please help, feeling broody....

jackieb

cheekyweegit wrote: »

Hiya,

PS Just because I have 3 sons, like many others I do not have a secret longing for a daughter. Those who keep saying this to me, I want to strangle and feel it's an insult to my 3 sons.

I'm sure those of you who get a similar thing with an all girl family feel the same, and for those of you with a mixed family under pressure, tell them well it's a new sibling you want but a frog this time!

I think that some people are so rude. I had 3 boys too. I had always planned on having 4, and I would have still stopped if number 4 had been another boy. I think it's terrible when someone says to a new mother, 'aw, it's a shame' when they've had a same sex baby as before. Even if you have no preference eitherway, other people make you feel as if you're under pressure to produce something different! :mad:

winnie81

If your broody your welcome to my 12 mth old who's awake for 16 hrs a day and wakes 5-6 times a night or would you like my 6 yr old who still gets up 3 times a night

Oh to think number 4 will be here in 11 wks I must be mad - Maybe I'll settle with the first 3 monkeys and send you number 4 when it comes :rotfl:

But practicality's are bigger house, bigger car, bigger furniture etc etc and not to mention more expensive holidays, weekly food shopping etc etc

Claire x

ooobedoo

...Nope....hasn't even touched the sides, still broody as before

Pinklepurr

My two children are now at school and there's no way I want any more! Once they were both out of nappies and at playgroup a couple of mornings a week I realised that I didn't want to go back to the sleepless nights and colic that my daughter had! Now they are both at school, I have returned to work (P/T term time) and feel that I am doing something for myself after 8 years. The children are old enough that we can go travelling abroad or stay up late and we're not tied to a strict routine. Life seems more adventurous now and it is no longer a foggy haze of feeding, crying and tantrums, and toddler groups! We have some freedom back - does that tempt you?

[Deleted User]

I have 3 children now adults. I realised that 3 was enough and my dh had the snip. That was in 1978. I didn`t get that broody afterwards because the opportunity was gone and that helped and anyway I was very busy child-rearing

The broody thing is in the head and it can be so completely illogical. I am getting on for 60 and obviously well through the menopause. My dd has just produced my first grandchild and I have had a quick cuddle and I know that will be it now for a little while. I am keeping away on purpose. I feel an ache in me too and I know it is purely psychological but at least I have no decision to make.

so hard for you young mums. I empathise

Becles

cheekyweegit wrote: »

PS Just because I have 3 sons, like many others I do not have a secret longing for a daughter. Those who keep saying this to me, I want to strangle and feel it's an insult to my 3 sons.

I have 2 boys and had a baby girl in May. So many people have said I'm lucky for getting a girl this time, and it makes me cross. I'm lucky because I have 3 lovely children and it doesn't matter to me what sex they are.

Would have been more MSE to have a boy as I've had to buy all pink things now :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

Remember, every cute little baby grows into a 2 year old. If they didn't, I'd be having them still ...

And MOST of those cute little babies grow into teenagers! Of which I have 3, 2 planned and one happy surprise ... All taller than me, all able to eat for England, and the youngest is a lazy blighter ... I so agree with brummiebabe: I think DS2 really did miss out in the blur of PND. And I do think 'odd' numbers are awkward: if there's 4 of you, you'll pair up, but if there's only 3 of you then 2 of you are always ganged up on the other.

However, I don't think any of this will touch your broodiness, oobedoo. I was broody within days of producing DS1 and DS2, but after DS3 it had all gone. Obviously it doesn't for everyone.

The thing is, we learn to resist other 'feelings' - some better than others. I see a bargain - but I don't really NEED it, so I don't buy it. I may wish later I'd bought it, but I don't waste a lot of time brooding about it. We may feel randy - some of us more often than others - but if the love of our life isn't on hand to share that feeling with us, most of us get on with the washing up or whatever.

Do you see what I'm saying? You may feel broody, and the feelings are very real, but you can either let them rule your head, or not.

And I put my hand up: I'd have LOVED a girl, but not enough to do it again! Tubes tied ...

ooobedoo

One comment that really made me think, was the regreting one, like I won;t regret not having another baby but I will regret not having one....I gestational diabetes with DD apparently, even though I was doing blood tests all the time and if anything it was low. DD was in the special care baby unit coz her lungs were underdeveloped, she was a monster compared to the dinky ones

bella4uk

I'm mum to 6....I would say if you have another one fairly soon it wouldn't make too much difference.....
problem starts when you get broody again!!!!

cazziebo

Don't! Babies eventually turn into teenagers!

Get separate beds now!