Hygiene of friends

pollypenny

Pidge_jen wrote: »

Sounds exactly a house i encounter!
Picture: 2 massive dogs, and thirty-forty other creatures including parrots, lizards, rabbits and guinea pigs, all in the house :eek:
They are a bit of a clutter fiend too so every conceivable surface is covered in stuff and dust and dog hair and parrot droppings :eek:. I'm totally baffled about where they prepare food as every kitchen surface is covered in, well, stuff! Thing is, they are actually a really good cook. I just tell my immune system to buckle up for its monthly workout whenever we eat there. :rotfl: though I'm putting my foot down when I'm pregnant and will eat before I go or have uncontrollable nausea which means I can't possibly eat there.
They was actually appalled that we make an effort to tidy and clean every surface here before we have guests, including them. They said, well we don't bother....inwardly I went, you don't say!?!?! :rotfl:

This reminds me of a child in the first programme, Born Naughty. Her house was cluttered and chaotic like this. She was sharing a messy bedroom with three siblings.

Then she was diagnose with 'Acute Anxiey Syndrome'. There was never a suggestion of sorting the place out to help her.

Pidge_jen

pollypenny wrote: »

This reminds me of a child in the first programme, Born Naughty. Her house was cluttered and chaotic like this. She was sharing a messy bedroom with three siblings.

Then she was diagnose with 'Acute Anxiey Syndrome'. There was never a suggestion of sorting the place out to help her.

Believe me, everyone has tried to help this person. They don't think they have a problem! At least there are no kids involved here and the person holds down a full time job, in the care sector.

fierystormcloud

pollypenny wrote: »

This reminds me of a child in the first programme, Born Naughty. Her house was cluttered and chaotic like this. She was sharing a messy bedroom with three siblings.

Then she was diagnose with 'Acute Anxiety Syndrome'. There was never a suggestion of sorting the place out to help her.

I know, I saw this. I believe that her 'condition' (and that of many children like her,) is largely due to the environment and the upbringing.

Too many children are labelled with 'disorders' and 'conditions' these days at the drop of a hat, and you can literally see the parents jumping for joy when their child is 'labelled.' Because then they have an excuse and a reason for their child's disruptive and in some cases uncontrollable behaviour.

And it's always the same kind of families too.

I would love just once, for one of these 'experts' to say 'actually,there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with your child; you just have very poor parenting skills.'

Why do they never say this?

That show does my head in - and shows like it; they always find some condition to label the child with, when in most cases, it is down to the environment, and poor parenting skills.

mumps

I interviewed someone for a care job once. I asked if they were good at housework, his face went white and he started to explain why his house wasn't at its best. I had to reassure him I wasn't going to go round and do an inspection.

mumps

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I know, I saw this. I believe that her 'condition' (and that of many children like her,) is largely due to the environment and the upbringing.

Too many children are labelled with 'disorders' and 'conditions' these days at the drop of a hat, and you can literally see the parents jumping for joy when their child is 'labelled.' Because then they have an excuse and a reason for their child's disruptive and in some cases uncontrollable behaviour.

And it's always the same kind of families too.

I would love just once, for one of these 'experts' to say 'actually,there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with your child; you just have very poor parenting skills.'

Why do they never say this?

That show does my head in - and shows like it; they always find some condition to label the child with, when in most cases, it is down to the environment, and poor parenting skills.

Didn't they tell the mother in the first episdoe that it was her not the little boy?

pollypenny

mumps wrote: »

Didn't they tell the mother in the first episdoe that it was her not the little boy?

Yes, they did. The little boy was totally different with his grandmother, while mother lounged in bed.

She was taught some structured approaches to parenting him.

She could have listened to her own mother, eh? :cool:

mumps

pollypenny wrote: »

Yes, they did. The little boy was totally different with his grandmother, while mother lounged in bed.

She was taught some structured approaches to parenting him.

She could have listened to her own mother, eh? :cool:

That's right, they definitely aren't giving every child a diagnosis.

FatVonD

Re eating the sandwiches, you could tell them you are coeliac though you run the risk of them buying gluten free bread the next time. Probably best to follow the suggestion of an earlier poster and develop al love of the local pub quiz and just see them there.

I can't believe anyone would have a cat litter tray on the kitchen worktop, are you sure they hadn't just bought or cleaned it? We have one in our downstairs loo and also a covered one in the garden and they stink to high heaven!

AmyTurtle

My grandparent's house is filthy and covered in dog hair. It used to be immaculate as my grandad did all the cleaning and was very houseproud. He is now bed-bound/wheelchair bound and his wife by her own admission is just not that bothered about the place being clean and tidy. It has deteriorated over the years, it's now over 10 years since his stroke and I never eat or drink there. Even before the stroke they have always let their dogs drink tea dregs out their mugs and leftovers from their dinner plates. My mum and I have offered help to step-gran but she doesn't want it and gets a bit offended, although she will accept help with the garden. She sometimes mentions that she's hoovered as if she wants a medal for it! It's not an age thing either as step-gran is only a few years older than my mum.
They have asked me to look after their dog overnight at the end of the month and I have already had to say I'm happy to check on it at night and in the morning, but there is now way in hell I could sleep there. I feel itchy just thinking about it!

On the other hand, my stepmum is a professional cleaner and has a dog who moults, however you would think it was a show home and no one lived there, let alone a dog! It's just always been immaculate.

My dad is a tradesman and worked for the local housing association for years, I once went with him to a property where a couple kept 2 pot bellied pigs in their living room, each had a sofa of their own to lounge on. The smell was incredible. What my dad calls the kind of house where you wipe your feet on the way out

DSmiffy

A neighbour of mine had an immaculate house, always spotless and very clean, they had a dog too but there were no pet hairs on the furniture.

One day she invited me over for a coffee and I sat in her kitchen while she opened the dishwasher to get a couple of mugs out. the dishwasher was crammed with clean, washed crockery and sat in the middle of it all, in the bottom rack, was a toilet brush !!! Blerrrggghhhh.