Once a cheater...

bouicca21

Leopards, spots, change, don't, their

Rearrange into a well known phrase or saying, as they used to say on Beat the Clock.

peachyprice

Guest101 wrote: »

This is of course assuming they had a good marriage.

The marriage could be over long before the divorce...

Don't be silly Guest, you know the sole reason for the divorce was because the husband cheated on his poor victim of a wife, it always is.

gonzo127

Guest101 wrote: »

This is of course assuming they had a good marriage.

The marriage could be over long before the divorce...

it also depends on 'how' the adultery occurred, for example

i have separated from my wife and no longer live with her, now she has told me that she has started talking to someone else, which i am actually really happy for her about, however if it turns 'serious' and she does end up sleeping with him, then i will divorce her on the grounds of adultery, just because it means we can push through the divorce quicker and not have to wait around for two years before we can start to progress things.

its not that i actually believe that it is cheating on me, because our marriage has really been over for ages, but more a case of a means to an end so we can draw a line under things, as legally it would still be adultery as we are still legally married

Pollycat

RavingMad wrote: »

Hi

I'm just after people's views on something

A good lady friend of ours has been seeing someone for a while and it's starting to get a bit serious.

The problem I have with him is that his ex-wife divorced him for cheating on her, twice. As the title suggests, I'm under the old saying that a leopard can't change it's spots.

Am I being too harsh in thinking this? Can people change for the right person?

Has your friend expressed any doubts about this man?

Is she aware of his previous 'cheating'?

Are you 100% that he did actually cheat?
Just because his wife divorced him for 'cheating' that doesn't mean that he actually did.

VestanPance

One a cheater, always a cheater.

Joanthebone

Its none of your business who she sees! She is a grown woman and its her life. Be a friend, be there for her if it goes t!ts up, is all you should do.

Rambosmum

Once a cheater always a cheater, usually. It depends why he cheated- some people just aren't committed to a relationship (even if the other person thinks they are) and they don't see it as cheating, and once they are committed they don't cheat. Other people, cheating is just built in to their nature and try as hard as they might to prevent it it can still happen. (Experience of being a cheater, not cheated on).

fivetide

Did he cheat on the ex with your pal?

catkins

Of course people can change but unfortunately it seems most of them don't.


I would never in a million years get involved with someone who cheated on their partner. It's not a matter of if they would do it again it just the fact they did it in the first place. Shows total lack of respect for their partner.

amistupid

I was unfaithful.

amistupid wrote: »

I had affair, it's by far the worst thing I've ever done.

After we separated, for a few months I lived in digs. On my bedside table I had a very small photo of me and my two boys sat together on a rocky outcrop in the Lake District. Every night I used to look at it and think what a wicked fool I'd been and what awful harm I'd caused.

I wrote a poem about it.



There are many reasons why men have affairs but they all have one thing in common, at the time they have must have complete disrespect of their partners.

Affairs are usually sleazy ego boosters that for innocent partners can cause a life time of misery. If a relationship causes you to look elsewhere, you should at least have the decency to finish it before starting another.

I was a scumbag and still regret it everyday.

I suppose it depends on what sort of bloke you are.

Having seen all the misery it caused, I would never cheat again.

They say a leopard never changes it's spots, this cheater has.

The world would be a very sad place if wrongdoers weren't given a second chance.