Adults slagging off kids?

Gingernutty

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

What's a "mom", was this is America?

A northern mum.

Dustyblinds

A northern mum is a mam.

Gingernutty

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

What's a "mom", was this is America?

Gingernutty wrote: »

A northern mum.

Dustyblinds wrote: »

A northern mum is a mam.

You're right, Dustyblinds, it's more of a Midlands thing.

FBaby

The other day I was at a wedding and I started talking with other mums I didn't know with children the same age. I was quite amazed as they describe how they get drawn into their kids' business with friends/boyfriends. One of them was talking about how her DD had received a message from this boy she liked, didn't know what to say, so mum got involved and continued the 'conversation' for her DD!

I am not friend with my DD on FB and certainly not any of her friends. I am not my DD's friend in that context. I think some mums get very bored with their own life and can only get some excitment through their children's. Very sad.

Pollycat

DandelionPatrol wrote: »

That is me out then. Obviously this is a private argument within the Facebook gang and it is more important to stick together if outsiders have an opinion.

Exactly.

Totally disregarding the fact that the OP has no right to ask for opinions only from a certain group, people who don't use social media often have a more balanced view than people who post stuff like they've just had a cup of tea or other trite drivel or 'like' everything that anybody posts.

I'm sick of hearing people - teens and adults - on the bus or in the pub complaining that somebody's slagged them off or blocked them on facebook.

On the subject of the first post - if I were on facebook - I would not start or join in any 'slagging off' of a minor.
I doubt very much that I'd 'friend' any kids other than family.

I think balletshoes has a very good point in post #9 about getting the school involved.

Jagraf

FBaby wrote: »

The other day I was at a wedding and I started talking with other mums I didn't know with children the same age. I was quite amazed as they describe how they get drawn into their kids' business with friends/boyfriends. One of them was talking about how her DD had received a message from this boy she liked, didn't know what to say, so mum got involved and continued the 'conversation' for her DD!

I am not friend with my DD on FB and certainly not any of her friends. I am not my DD's friend in that context. I think some mums get very bored with their own life and can only get some excitment through their children's. Very sad.

Excellent post.

susancs

Pollycat wrote: »

Exactly.

I think balletshoes has a very good point in post #9 about getting the school involved.

As Balletshoes states, this sort of nasty behaviour aimed at someone in the school system, on social media sites is taken seriously by schools and dealth with as part of their anti-bullying (cyber bullying) policy. I would report it as there have been several teenage suicides attributed mainly to cyber bullying and the advice is to get help for the victim.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/children/10225846/Cyberbullying-suicides-What-will-it-take-to-have-Ask.fm-shut-down.html

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/internet-security/10226237/Childrens-charities-urge-young-people-to-speak-out-against-cyberbullying.html

I know only this week, my DD said a few children in her year were suspended for a period of time, after starting a poll in regard to who were the most popular and least popular children in their class on a social media site.

I also remember a parent in dds primary school who apparently wrote a nasty comment about a teacher being a witch on a facebook comment, who was called into the school and asked to remove it (which she did).

The parent in this case is IMO a nasty bully picking on a child or if given the benefit of the doubt, too stupid to realise the damage cyber bullying can do. it is a particularly nasty form of bullying as it gets a wider than usual audience allowing the victim to be made feel worthless and they are not even safe in their own home as they can view it there. IMO this needs to be dealt with via the school, especially as this is linked to a school trip. If it was me personally I would take a screen shot and attach it to an email to the Head.

fizz

Pollycat wrote: »

Exactly.

Totally disregarding the fact that the OP has no right to ask for opinions only from a certain group, people who don't use social media often have a more balanced view than people who post stuff like they've just had a cup of tea or other trite drivel or 'like' everything that anybody posts.

I'm sick of hearing people - teens and adults - on the bus or in the pub complaining that somebody's slagged them off or blocked them on facebook.

On the subject of the first post - if I were on facebook - I would not start or join in any 'slagging off' of a minor.
I doubt very much that I'd 'friend' any kids other than family.

I think balletshoes has a very good point in post #9 about getting the school involved.

I asked for people who use social media to reply as I thought that they may have experienced something similar in relation to their children.

However, I take your point and am more than happy for any to voice their opinions on this subject.

fizz.x

Pollycat

susancs wrote: »

The parent in this case is IMO a nasty bully picking on a child or if given the benefit of the doubt, too stupid to realise the damage cyber bullying can do. it is a particularly nasty form of bullying as it gets a wider than usual audience allowing the victim to be made feel worthless and they are not even safe in their own home as they can view it there. IMO this needs to be dealt with via the school, especially as this is linked to a school trip. If it was me personally I would take a screen shot and attach it to an email to the Head.

If adults behave in this way, what hope is there that their children will behave any better?

I think the OP should do something constructive about this if she really feels that strongly about it instead of contemplating this approach:

fizz wrote: »

BUT-this was the mother of one of the girls who went on the trip and I found this most upsetting.....actually, no, I was REALLY angry and wanted to tear a right strip off the mom.

fizz

Gingernutty wrote: »

You're right, Dustyblinds, it's more of a Midlands thing.

Correct, although why it matters;)