The Elite:The Good, The Bad and the Glitchy

Sunshinemummy

vouchercrazy wrote: »

Good evening everyone
I need some Elite advice regarding a work situation, I have spoken to ACAS and they have advised me to take my boss to court , but I do not want to go down that route as I know my boss is between a rock and a hard place. His wife and step daughter both suffer from depression and are both on the same medication
We work in the accountancy industry, me 30 odd years my boss over 40 years, my boss took on his step daughter because she could not find any other work, for the last four years ,we have tried teaching her but she plays on her depression , believe me she is not daft or uneducated, it has now gotten to a point where I am totally running the practice on my own, while I see each day his step daughter totally taking the Mick out of my boss and her mother, I have brought this to the attention of my boss but he has been told by his step daughter and her mother it is a conflict of personalities, which it is not at all, my boss has threatened me that if we do not get along then he will close the business and I will be out of a job but he still wants me to teach his step daughter, this is now effecting my health as I am so stressed and my hair is falling out , I have shorten the situation because if I write everything that has been going on we will still here in a couple of months My oh has said look for another job but when you get to my age jobs are few and far between I need help but do not know where turn
Sorry for bring the thread down

I would ensure that he was totally responsible for teaching her... can you go on a long holiday so that he can get a true reflection of what she is like!

Nannylala

Shortfatscotsbloke wrote: »

Great to see you old bean. Probably my favourite poster of all time, full of mischief, wit and genius and I (amongst many I'm sure) would be happy to give you a glowing rerference if mse came calling..:D

Please stay and improve my quality of life..:)

My sentiments exactly SFSB :T

Good evening :wave: and night night David so nice to see you back where you belong :A

Tinyshoes

vouchercrazy wrote: »

Good evening everyone
I need some Elite advice regarding a work situation, I have spoken to ACAS and they have advised me to take my boss to court , but I do not want to go down that route as I know my boss is between a rock and a hard place. His wife and step daughter both suffer from depression and are both on the same medication
We work in the accountancy industry, me 30 odd years my boss over 40 years, my boss took on his step daughter because she could not find any other work, for the last four years ,we have tried teaching her but she plays on her depression , believe me she is not daft or uneducated, it has now gotten to a point where I am totally running the practice on my own, while I see each day his step daughter totally taking the Mick out of my boss and her mother, I have brought this to the attention of my boss but he has been told by his step daughter and her mother it is a conflict of personalities, which it is not at all, my boss has threatened me that if we do not get along then he will close the business and I will be out of a job but he still wants me to teach his step daughter, this is now effecting my health as I am so stressed and my hair is falling out , I have shorten the situation because if I write everything that has been going on we will still here in a couple of months My oh has said look for another job but when you get to my age jobs are few and far between I need help but do not know where turn
Sorry for bring the thread down

You are not bringing the thread down. Does sound like your boss is in a very hard position emotionally. It might be worth you looking at new jobs you never know what might be out there if you don't and no harm done just looking.

Not sure the best step forward with regards to your current job, if it is affecting your health could you not get signed off by your GP for short while it would give you some breathing space to think. xx

vouchercrazy

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

I would ensure that he was totally responsible for teaching her... can you go on a long holiday so that he can get a true reflection of what she is like!

I tried that this year, the worse time to go away is January, I made sure I was away this year so he would know but it did not work, when I got back he said I was not allowed to go away in January next year

Sarahdol75

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

Hi,
just thougyt id pop in to say im still here, although alittle worse for ware.
thanks DEEDEE for the new thread.
been at sharp end of the nhs this weekend and its critical, im afraid.they dcan throw as much money at it but it needs total reorganising, more staff, less managers at the top.i think if the bosses did an appreniship at the bottom, they would realise what the problems are and what the nurses have to put up with.
anyway, hope all is well with the elite and will keep up with you all.
nice to see DAVID and BB posting...and HI to SNAP and FC.
catch you all soon.take care.xx

Hope your ok???

Nice to see you back David.

HILLBERN

vouchercrazy wrote: »

Good evening everyone
I need some Elite advice regarding a work situation, I have spoken to ACAS and they have advised me to take my boss to court , but I do not want to go down that route as I know my boss is between a rock and a hard place. His wife and step daughter both suffer from depression and are both on the same medication
We work in the accountancy industry, me 30 odd years my boss over 40 years, my boss took on his step daughter because she could not find any other work, for the last four years ,we have tried teaching her but she plays on her depression , believe me she is not daft or uneducated, it has now gotten to a point where I am totally running the practice on my own, while I see each day his step daughter totally taking the Mick out of my boss and her mother, I have brought this to the attention of my boss but he has been told by his step daughter and her mother it is a conflict of personalities, which it is not at all, my boss has threatened me that if we do not get along then he will close the business and I will be out of a job but he still wants me to teach his step daughter, this is now effecting my health as I am so stressed and my hair is falling out , I have shorten the situation because if I write everything that has been going on we will still here in a couple of months My oh has said look for another job but when you get to my age jobs are few and far between I need help but do not know where turn
Sorry for bring the thread down

Oh dear:( sounds like an impossible situation, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel
If your health is suffering can you not have a little time off, or if you feel you cant have time off sick can you have some annual leave very soon? Write as many instructions down(+photocopy for reference if needed) for the step daughter so she can use in your absence
whilst you are off reflect on what you do and have,- you have many years of experience which will count for a lot, but you could put the feelers out to see what is around you may think a change is as good as a rest:D
Obviously your boss is having to be loyal to his family which is commendable but not at the mercy of his staff, he needs to actually be the boss at work and not the step father.
Hope all goes well and you take a step back and think of what is best for you.:)

womble_shopper

I know I am a bit late but thanks DEEDEE for the new thread

vouchercrazy

HILLBERN wrote: »

Oh dear:( sounds like an impossible situation, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel
If your health is suffering can you not have a little time off, or if you feel you cant have time off sick can you have some annual leave very soon? Write as many instructions down(+photocopy for reference if needed) for the step daughter so she can use in your absence
whilst you are off reflect on what you do and have,- you have many years of experience which will count for a lot, but you could put the feelers out to see what is around you may think a change is as good as a rest:D
Obviously your boss is having to be loyal to his family which is commendable but not at the mercy of his staff, he needs to actually be the boss at work and not the step father.
Hope all goes well and you take a step back and think of what is best for you.:)

Thank you for answering

Claire1972

Evening all,

Just done my last 2 boxes of walkers got 12 winners lower than normal but I am more than happy with that :j

Thank you so much CouponKathy for getting me all of my boxes over the last 2 weeks, I am so So grateful to you, I wouldn't have got any if it wasn't for you.

I am getting some of the HOF vouchers from work next week so will drop a load in for you and your DD for your little trip out.

Thanks again. Night all x

Claire x

vanilla_twist

Voucher crazy sorry to hear you are having problems.
My personal view (and it is just that) you work in an extremely professional role and your boss, as a fellow professional, should not have put you in this position.
If your contract doesn't mention training and mentoring then don't do it.
If you feel loyalty to a nice boss then explain it like that. If he wishes to train his step daughter he needs to send her to collage or downgrade her to receptionist.

ACAS are right, you do have a case but maybe you could tell your boss you are not training anymore first as not your role. If he doesn't accept this then go down the ACAS route.

Yes he could close his business but that wouldn't keep his step daughter employed and you could take over his clients.

I do hope you find a solution.

Quiet here at the moment. Need a nice global glitch to keep me amused.

V x