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dancingfairy wrote: »It's horrible though. I think everyone has their own tolerance levels and what noise they can accept. Some people aren't bothered by living near a road but would be bothered by a baby crying next door. It's so subjective.
Unfortunately it doesn't sound like he's doing anything wrong and it doesn't sound like it would be reasonable for him to adapt his behaviour, it sounds like a problem with the sound proofing so the balls in your court, really
Personally I'd probably look at shelling out for the extra insulation if I was going to live there and the noise was bothering me if I could afford it. Somethings are worth paying for.
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Thanks - I'll reconsider insulation depending how it is.
But I think it's because he's got the music so loud on the 2-3 times mentioned that sound proofing wouldn't have helped me sleep still. At a daytime the music is quite faint and that's OK because whatever insulation there is is working.
But when music is that loud. ...no normal wall insulation could cut it down that much.
Hope things stay couple times a month and no more and that my jelly ear plugs work like they did on occasion number 20 -
I think your neighbour sounds like a decent enough bloke. He did let you know he was having friends round, and he did say to knock if it was too loud.
Now, if you think it is too loud, but don't knock to let him know, he's going to think that the level his music is playing at is ok, and you're going to have to keep using earplugs or going to stay at your parent's house.
Yep if I didn't have a flight I would have stayed with the plugs...and certainly would have knocked if the plugs didn't work
I think it's good that he's (for the first time) warned me (given as I said I've never brought up sound problem with him)0 -
I second the suggestion to put the earplugs in routinely when you think there might be a problem. I wear mine every night because MrHB snores.0
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I second the suggestion to put the earplugs in routinely when you think there might be a problem. I wear mine every night because MrHB snores.
I don't want to get reliant on them to the point where I need pin drop silence to sleep (as I don't)..but will probably just stick them in if I get woken up or if he informs me again0 -
I second the suggestion to put the earplugs in routinely when you think there might be a problem. I wear mine every night because MrHB snores.catoutthebag wrote: »I don't want to get reliant on them to the point where I need pin drop silence to sleep (as I don't)..but will probably just stick them in if I get woken up or if he informs me again
what earplugs do you use?
I find most are uncomfortable.0 -
Bioears silicone as recommended here
Never had the need for plugs before ever
But these were snug as a bug...come in 3 pairs0 -
The joys of living in a flat I'm afraid.
We had a right (text removed by MSE Forum Team) living above us, TV on loud, abuse if we confronted him etc. He passed away eventually, so we got some peace!
Same in our terraced house, but with parties and horrible children.
The only way I managed to get away from it was by buying a detached house - it's not ideal as it takes a lot of money that could be spent elsewhere, but at last we have peace.0 -
catoutthebag wrote: »Bioears silicone as recommended here
Never had the need for plugs before ever
But these were snug as a bug...come in 3 pairs
yeah tried tho, have to agree they are comfy, can't say I noticed much sound reduction with them tho? same with wax plugs, comfy,not much help with blocking sound.0 -
I am also hypersensitive to noise, and this leads to being anxious about it happening, which doesn’t help you sleep either so it is a vicious circle sometimes.
However it does seem like he is trying his best to be accommodating. You say that he runs out when there is a door opened. Perhaps he is waiting for you to arrive back to ensure you know what is happening. Sounds like he is conscious about making noise, but understands that ANY noise will be heard and all he can do is warn you. You have 6 weeks experience of this and he has well over a year.0 -
For what it's worth I think that over time you'll find that you may learn to relax a bit and it won't bother you so much.
I live next door to an alchoholic who regularly passes out with his radio booming (so much so that I could hear every word!). After a couple of attempts to talk to him he got rather abusive - I'm very envious that your chap keeps it to the weekends and is polite enough to give you the heads up beforehand. We are all entitled to live our lives and, this includes making some noise at times, it's just a part of living in close proximity to one another.
In the end I installed some cladding on that side of the house which only took up a couple of inches of space. While it didn't stop the sound altogether it did deaden it and now I don't listen out for it all the time it doesn't get to me.
As others have said, once on the weekend seems quite reasonable to have friends over and let his hair down. I imagine you will have friends over in the future (I saw on another forum that you were looking for love so he might be the one putting ear plugs in when your headboard is knocking!!!)
Why don't you ask him out to the pub for a quiet drink one time - you could get to know him better, build a rapport and, who knows, you could be joining him for one of his weekend get together's and making some noise0
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