Thinking of becoming a single mum......help

Angua2

Just wishing everyone doing the extremely hard job of raising kids on your own the very very very best. It can be so lonely and isolating, so keep in mind that you need nurturing along with your bairns. Reaching out for support and finding communities of understanding is a great thing. Well done.

jordan_gibson

Just to put a bloke's perspective on this........give him the boot!!!

Seriously, I'm single at the mo but if I had treated my ex (who is the mother of my 3 yr old son) like your other half treats you I would expect a very large size 9 up my rear end!!!

For ANYTHING to work you both have to be pulling for the same thing....if not, then you are going to be constantly peeing into wind, which is not good for anyone...especially your little one, who is No.1 priority!

My advice would be to get get some proper advice on where you would stand etc with debts, bills, income support etc etc as if you were going to split up. Once you have all this info you can then sit him down and tell him like it is. Obviously, you need to decide what you want first off all. If you want to try to make things work then have a good firm talk, but make him fully aware that if he does not pull his socks up then you want to go your seperate ways.

By the sounds of it you don't WANT to split up but I'm afraid that if he is not going to pull his weight you are far far far better off without him....trust me there are better men out there!!

Just my 2p's worth ;-)