How to catch a thief in the house.

merlin68

No one visits here, out in the sticks.

Better_Days

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

To be fair, it sounds unlikely it is the younger girl - sorry if this sounds accusatory, but it is what i would think if it were me

Initially I thought the same as you, but not being able to spend the money doesn't mean the younger daughter didn't take it. It may be a way of her trying to take some control over her life.

At the age your daughters are a family meeting sounds like a good idea to me.

mum2one

if you have a look on ebay - you can get a plug which you put a memory card in, think its about £5.

I havent got a link sorry, found out about them from a f/b thread of caravan owners, (they use them as peace of mind when the caravan empty), you can also get clock, (again add a memory card).

Hope you get it sorted xx

Tigsteroonie

merlin68 wrote: »

There 16 and 19. Youngest dd doesnt go anywhere to spend money as shes disabled..

bouicca21 wrote: »

One of my colleagues had a disabled child - who was regularly robbed and/or forced to give money to the bullies. He resorted to stealing for a while before he told on them.

Does the 16yo go to school? Is there a chance she is being bullied at school to hand over money?

thorsoak

What does your older daughter do?

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How about some of this painted onto coins?
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Eurolite-UV-Active-Stamp-Ink-Blue-x/dp/B0000WR8SU/

Use a UV light, and find out the tea leaf who will have this glowing all over their fingers

BigAunty

Without evidence, you have no proof so frankly it could be any of the occupants - you can't go with your 'gut instinct'.

Call a family conference to say you know what's going on and you aren't very happy. Make it clear the impact of the theft on you. No one is likely to confess. Then don't leave any money out. Make it clear that each and every time something goes missing, you will address it.

Unfortunately, petty thefts are fairly likely to carry on in one way or the other or escalate unless the root cause is identified and tackled, be it a selfish sense of entitlement, psychological issues, etc.

krlyr

Can you set up a webcam on a laptop or tablet/phone to record?

Hoipolloi

As above, call a family meeting. Express your distress and distrust. Hopefully, the member of the family will own up. If not, sadly, you need to keep all money under lock and key and watch all purchases coming into your home as it may give some insight into who is doing the thieving. It must be such a terrible feeling, not to be able to trust your immediate family members.

meritaten

you suspect your daughters and totally dismiss it could be your OH - Why?