Should I buy food at a friend's party?

Violetta_2

What if you don't like it, will they give you your money back?

meritaten

I would be ruddy annoyed to be invited to a 'party' and afterwards be told it would cost me £7.
to be told in advance that I could pay £7 to contribute to cost of meal - I would still be annoyed.
I don't organise parties I cant afford. I am old-fashioned and believe in 'hospitality'.
dinner parties should not be commercial enterprises. what the hell is he cooking that costs £7 per head to produce?

BitterAndTwisted

Any pillock who admits to having a "signature dish" when they aren't a professional chef is deserving of derision. As is a "host" who wants to charge their guests for the food provided. This is one party I'd be giving an extremely wide berth. In fact, I'd be giving said pillock a wide berth permanently.

JIL

Is he doing a vegetarian option and will that be cheaper?

ceecee1

I do hate these hypothetical questions posed by MSE staff...

feyaz

This seems like a theoretical questions asked by MSE. Why seed this question - what is the motivation?

You'll obviously pay because you're a good friend but it's out of order. Does he take contactless cards, will he mind if I present my card to his ego? Will the money go to charity? Is he a Michelin starred chef? Can you see the receipts showing his costs? Is there an option to pay only if you like the food? Will he be declaring this income to HMRC?

Pollycat

ceecee1 wrote: »

I do hate these hypothetical questions posed by MSE staff...

Me too.
Some of them end up getting a bit fractious.
Why do MSE do it?

fairy_lights wrote: »

It's not really a party if people have to pay to attend. What is in his signature dish that it costs £7 a head anyway?

Let's have an answer to this question from MSE Nick.

GastroGirl_2

Hosting a party can be expensive and I think it's ok to ask people to contribute but he's gone about it in a really odd way. Instead of asking for cash he should've asked people to bring a dish and a bottle not cash! I think I'd turn up, say I wasn't eating and therefore not paying...

Augustus_the_Strong

Save money by not bringing a bottle. That's normally expected, but maybe our host is generously providing all the booze as you're paying for the food.

catalunya

I am seeing this more and more now amongst my friends.

Went a to Birthday BQQ last year and was asked to bring a part of the food - didnt even get a chance to offer!

This year, was invited to a Baby Shower (something I don't believe in anyway) - and I noticed more than one month later (probably after everyone had RSVP'd) people were asked to contribute a food item to the party! Sadly I was unable to make it...

I agree with all the previous posters - Dont ask people to bring things - its rude - most people tend to offer anyway!