please help, feeling broody....

Chunters_a_lot

As others have said probably nothing anyone can say will take away that broody feeling.

I have 3, have had my tubes tied and don't want any more BUT I'm still broody for a fourth child

Anyway, family of 5 - disadvantages:

You will need a seven seater - yes you can get three car seats in some 5 seater cars. But its a real nighmare doing it. The novelty wore off really quickly with me!!

Holidays - Once littlest one reaches 2 it is almost impossible to find a hotel room in this country that will sleep 5 people. Bit easier for foreign holidays, but holidays for our family now are not much of choice. Do they do a 5 bedded room? - yes we will go. We don't start the decision making any more with 'Where do we want to go on holiday?' Self catering apartments are generally for 4 or 6. And many companies will charge for 6 adults regardless of the fact that you only a family of 5 with just 2 adults.

'Family tickets' - yes they nearly all are 2 + 2 - AAARRRGHHH!

Sleeping - mine are twins of 5 and littlest one is 3. They still sleep in the same room. They don't want to separated but that won't last too much longer. We have 3 useable bedrooms so someone will be sharing - not sure that is going work out over the years.

Finance - I was planning to send my kids to a private school. When I found out we were having twins I started to rethink, when no. 3 came along it became an impossible dream. For most of us if you want to do something big finacially for your kids (savings plan, pension plan, deposit for their first house, private education etc.) with 1 it is probably doable, 2 a bit of a struggle and 3 much more difficult.

Practical - I often describe my kids as a 'critical mass'. I don't have enough naughty steps:rotfl: I can control 2 but when all 3 are 'playing me up' by the time I have the first two under control the third has either caused problems on their own or is encouraging the one of the other 2 I am not concentrating on - if you see what I mean:rotfl:

We are already struggling with 2 sets of 'homework' from the 5 year olds. Our evenings are at breaking point already during term time.

Like I said if your heart rules your decision, like mine did for no. 3 then you can ignore all this - there are loads of advantages to being a family of 5:T Can someone remind me what they are?:D

ooobedoo

I asked my doctor(who I trust implicitly) and he said it wouldn't be a good idea and said it would not be good for my health, and any other children would be bigger. I actually feel better, when the consultant said he didn't think it a good idea and I dismissed him as he is an arrogant !!!!! DH told me that he didn't really want another one anyway, It's like magic now, I am not broody. I will just have to offer to look after somebody elses baby and that will sort me out!!! Thank you allxxx

Savvy_Sue

It is funny how the feeling goes on and off almost like a tap at times, isn't it? Which is why I said earlier something about how we choose to respond to feelings being quite important ...

Now, am I allowed to be broody for a grandchild yet? I'm after revenge ... :rotfl:

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savvy sue I have a grandchild who is 18 days old and I have been very needed to help out by having him for a couple of hours each day for the last 5 days. The parents are completely worn out. He is a wakeful, active baby. Yes get broody for a grandchild, I did and know that you can give him back when you have had your cuddling time!!!

Savvy_Sue

I guess getting broody for a girlfriend for DS1 would be a good start then ...

DS2 had better get his A levels finished first.

And DS3 is just TOO irresponsible to be allowed to reproduce! Not to mention under-age ...

miserly_mum

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

It is funny how the feeling goes on and off almost like a tap at times, isn't it? Which is why I said earlier something about how we choose to respond to feelings being quite important ...

Now, am I allowed to be broody for a grandchild yet? I'm after revenge ... :rotfl:

i'm 40 with 6 kids (18yrs--18months)and 1 grandchild.In my more lucid moments I know I really don't want anymore children(.A feeling I never had before) If I had given into broodiness over the years i'd have had about 15 children by now. However.....when my daughter gave birth and I saw my gorgeous little grand daughter I really wanted another one......for about a week.Friends have babies, I want another one.....for about a week,and so on and so forth. Like savvy_sue says its on and off.A child is a lifetime responsibility , not taking that pill only takes a few days......

mummy_Jay

My little 3 year old son is broody and he has been now for about 6 months, he goes on and on about having a baby sister and mummy's making him one in her tummy. I should point out I'm not pregnant, I've only just started seeing someone and its way way way to soon to go there may be a few years down the line. Though i will openly admit I want another one at some poiint.

Anyway appart from him having quite a few people convinced I'm pregnant due to the way he goes on about it. He's now started to tell me to hurry up and make him a baby sister, as he's getting me a bottle of milk for her as my christmas present this year.LOL. Bless him.

Has anyone else gone through having there children getting broody for sibblings?

jackieb

mummy_Jay wrote: »

My little 3 year old son is broody and he has been now for about 6 months, he goes on and on about having a baby sister and mummy's making him one in her tummy. I should point out I'm not pregnant, I've only just started seeing someone and its way way way to soon to go there may be a few years down the line. Though i will openly admit I want another one at some poiint.

Anyway appart from him having quite a few people convinced I'm pregnant due to the way he goes on about it. He's now started to tell me to hurry up and make him a baby sister, as he's getting me a bottle of milk for her as my christmas present this year.LOL. Bless him.

Has anyone else gone through having there children getting broody for sibblings?

My eldest son was almost 12 when my 4th (and last) was born. When I told him there was going to be a new baby he went mad, saying there was enough with the 3 of them (the others were 8 and 3 at the time). He threatened to go live with his Grandma. :rotfl: He doesn't like upheaval and he doesn't like sharing a room. When I got the attic converted to a bedroom he did move out for about 3-4 months, and live with my parents until it was finished.

bulchy

My son (now 13) still gets broody even though he knows his dads had the snip and we cant have any more kids. When we told the kids (I also have a 16 year old daughter) that OH was getting the snip 4 years ago, ds went mad, saying that he would never get his baby sister hes always wanted.Whenever we see friends with babies or a relation has a baby, ds is practically in the pram with the baby, I really thought this feeling would wear off him as he got older, but it isnt, and I can see him making me a nana before my daughter. We're hoping to get a kitten from rescue sometime this week, its going to be ds's pet, as we already have 2 dogs and 2 cats, I'm hoping this kitten will calm his broodiness for a good few years.
Sue

poppyscorner

mummy_Jay wrote: »

My little 3 year old son is broody and he has been now for about 6 months, he goes on and on about having a baby sister and mummy's making him one in her tummy. I should point out I'm not pregnant, I've only just started seeing someone and its way way way to soon to go there may be a few years down the line. Though i will openly admit I want another one at some poiint.

Anyway appart from him having quite a few people convinced I'm pregnant due to the way he goes on about it. He's now started to tell me to hurry up and make him a baby sister, as he's getting me a bottle of milk for her as my christmas present this year.LOL. Bless him.

Has anyone else gone through having there children getting broody for sibblings?

DS1 was like this he wanted a sister desperately when I found out I was having DS2 he was not a happy bunny he doesnt make much of a fuss of his brother but misses him when he isnt there so I guess he does love him although last week he told me he liked our dog better than his brother I told him that wasn't very nice and he said well she doesnt cry when spiderman is on.

When I had DS2 everyone I know said ahh well never mind when he was born I would love a girl and will try again at some point but it really annoyed me that people thought he was a disappointment my pregnancies are horrendous my first with a girl went badly wrong and the next two werent much better although the outcome was much better. I will wait a while to psche myself up but I go through those broody spells too.