ( worse since the op!!) and I think maybe its too much meds ( codeine, paracetomol and ibuprofen ) or dehydration. So I went and told her we were going to lose the iboprofen ( was only supposed to be 5 days post op anyway) and if she was able to cut down on the codeine. So this morning she called me at 9.30 tob say she had a headache and carer hadnt been. I told her to just take them and tell carer. This may have brought on chest pains ( stress ).
Meanwhile I am trying to work and younger sis in at gym and older one in Italy for a shopping trip with her friend. I am sorry to go on but am getting near breaking point again.
I have already started clearing out rooms and my shed as I have almost decided that in September I am going to downsize and move a bit further away ( which is a shame as DD and Oh live near) as unless Mum goes into care I am not going to be able to escape this.

Tinyshoes

rose28454 wrote: »

Mum in ambulance on way to hospital. Carer said she had chest pains. I am at work so cant go and my sister grudgingly said she would go to the hospital!

Thinking of you rose. I hope your mum is going to be ok. :A

izzy65

rose28454 wrote: »

Thanks Izzy and Rhos for your kind wishes. I am not sleeping well ( up at 5 again today ) as I have some money worries aswell. Told my sisters when they persuaded Mum to have this op that I wouldnt be available due to work and wedding but I may as well have spoken to the wall. My younger sis is barely speaking to me ( the one doing the wedding !!) as I was annoyed at being late for work the other morning and dared to criticise her.
Mum is actually quite confused about things ( worse since the op!!) and I think maybe its too much meds ( codeine, paracetomol and ibuprofen ) or dehydration. So I went and told her we were going to lose the iboprofen ( was only supposed to be 5 days post op anyway) and if she was able to cut down on the codeine. So this morning she called me at 9.30 tob say she had a headache and carer hadnt been. I told her to just take them and tell carer. This may have brought on chest pains ( stress ).
Meanwhile I am trying to work and younger sis in at gym and older one in Italy for a shopping trip with her friend. I am sorry to go on but am getting near breaking point again.
I have already started clearing out rooms and my shed as I have almost decided that in September I am going to downsize and move a bit further away ( which is a shame as DD and Oh live near) as unless Mum goes into care I am not going to be able to escape this.

Rose I think your last sentence says it all, I would think that if your mum was in care then the stress would be less and your sibling really have to see this, I don't understand why going into care I seen as a negative, I hope that you can convince the others to at least consider it, good luck

Tinyshoes

And rose is there any possibility your mum may have a UTI if she is more confused? Especially with the hotter weather if she has not been drinking enough after her op to flush things through. Just a thought but I am sure hospital will pick up on anything like that.

rose28454

izzy65 wrote: »

Rose I think your last sentence says it all, I would think that if your mum was in care then the stress would be less and your sibling really have to see this, I don't understand why going into care I seen as a negative, I hope that you can convince the others to at least consider it, good luck

I dont think for one minute anyone will agree to that ( especially older sis ) as they seem to think that its a terrible betrayal of my Mum. Thats why I think drastic action on my part is called for.

Tinyshoes

rose28454 wrote: »

I dont think for one minute anyone will agree to that ( especially older sis ) as they seem to think that its a terrible betrayal of my Mum. Thats why I think drastic action on my part is called for.

Having been there rose, there comes a point when caring for someone with such ill health there are hard choices to be made and it's not for everyone doing what I did and putting your whole life on hold. There is a point when people do need 24/7 care and your family need to realise there may be no other choice than for her to be in the best place for her which may not be at home.

I wish you all the best whatever choices are made. xx

rhosynbach

rose28454 wrote: »

I dont think for one minute anyone will agree to that ( especially older sis ) as they seem to think that its a terrible betrayal of my Mum. Thats why I think drastic action on my part is called for.

try to convince them that a nice home will give your mum not only the care that she needs but also company and entertainment, a friend of ours that fought going into a home 6 months on says its the best thing he ever did he loves it he never realised how lonely h is life had become, its not a betrayal just doing the best for everyone,