coincidence....or creepy....or be flattered?

pollypenny

I'm just wondering why on earth someone wants to 'renew their vows', in a grand way?

Mojisola

vroombroom wrote: »

I work with a girl of a similar age to me and we have a similar kind of life - fella, kids, working around said fella's hours etc so we get on quite well.

We've met up outside of work a few times too to take kids and dogs to the park and stuff.

What do you think? x

I'd stop telling her things at work and stop meeting up outside of work and hope that she got fixated on someone else.

aileth

pollypenny wrote: »

I'm just wondering why on earth someone wants to 'renew their vows', in a grand way?

I suppose there could be lots of the reasons, the main one that springs to mind is a couple getting married on the cheap due to pertaining circumstances (pregnancy, debt, etc etc) at the time and then deciding to push the boat out for a renewal when they're in a better position.

itsanne

pollypenny wrote: »

I'm just wondering why on earth someone wants to 'renew their vows', in a grand way?

I've never understood the point at all, grand or otherwise.

RuthnJasper

suejb2 wrote: »

Reminds me of the 1992 film "Single White Female"

Haha, I was going to say this!

She sounds like a nut. But she is probably extremely lonely and with no imagination.

I don't think she's a danger, but I'd be a bit careful about the amount of non-work activities you do together. It's nice for the kids and dogs to be able to play together though.

All the best.

TBagpuss

It is a little weird. In your position, I would just reduce the amount of information you share with her, or tell her things much later. e.g. if you are planning a holiday, don't mention any details until immediately before you go, or after you come back. Or just be vague "we're going to Greece" rather than any details. If she ask for more, you can say "oh, I don't have all the details to hand" and keep 'forgetting' to look them up.

duchy

She's mirroring you

How often do you see best friends in similar dress styles, haircuts, having kids around the same time - She's probably lonely or disatisfied with her life and sees your life as an improved version.

I'd just stop telling her stuff - or change it in the important detail - the green pixie cut is a bit unkind though

carefullycautious

krustylouise wrote: »

My MIL does the same thing. I find it really strange but have to tell myself that imitation is a form of flattery. MIL has said previously that she'd love to have married someone like DH?! She cooks whatever I cook, baked whatever I bake, I cut my hair so does she, I dye my hair so does she, I paint my nails so does she, I made a patchwork quilt and so did she.

I mentioned it to DH who said she doesn't have much in her life so probably just does it to keep her busy (but seriously there's a million and one things she can be doing without it being the same thing as me!)

She used to text me every morning as well as DH to see how we all are (I'm currently pregnant) and has text me every morning for the last year then all of a sudden 10 days ago she stopped and had started saying comments to DH like "I'd ring more often but don't want DW (me) calling you a mummy's boy!" (I've never called him a mummy's boy) "I'd move closer but I don't want it to cause arguments between you two" (I've never commented on her moving closer, although I did say I couldn't bear her being at our house every day, which she would be as she'd have moved away from everyone else.

Sorry to change the subject to me, I kind of went off the beaten track. Sadly there's not much you can do, try being flattered by it and don't pay it another thought as she's obviously more occupied with you than you are of her x

:eek: That would drive me nuts. God help you if she does move closer to you!!!

raven83

suejb2 wrote: »

Reminds me of the 1992 film "Single White Female"

You beat me to it! I was about to say the same thing!;)

pinkshoes

I would definitely have some fun with this.

Tell her you are getting your pubic hair dyed pink, and having a tattoo of Jeremy Clarkson on your bum.

Perhaps a nipple piercing too?