given a gift but telling people you bought it.

SavingPennies_2

Sounds like he doesn't want people to know about you, or the significance of your friendship/ relationship, especially of it's an expensive or meaningful gift - sorry.

Threebabes

Very strange.

I think I would feel bemused!

Alikay

What a strange thing for him to do, OP. Personally, the fact that someone had bought the item for me as a gift would make it all the more precious....I'd probably be showing it off in a way I never would if it had been something I'd merely bought for myself!

If it were an item of clothing, perhaps I could understand it up to a point - blokes can be very immature about some things, and he may've not wanted his friends to tease him about you "dressing him" (assuming he's 17, of course ).

Anatidaephobia

I think it's a strange thing to do.

I can't think of any reason why someone would do that unless, as others has said, they don't want people to know who gave them the gift incase they question the relationship or why that person was giving them gifts in the first place. I suppose it's possible the guy is just a bit weird and fancied taking credit himself but that seems like a strange and unnecessary thing to do.

missbiggles1

Is this your husband?

74jax

Hi all,

Just come back to this, I've somewhat calmed down, but still don't understand it.

To try and answer some questions:
Yes he's my husband
Person he told is a friend of mine too (so not trying to 'hide' me)
The gift was worth £850.00 but even if it was £30 I'd feel the same.

Just find it very odd.

Hubby did find the gift (you may remember thread where he didn't want anything) so that's what we agreed on, then he saw this and said 'ooooo I've found something you can get me', so I thought it was fine and dandy, until I found out he's told his friends he bought it and didn't mention me or the fact it was for his 40th.....

odd.

breaking_free

In your shoes the quickest way to get this off your chest is to say to him straight out, "Why are you telling people you bought this for yourself? To be honest I'm quite hurt as I spent a lot of money on that item and you're not giving me any credit for it. Why did you fib like that?"

The key point is that we all like our good deeds to be acknowledged and he is not doing that.

SavingPennies_2

Hmm, in that case it could be embarrassment that his wife bought something worth £850, rather than paying for it himself, like in a silly male pride sort of way - or, he wants to show off, I assume its something expensive looking like a posh watch.

Brighton_belle

With this added info, I'd change my answer to: we know he doesn't generally want presents and so perhaps felt under pressure to find something for you to give that he would have quite happily bought himself.
Does he have a thing publically about disliking being bought presents that he wants to maintain?

74jax

breaking_free wrote: »

In your shoes the quickest way to get this off your chest is to say to him straight out, "Why are you telling people you bought this for yourself? To be honest I'm quite hurt as I spent a lot of money on that item and you're not giving me any credit for it. Why did you fib like that?"

The key point is that we all like our good deeds to be acknowledged and he is not doing that.

I did that and he said he didn't think anything of it and didn't realise i'd be upset. Thing is though, I don't want his friends specifically to think 'ooo look what she's bought' as long as he was happy then fine, I just don't know why he did it and to be honest don't even know why i'm annoyed (although coffee did help and i've calmed down).

SavingPennies wrote: »

Hmm, in that case it could be embarrassment that his wife bought something worth £850, rather than paying for it himself, like in a silly male pride sort of way - or, he wants to show off, I assume its something expensive looking like a posh watch.

No it's nothing like that I don't think, it's his hobby and items cost much more than that, so it's not a 'showing off' type thing. Wouldn't be his pride at all as it's his 40th, and we've bought each other much more that what this is in the past for no reasons really.

I really don't know. Just think it's something I won't understand about him, but at least I'm not alone in finding it strange.