please help, feeling broody....

jackieb

benood wrote: »

If it's any consolation I reckon that 3 is a lot easier than 4, which is where we'll be in 3 months. New cars (buses) & loft conversion needed.

But there's loads of reasons to stick at 2 - I seldom get a yoghurt nowadays as they're typically sold in 4 packs as are lots of things. With 3 children it's said there's always one left out. Cereal packs seem to empty as soon as they're open. If you're thinking of private education or university costs I don't think you'll get three for the price of two!

Still I'm quite looking forward to number 4, apparently it's the new 2 so my OH keeps saying

When I had 2, I hankered back to when I had just one, as it was so much easier.
When I had 3, I hankered back to when I just had 2, as it was so much easier.
When I had 4, I hankered back to when I just had 3, as it was so much easier.
I just be thankful I don't have 5.

As for the packs of 4 yogurts, just have 4 children and then they get one each. Why spoil them with 2 yogurts each!

(P.S) I wouldn't change it for the world. Sorry, i'm no help.

atton83

i am going to try to put you off having another kid not that its really fair but if you think its a bad idea it probably is

i am 25 and i am unable to have kids cause of my bfs damaged tubes and i would give anything to have a baby in January they have to give my partner an op on his testicles to see if he has any sperm by going directly to the source

think what it would be like if you found out that your partner had a low count you would then have the choice made for you maybe keep that in ur head when you get broody

i am always broody as iv always wanted a kid since i was a little girl but thats another post

think of going in a restaurant you wont be able to have your dinner as you'll be feeding all the kids
your clothes wont fit for 9 months
youll b really tired
think of getting a baby that throws tantrums how would you cope?

always look at the worst cases and hopefully that would put you off :eek:

Becles

I've got 3 children and I love it. It is hard work but it's very rewarding.

I'm really broody for number 4 at the moment.

Alikay

I tried to put myself off having No 3 by selling all the baby stuff when No 2 was about 18 months old. Not particularly effective or MSE:- just ended up having to buy the stuff all over again when we gave in and were expecting the third baby a few months later!

Why don't you just wait a year and see if you're still keen to continue breeding then? We felt pressurised to stop at 2 as we got one of each sex, but we really wanted 3 and were prepared for the extra work, bigger house and expense.

crispeater

nikolacarter wrote: »

think of going in a restaurant you wont be able to have your dinner as you'll be feeding all the kids
your clothes wont fit for 9 months
youll b really tired
think of getting a baby that throws tantrums how would you cope?

always look at the worst cases and hopefully that would put you off :eek:

that sounds like me and my family already and i only have 2 lol plus 4 years after my 1st was born i still cant fit into those old clothes :rotfl:

i have 1 of each and im constantly being told i should be happy as i have 1 of each but like so many others have said when the my dd was born there was no instant love it took some time to bond with her but i love her dearly. when ds was born it was instant! and i wanted another straight away, he's 2 next month and i still want more. i actually would like 4 children but i dont think financially it would be possible and my children currently want for nothing and i think with 4 there would be a struggle, with 3 even there would be a struggle. i really dont fancy having to buy a new car. im not keen on people carriers or the smaller versions and you cant fit 3 carseats in the back of a 'normal' car.


o/t though hope your bfs op goes well :grouphug: and i do apologise if at any time in my post i have appeared insensitive, that was not my intention

kathy206

Hi
There must be something in the air as I am as broody as hell also I have 2 DS's one is 14months the other 9years old and EVERYONE around me is ruddy pregnant!!! :eek:
(including sis in law who I know will be portrayed as earth mother of year when she has her baby, I love her to bits but you'd think she was the only woman in the world to have a baby according to MIL lol) :rolleyes:
I keep thinking maybe one more... youngest is growing up fast... but I am 35years old now and it took us 5 years to get our youngest (had just about given up lol) we are just about stable financially and my mum told me that having my youngest sister (unplanned,but obviously much wanted 3rd child) nearly ruined them financially,when I discussed it with her. Saying that, we had a really happy childhood.
I can't offer any more than other posters all practical stuff seems to have been said, other than if your doctor warns you against it for health reasons then maybe you should think carefully. 3 sections is a lot to put your body thru hun.
Best wishes
Kathyx

Tashja

Not really much help but I am pregnant with no3 and this pregnancy has been sooo hard !!!!

WhenI was pregnant for the 1st time I slept when I needed to and rested loads, pregnant with no2 and a toddler I rested as much as I could but nowhere near enough now pregnant with no3 and a 6 year old and a 4 year old and I am getting no rest at all !!!!

Also worried about who is going to look after the other 2 whilst I am in hospital.

Als toll of 3rd pregnancy - I have SPD this time and its not easy being big with the other 2 kids running around.

Also the comments from the 4 and 6 year old - i.e.
DS - "mummy why is you tummy big"
Me - "I have a baby in there making my tummy bigger"
DS - "Is there a baby in your bum too then"
Me - ***stunned silence"**

Still again though I wouldn't change anything !!!

T xx

keelykat

Hehe you remind me of my sister! but guess what she did? had another! she now has three, and i keep saying-i hope you aren't going to get broody again! Mad thing is, she is feeling broody again already...not a good idea for her! (she had c-sections with all three by the way, but not through choice....long story.)

keely.

keelykat

Tashja wrote: »

Not really much help but I am pregnant with no3 and this pregnancy has been sooo hard !!!!

WhenI was pregnant for the 1st time I slept when I needed to and rested loads, pregnant with no2 and a toddler I rested as much as I could but nowhere near enough now pregnant with no3 and a 6 year old and a 4 year old and I am getting no rest at all !!!!

Also worried about who is going to look after the other 2 whilst I am in hospital.

Als toll of 3rd pregnancy - I have SPD this time and its not easy being big with the other 2 kids running around.

Also the comments from the 4 and 6 year old - i.e.
DS - "mummy why is you tummy big"
Me - "I have a baby in there making my tummy bigger"
DS - "Is there a baby in your bum too then"
Me - ***stunned silence"**

Still again though I wouldn't change anything !!!



T xx

:rotfl: aren't kids funny!

cheekyweegit

Hiya,

I'm a single mum to 3 sons born in 3 years 3 months of each other.

There's 18 months between my oldest and second son, and 20 between my second and my youngest, 3 years 3 months between the oldest and youngest.

I actually find it harder with them now as teenagers (They are 17, almost 14 and 15 1/2) as they are more demanding, and boy can they eat for Scotland and who says it's girls who produce the hoards of washing. Mine save it up for me and just don't realise the washing machine, dishwasher too live in the kitchen and never move from there and thus this is where their dirty stuff should end up and it doesn't get there by it's own steam. Another rant for another thread perhaps.

As for when they were little, yes it was hard work especially as I separated from my hubby when youngest was just turned one and oldest four. Hardest part then was the nursery run and I had no car and was making several trips to the nursery daily with the oldest two as one was full time before going to school, and the other part time. This was whilst preggers with number three, then with him as a baby / toddler.

Again the fun began when again no car, I was doing a similar trip but this time it was the school and nursery. I used to take my bike and the kids loved being picked up on this and brought down the road on the handle bars / cross bar. They still have fond memories of this.

As for when I did get a car, I had 3 car seats in the back comfortably, but these were the ones which were fitted by kwik fit at the time and I think are smaller than the car seats you get now. This was in an old X reg Astra and a volvo 340 which of course was a bit bigger than the astra, but a pain as it only had two doors.

It was fun and games running around for them, getting ready to go places was no mean feat in itself and took military precision at times. Would I do it again? Yes and I'd have the same gap, or even less between my kids given half the chance.

Am I broody? Yes still get broody on and off and I'm 39 now, single so alas no more babies for me.

I'm sorry I can't put you off, but I love it and if there is a bad thing, I'd say middle child syndrome does exist and can be a bit of a pain at times. They can feel insecure and put out by their other siblings as they are not the oldest for doing things, and feel they are not the baby who in some families get spoilt and get away with things and they do need a lot more reasurance. Others with 3 children can confirm what I mean with this.

Good luck in whatever you deside to do.

Oh finally, I live in a 3 bedroom semi and they shared a room up until a couple of years ago, their choice, not mine, and even now the oldest has his own room, you often find them all pilled in the same room together.

PS Just because I have 3 sons, like many others I do not have a secret longing for a daughter. Those who keep saying this to me, I want to strangle and feel it's an insult to my 3 sons.

I'm sure those of you who get a similar thing with an all girl family feel the same, and for those of you with a mixed family under pressure, tell them well it's a new sibling you want but a frog this time!

Good luck nikola by the way.Edit - Another good thing about 3 kids is if they fall out with one sibling they always have the other to play with until they all kiss and make up so to speak. Works wonders in this house.