one day at a time

safehouse

Hi Tallgirl,
Yes I can totally relate, I hate the uncertainty the tip toeing around the house, trying not to make too much noise and walking on egg shells, also the knot in the stomach feeling....(you probably experienced that as well).... something I could easily live without..Although I know material things are what they are just things and the house bricks and mortar with me its the fear of change, leaving and starting a fresh, you must be a very strong person to have made that step, I hope to get my strength and confidence built up again as it once was. OH has a Doc appointment the end of the month only a few days away but although it is a positive step I am dreading it....so have decided to start painting the hallway and numerous other jobs around the house.... best to keep my mind busy Xx ........................

safehouse

Lovely morning again....sun shining, shouldn't complain but missing the rain drops to be honest, enjoy listening to the tip tapping om my window.
Still waiting on customers invoice payment....should pay today fingers crossed.
£10 into EF this morning, have taken from food shop so have to stick under budget
My auction items are doing really well, but I wont be putting full proceeds into mortgage, DS needs new specs and the ones I am using are well not exactly flattering....so we are off to the opticians this afternoon, I deserve a treat and specysavers 2 for 1 quite excited for the treat :D
Meeting my beautiful DMama this morning bless she's 82 and what a trooper out everyday.
Didn't have time to do the food shop yesterday so will do today, make sure I eat before I go Lol....:o
Oh yesterday experimented on all my left over matt emulsions mixed about 4 different shades of beige, one magnolia and one a darker shade of brown they were mainly left overs from rooms years gone by then inc the two bargain £3 tins bought on the flea market and wow what a smashing colour result I got....almost thrown them out now I have enough emulsion to do living-room and hallway and all with a very exclusive colour of my own....clever me haha :T.

DS 0…. CC B £1,560/ CC S £1,600/ CC A £100....£3,270 total …. Mortgage £100,000 /£66,210 paid £33,950 remaining….EF..170.00 total....(Total 66,380)..........()

safehouse

Very expensive day yesterday....overspent on food shop by £15 Bad
Optician for me.... 2 new pair of specs plus new tinted lenses in previous frames £180 (designer frames got carried away )....justified by the fact I never buy myself anything new, always buy for the house or DS or OH so surly its my turn.....Arhhh still not convinced myself.
Optician DS also 2 new pair of specs £135 very nice designer frames though.
DS jacket £45 ....justified by not giving him till either birthday or Xmas
DS Tshirt and earring only £8 for both again put away for Xmas....;)
Grand total of £368, now the worse part of the spending have put all on my CC.....I know Bad, Bad, Bad....physically couldn't bare to touch my mortgage money...justified in my mind by being 0% CC.
Now for some better news I have made a nice total of £268 on my auction items so softened the blow quite a bit.....really needed to give myself a serious talk into paying back off cc but to late have thrown majority £210 into mortgage....did pay £40 off cc and promise to try and pay more in the future.
Still awaiting invoice payment from customer ....late as always :mad:
Also trying to get underpayment from customer whom paid cash in envelope pushed through our letterbox, now the payment was £40 short and this was 3 months ago....so angry professional lady a nurse I believe....thought it strange how she bolted back to her car after plonking the envelope through the door, anyway have sent her nice reminders, text message's but nothing and would cost more to take her to small claims, which I would love to do....these people have no morals annoyed:mad::mad::mad::mad:
On the home front OH is doing really well and trying hard, we have been getting on lots better, no arguments which is strange but nice.....now as I am typing I am hoping I don't eat these very words to soon .
Off to the carbooty this morning with Dmama and then usual lunch.
4 days to go for foot freedom......oh no more lugging heavy boot around :T

DS 0…. CC B £1,560/ CC S £1,600/ CC A £500....£3,600 total …. Mortgage £100,000 /£66,420 paid £33,580 remaining….EF..170.00 total....(Total 66,590)..........()

TallGirl

Enjoy your new glasses it's part of being able to feel good about yourself so totally the right thing to spend on. Plus you made all that money on the actions that more than pays for the glasses. Start treating yourself is what I say even more as you have had such a rubbish time with your foot.

My mantra is when I'm spending some money that is a bit of a treat as long as it's a good deal e.g I couldn't get it cheaper else where (or it would be more hassle - time is money e.g time off work to wait for delivery etc) then I go for it. Discounts cash backs all of that is just natural something I now check.

Glad your OH is behaving probable the doctors appointment that looming that has an influence. Something Avalon said to me was that an alcoholic always lies about how much they drink. They become experts at hiding it or doing things that makes you not see it. I didn't believe that I really thought I had got him down to three beers a day even when I could go out for an hour at the gym and he was totally !!!!ed by the time I got back. I recon he had a hidden bottle of whiskey but I didn't want to look as I didn't want to know accept I couldn't control it. I hope this is not the case for you I do really hope he's really trying.

Take care and take it easy it's the weekend you're allowed a break.

safehouse

Totally agree tallgirl…….. on both points, I am glad I bought my new specs....funny how when choosing DS new frames, the cost just didn't bother me....guess I am just not used to spending such large amounts on myself.
As for OH, my thought is he is trying hard to prove to me and Doc he is capable of keeping sober, and probably worried about expected future tests......I am just praying he is strong enough to keep this up....one day at a time..........:)
Oh and had a great weekend, haven't been able to say that for a long time....:D

Huskyrunner

re your oh

its bloody hard too do i am testimony too that i used too drink like a fish cutting back is hard. I can't drink now because of some meds i am on.

The hardest part is getting family too be supportive my partner is but my friends and dad don't get it. If i drink plus 2 lagers on guiness i feel like i have had ten unless i skip my meds. By the sound of things your super supportive i hope your partner gets there.

I still drink the way i get round it is by drinking shandy half and halfs, its crap i have too do this but i lie too my parents/friends and i go too the bar on my own and order my own drinks. It looks like i am drinking the same as the guys but i aint.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Glad you had a good weekend, I know how massive that will feel to you Xx

safehouse

Oh Thankyou Lucky nice to hear from you, yes I am hoping for more good weekends to come. How are things at your end hope you are doing well also Xx

Thanks Husky....I try to be supportive but its not easy at times trust me, I know he finds it hard all addictions are difficult to curb. You must have found it difficult but you had the willpower and well done..... your partner must be very proud of you. I totally agree about some family members not being supportive, my OH is on medication for his blood pressure and has been told by his GP to cut back his drinking but still his family will buy him bottles of whisky. It feels as though sometimes my support is wasted as I am not only fighting against OH addiction but also fighting against the very people who are supposed to be his loving family......makes no sense....
Good to hear you are not giving in, your choice after-all and there nothing wrong with drinking shandy, especially if its getting them off your back.... Well Done x

safehouse

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

Glad you had a good weekend, I know how massive that will feel to you Xx

Oh Thankyou Lucky nice to hear from you, yes I am hoping for more good weekends to come. How are things at your end hope you are doing well also Xx

Huskyrunner

safehouse wrote: »

Oh Thankyou Lucky nice to hear from you, yes I am hoping for more good weekends to come. How are things at your end hope you are doing well also Xx

Thanks Husky....I try to be supportive but its not easy at times trust me, I know he finds it hard all addictions are difficult to curb. You must have found it difficult but you had the willpower and well done..... your partner must be very proud of you. I totally agree about some family members not being supportive, my OH is on medication for his blood pressure and has been told by his GP to cut back his drinking but still his family will buy him bottles of whisky. It feels as though sometimes my support is wasted as I am not only fighting against OH addiction but also fighting against the very people who are supposed to be his loving family......makes no sense....
Good to hear you are not giving in, your choice after-all and there nothing wrong with drinking shandy, especially if its getting them off your back.... Well Done x

I think being honest you need too have a frank discussion with his family but its whether your other half would accept you doing that.

I take a great medication too help with bipolar but if i mix it with alcohol in large quantities it acts
as well a tranquilliser last time i had 4 pints i slept 16 hours straight. With me i was working nights and for 4 days i wouldnt drink, but on my days off i was drinking 8 guiness a night and shorts.

I hope your fella gets there safehouse