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given a gift but telling people you bought it.
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No its not. I do it all the time!heartbreak_star wrote: »Agreed, it's a really odd thing to do!
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Brighton_belle wrote: »With this added info, I'd change my answer to: we know he doesn't generally want presents and so perhaps felt under pressure to find something for you to give that he would have quite happily bought himself.
Does he have a thing publically about disliking being bought presents that he wants to maintain?
There was certainly no pressure as we'd quite happily decided he didn't want anything (at the time I asked). Like i've always said, if he sees something he buys it, so I think as we're a week away, he saw this and thought well the Mrs might as well buy it as my present. If it was last month or in a month's time he would have just bought it anyway himself. As it was last month when i asked he replied he didn't want anything (because at the time he didn't) if that makes sence.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
In that case, knowing you have a good relationship, I would put it down to the peculiarities of spouses
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Hi all,
Just come back to this, I've somewhat calmed down, but still don't understand it.
To try and answer some questions:
Yes he's my husband
Person he told is a friend of mine too (so not trying to 'hide' me)
The gift was worth £850.00 but even if it was £30 I'd feel the same.
Just find it very odd.
Hubby did find the gift (you may remember thread where he didn't want anything) so that's what we agreed on, then he saw this and said 'ooooo I've found something you can get me', so I thought it was fine and dandy, until I found out he's told his friends he bought it and didn't mention me or the fact it was for his 40th.....
odd.
Sounds like he was shopping by proxy!The report button is for abusive posts, not because you don't like someone, or their opinions0 -
Now knowing it was your husband to say it, I think it's even stranger. I would've thought if he thinks of it as his idea, or if he imagines that he basically bought it anyway because it came from joint money, he would've said something along the lines of "I really wanted it for my hobby so my wife got it for my 40th" or "I chose it as my 40th present". It just seems odd to purposefully omit that. But maybe he didn't do it on purpose; maybe he just said it like that and didn't think about the wording and it didn't mean anything. I do understand how you feel though.0
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How did you find out and has the wording been misinterpreted? My husband bought me a car for my 40th - reality was I desperately needed a new car and we were not well off at all, so it doubled up as s pressie. I probably said "look what we bought us for my 40th". This could be interpreted so many ways by other people.
If you share your money then effectively you both buy everything.Never again will the wolf get so close to my door :eek:0 -
Hubby did find the gift (you may remember thread where he didn't want anything) so that's what we agreed on, then he saw this and said 'ooooo I've found something you can get me', so I thought it was fine and dandy, until I found out he's told his friends he bought it and didn't mention me or the fact it was for his 40th.....
odd.
This was my question too.How did you find out and has the wording been misinterpreted?
Unless you were there to hear what he told his friends, it could have been said very innocently.
And it's not like it was a surprise gift, it was something he decided he'd like after not really wanting anything.
You've pointed out that you didn't like what he said, i'd just leave it at that. Have another coffee. :coffee:0 -
Just to reply to those that asked.
He messaged some people, saw the messages.
No it's not joint money. No joint account etc, we have our seperate accounts/money and just the bills come out of a joint account.
had all the coffee I need yesterday, I'd calmed down by the afternoon, don't understand and just put it down as something rather strange.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
Did you not just ask him why he did it though?0
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I did that and he said he didn't think anything of it and didn't realise i'd be upset.
.Georgiegirl256 wrote: »Did you not just ask him why he did it though?
Yeah course I did, minute I saw them.
Like I say I was annoyed and wondered if other people did this or would find it odd.
It was two days ago, I'm ok now. Just find it very odd.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0
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