Is he shy, or a gentleman, or just not interested?

Georgiegirl256

NewShadow wrote: »

Hi Georgie, sorry if it sounds shallow - I've only ever dated guys 6 foot+ before - It just feels a bit weird to date someone that's shorter than me when I'm in my boots.

I'm not sure if the fact this makes me a touch uncomfortable (I don't own flats other than stinky running shoes), is making my body language tell him to back off?

Sorry if it came out abit harshly! I'm tired and things may come out abit bluntly! I guess if you're used to taller blokes, it'll be strange, but just judge him on his personality rather than his height.

He sounds lovely and charming, and as you've only been on a few dates so far, it's probably hard to judge for sure if there is chemistry there yet?

I think it's a lot harder for men nowadays to get the balance right. I think a lot of men are more wary these days about trying it on too soon, coming across as a letch and scaring their date off.

Lunar_Eclipse

You've only met twice! I wouldn't expect anything different personally. What's the rush?

onlyroz

Regarding the online dating thing, I think it's OK to date a few people at once in the early stages - there'll be a point where you decide to go exclusively with one of them, but it doesn't sound like you're at that point yet with either of these guys.

missbiggles1

Have you been in the situation where things could've been taken forward, dates close to each other's homes etc?

DUTR

onlyroz wrote: »

Regarding the online dating thing, I think it's OK to date a few people at once in the early stages - there'll be a point where you decide to go exclusively with one of them, but it doesn't sound like you're at that point yet with either of these guys.

Perhaps the OPis one of several dates and he hasn't decided which one to try it on with yet?

System

theoretica wrote: »

You could just ask him - asking about a potential relationship seems reasonable when you found each other on a dating website.

That's a bit forward.:rotfl:

catoutthebag

I have quickly read your first post so will pick up on couple points

Firstly, you've only met twice and you're shocked he hasn't touched you? I assume you've hugged but wanted more? Perhaps 1 or 2 dates soon from my perspective.

Secondly, I get the height thing. I'm a shortish (but not tiny) bloke so get this. I've dated women 6 inches to maybe an inch shorter. Not felt an issue with it. Depends how much of often you like wearing heels and how he felt about it. Personally 2-4 inches shorter is my perfect height and I'd feel a little self conscious being same or very similar height, heels or not, but definitely not deal breaker all things being well.

catoutthebag

Cinema is terrible for 1st or 2nd meet. It's at least reserved for meet number 5!

catoutthebag

DUTR wrote: »

Perhaps the OPis one of several dates and he hasn't decided which one to try it on with yet?

I think he's finding out which one of his several dates is more challenging. Men like the chase. OP is giving this bloke no chase by doing the work for them. They quickly lose interst then because they like what they can't have or find a challenge getting.

Hoipolloi

I think you expect too much too soon, at this early stage you are both just starting to figure out if you like one another at all.