Help- I am sick with worry

Chickenlady_4

You poor thing - I didn't realise how bad things were for you until I read your thread on that other site.

Why doesn't your illness entitle you to a home help? Is it because DH is there some of the time to do it? What if he wasn't - would you get more help?

I am only asking this as it seems that your DH could probably earn more if he got a job rather than staying self employed. I know this would mean he couldn't help you much, that's why I was wondering about the home help. You have probably already explored this - I am just thinking on my feet.

I really hope things improve for you.

mummytofour

Juliette check out http://www.dwp.gov.uk/lifeevent/benefits/carers_allowance.asp

Thasts for carers allowance, not sure if dh is getting that already?

Hi jane!

Vxx

crutches

dla and carers allowance now applied for.one depends on the other but at least forms r in!
eviction notice for 16/6/2005 is taking my time(mortgage)
cab/disability rights have not returned my calls.
phoning dss/jobcentre number tomm to check on benrfits.saw lady in jobcentre but she said all done by callcentres nowand gave me number.
been too ill too get out of bed.
social services have refused child help(2 hrs per week) even tho gp asked.social wker says she will reapply thisweek.
house too messy for home help to work in.cleaning applied for(oneoff spring clean) but social worker onlyallowedto ask for onething at atime apparently.
disability and childrens team arguing over responsibility for us.
been told by ss that more help would be availablen if i
1)was a lone parent
2)was on dla high rate
3)was abusing/neglecting the kids.
all ofwhich seem pretty drastic measures to take to get help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

cant sleep,cant eat but my friends on 4ormore.co.uk have been wonderful.
if anyone has 4ormore children its a great site.

Fran

crutches wrote:

dla and carers allowance now applied for.one depends on the other but at least forms r in!
eviction notice for 16/6/2005 is taking my time(mortgage)
cab/disability rights have not returned my calls.
phoning dss/jobcentre number tomm to check on benrfits.saw lady in jobcentre but she said all done by callcentres nowand gave me number.
been too ill too get out of bed.
social services have refused child help(2 hrs per week) even tho gp asked.social wker says she will reapply thisweek.
house too messy for home help to work in.cleaning applied for(oneoff spring clean) but social worker onlyallowedto ask for onething at atime apparently.
disability and childrens team arguing over responsibility for us.
been told by ss that more help would be availablen if i
1)was a lone parent
2)was on dla high rate
3)was abusing/neglecting the kids.
all ofwhich seem pretty drastic measures to take to get help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

cant sleep,cant eat but my friends on 4ormore.co.uk have been wonderful.
if anyone has 4ormore children its a great site.

Crutches,

I think you are in URGENT need of Citizens Advice help.

It's no good saying that they don't return your calls - you MUST get help with EVICTION which you haven't posted about but which is a roof over your head. No wonder you can't sleep with all this stuff going on, you have to make that effort on a good day to get to Citizens Advice and they can look at all your situation and advise on ALL of it. I'm not meaning to sound harsh, I'm concerned about you.

PLEASE go to CAB, you could see if they do home visits in your area. You can't afford to ignore this or hope it will go away. (Apologies if you've already sorted out re eviction.) Please post to say where you stand with this.

crutches

only got notice on 23/05!

crutches

disability welfarerightscan see me URGENTLY on fri 3rd at10 am!off to try cab again.

crutches

her boss just phoned back with appt for next tues....she was new bless her and didn't realise that it "could be serious". :)

Fran

crutches wrote:

her boss just phoned back with appt for next tues....she was new bless her and didn't realise that it "could be serious". :)

That's even better, glad to hear that! They'll help you get sorted.:)

crutches

shelter willphone back with a home visit tomm.and jobcentre gave me inc cap appt 2/6/05.

statement from bank sayspayments due 10,821.21(since 8/11/98 for some reason)
payments made 14,540.89 CR.
i dont understand it at all so i'llleave it for shelter/cab.
woman from bank quite rude on phone about bad debtors.
my ENTIRE mortgage is 25,500
arrears 2,145.22.court order to pay these at £50 per mth.
i'm sure some people owe more???
its our own fault.i've always worked and husband has a horror of being on state benefits and scrounging/shirking.(NO OFFENCE INTENDED)
he has a small interest in his exes house,she has had a livein partner for
10 yrs but because partner is not male she can claim asasingle parent
and not have to pay up even tho we have 1 child with us and she has 1
CSA do not pursue due to her violent nature and childrens welfare!
we have obviously gone wrong somwhere.i only pray i can rectify it.

margaretclare

So you are seeing Disability Welfare Rights, Shelter, and have an appointment with the JobCentre.

You are seeing absolutely the right people.

If Shelter do home visits then that will be the best thing for you. They will be able to help/advise about the "roof over your head".

Disability Rights will be able to give help/advice about your needs and entitlements relating to your disabilities.

You are getting the right people to see you.

Aunty Margaret