Family argument re: funeral attendance

theoretica

Could you just say you have arranged for someone to give him a lift home who will be driving past and not mention it is a car hire and try to get a driver to play along?

redpete

If you need another person to say it's OK for you to refuse to help out this time - here it is.

He has ways of getting to both the funeral and the wake without you being involved - let him decide on either of those.

pattycake

Yes he's being unreasonable but let's not forget, this is an elderly man (I assume) who has lost his brother. I am not suggesting you give into his demands but there must be another way round this.

Mojisola

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The annoying thing is he could get a taxi home (its 5 miles) but he point blank refuses to get a taxi because he doesn't believe its right for "people like him" to pay for taxis. (Id pay but that wouldnt make a difference and hes loaded anyway).[/QUOTE]

pattycake wrote: »

Yes he's being unreasonable but let's not forget, this is an elderly man (I assume) who has lost his brother. I am not suggesting you give into his demands but there must be another way round this.

There is - he gets a taxi.

meer53

Ring a local taxi company, arrange for him to be picked up, and pay them. What will he do ? Refuse to get in the car ?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

pattycake wrote: »

Yes he's being unreasonable but let's not forget, this is an elderly man (I assume) who has lost his brother. I am not suggesting you give into his demands but there must be another way round this.

Previous posts lead most of us to conclude the op's father is, despite adequate income/savings, relative good health for his age and no reason (such as mental debility) to stop him being independent like any other adult, deliberately choosing to act helpless and prefers to have people running around after him. To the extent of refusing to buy a washing machine in preference to having somebody else come and wash it all by hand for him, if I remember correctly (apologies if that's somebody else's father, OP).

Arthog

Driving to give his father a lift, saving him £10 taxi fare, will cost the OP approximately 50p per mile, won't it??

meritaten

if you cant go to the funeral because of work commitments - what logic makes your dad think you can pick him up from wake? just say 'Sorry Dad, but I really cant help you this time', and leave it at that.


(why cant your brother pick him up from wake)?

Turtle

He's being unreasonable. What does he mean by 'people like him' shouldn't have to get taxis?

pollypenny

Paul, you're Welsh, living in South Wales, as is your father.

I'd say there's every chance that there will be someone to offer him a lift.

But don't give in to him and lose work.