cheating?

sleepymans

Im sorry, to tell you but if your partner isnt having regular mindblowing sex with you, then his registration with a hook up site is probably not meant to provide just "chat"!!

Its an inevitable fact that men require a good helping of hot sex with their partner to remain faithful....sorry, its just my experience!

*max*

Dazedandconfused1 wrote: »

Thanks for the advice everyone. I've spent all day searching the internet and your answers have been a lot more forgiving than most!

I'm trying to decide if what he did really was cheating if he genuinely didn't talk to anyone. I promised myself I would never forgive another cheater.

How long until he gets bored with just looking? Do I have to have sex with my boyfriend at least once a week to stop him looking elsewhere?

Of course not - but if it's because you don't want to, then there could be a problem there in your relationship that you need to address by talking to each other (different sex drives? Loss of passion...etc). Which of course does NOT excuse his signing up to casual sex sites!!!

Dazedandconfused1 wrote: »

Not that it changes anything but these aren't regular dating sites. They're swinging\ meet local s**TS casual sex sites

This is completely out of order and disrespectful to you and the relationship you have in my book. Nobody signs up to these kinds of sites just to find someone to chat to!

There is obviously an issue, even if hasn't cheated (yet), and you need a frank discussion with him. This is not on.

double_mummy

sleepymans wrote: »

Its an inevitable fact that men require a good helping of hot sex with their partner to remain faithful....sorry, its just my experience!

WOW .... really??????

im so glad i have a different experience!!!

DUTR

Dazedandconfused1 wrote: »

Thanks for the advice everyone. I've spent all day searching the internet and your answers have been a lot more forgiving than most!

I'm trying to decide if what he did really was cheating if he genuinely didn't talk to anyone. I promised myself I would never forgive another cheater.

How long until he gets bored with just looking? Do I have to have sex with my boyfriend at least once a week to stop him looking elsewhere?

As said , everyone is different, but no you don't have to have it once a week if you don't want to, but then if you don't feel the need to do it, then there is little point in staying with him or he with you.

DUTR

double_mummy wrote: »

WOW .... really??????

im so glad i have a different experience!!!

I'm glad too, some blokes and most I know unless they are married, take that off the menu and the relationship is as good as over (kids or not).

j.e.j.

Dazedandconfused1 wrote: »

Not that it changes anything but these aren't regular dating sites. They're swinging\ meet local s**TS casual sex sites

I think that does change things..

swingers, etc.. maybe dogging.. ugh.

No wonder he wanted to hide it from you!

Dazedandconfused1

I've never refused sex. Granted I've rarely tried to instigate anything recently but neither has he. We still spent good time together doing other things. I've always tried to make a point of spending at least one full day a week with him.

I feel like I'm trying to make excuses for both of us

VestanPance

He's scum. Dump him and save yourself the bother of dealing with a liar on a daily basis.

j.e.j.

Dazedandconfused1 wrote: »

I've never refused sex. Granted I've rarely tried to instigate anything recently but neither has he. We still spent good time together doing other things. I've always tried to make a point of spending at least one full day a week with him.

I feel like I'm trying to make excuses for both of us

Not doing a Dr Ruth, here...



... but if one or both of you still has a sex drive and you're not getting sex from the relationship, then that's something that needs to be addressed.

j.e.j.

VestanPance wrote: »

He's scum. Dump him and save yourself the bother of dealing with a liar on a daily basis.

Oh gawd, here we go....