The strange emotions of realising two colleagues are having an affair

PeacefulWaters

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I agree. Why on earth would any man consider telling their wife this?

In this case however, maybe he should tell her, so she can move on and find a good man who deserves her, rather than someone who sits there fantasising that he is having it away with a work colleague, and is jealous of someone who IS doing it.

Pretty disgusting IMO.

Ooh blow it all out of context if you like.

Thanks for that!

Money_maker

I dont see any harm in you thinking about it and having a little fantasy. Acting on it like these two would be the stupid thing to do. You sound more bored at work than bored in your marriage.

Mojoworking

I get you. I'm glad you've said and I think we all have urges to say or do something to fix things we know are not right but as you said you won't be.

My colleague I really looked up to and she started having an affair with a man much lower down the pecking order and inside I lost a large amount of respect for her.

She left her husband etc he never left his wife. She was very philosophical and said well she couldn't have been very happy in the first place. So she moved even higher up and worked all over thr world.

2 years later another colleague rang and sai she'd been in a meeting with him and it was really embarrassing as he had been pawing a women in it. He must just be that way but I did spare a few thoughts for his wife and kids the first colleagues husband and kids and wonder if he was aware of the ripples of damage it sends out.

Nowt as queer as folk x

girlycara

As a woman who has been one part of an affair, I'd say keep quiet, if any of my friends did know about my affairs then so be it, but I don't want any of them to be interfering in what I get up to

moneyistooshorttomention

Judi wrote: »

..... its none of your business... why get involved?

There was certainly plenty of that in my last office....

That's the view that got taken overall. There were two instances, to my knowledge, of people taking action over other peoples private lives.

One was when two people were competing with each other for a promotion and one of them was fortunate enough to catch his rival out at a very "inconvenient time";) and duly spread the message around in order to make sure he was the one that got that promotion.

The other one was when a particularly unpopular supervisor was having an affair with an office colleague. She was caught out and lots of people made sure that message got round in the hope she would leave. She did leave:D.

Hence - I still take the view that its none of my business, as long as those people are "keeping their nose clean" about not mis-treating their colleagues....

yvonne13_2

OP I would just like to say well done for keeping your feelings real.

Is it possible you could be feeling jelous because you feel as you're getting older females don't look at you the way they once did? From what you wrote I don't think it's personal, but more a case off why are women not finding me attractive anymore. Being jelous of a close friendship/possible affair is saying more about you as a person. I honestly don't think you're jelous of the possible situation more a case of "If only I was young"

Sorry if I'm wrong, but I think you and your wife should plan a long weekend break away so you can both put some sparks back into your relationship.

PeacefulWaters

yvonne13 wrote: »

OP I would just like to say well done for keeping your feelings real.

Honesty is a good starting point, I find. But perhaps not too much honesty on the final point.

Is it possible you could be feeling jelous because you feel as you're getting older females don't look at you the way they once did?

I'm not sure they ever did look at me. I was never quite an Adonis!

From what you wrote I don't think it's personal, but more a case off why are women not finding me attractive anymore. Being jelous of a close friendship/possible affair is saying more about you as a person. I honestly don't think you're jelous of the possible situation more a case of "If only I was young"

There is a lot in that. I suspect being in affair would kill me with the stress of deception!

Sorry if I'm wrong, but I think you and your wife should plan a long weekend break away so you can both put some sparks back into your relationship.

Ah, that would need buy-in!

Jagraf

By crikey ... If I told my Hubbie everything that went on in my head :eek:

Please don't. She won't know what do do with the information.

And neither should you get involved in "office politics"

Randomjargon

Tell her you love her. Cracking advice

moneyistooshorttomention

Randomjargon wrote: »

Tell her you love her. Cracking advice

There might be a slight snag there....

He may - or may not...