Late cards and gifts from people

springdreams

I don't mind.

All my friends and family send me a text message on the day itself, so I know that they are thinking of me, and I am not overly fussed about receiving a birthday card and any gifts that I may be fortunate to receive after the day itself.

I know my sister stresses about such things, even though she also gets text messages from all of us on her birthday, so she knows that we have not forgotten her special day.

I don't see the need to make a special trip, especially if you are going to be seeing the person soon afterwards anyway. Not very :money: to be posting things or making special journeys when you will be seeing people soon after the day in question.

Georgiegirl256

fierystormcloud wrote: »

And I agree, saying someone is ungrateful because they are cheesed off with cards being late is just ridiculous. Do people actually think about what they are saying before they click 'post?' Or do they do it just to be deliberately provocative?!

It is possible to reply without provocative personal attacks you know. Or are you in the 'always send late cards' camp, and my thread has hit a raw nerve? :rotfl:

Did you or did you not ask for people's views? Not everyone is going to agree with you.

I don't think anyone is deliberately being provocative, just stating their opinions.

For what it's worth, I'm in the camp of it doesn't bother me. If it's late, then so what? There are much more important things to worry about IMO.

fierystormcloud

springdreams wrote: »

I don't mind.

All my friends and family send me a text message on the day itself, so I know that they are thinking of me, and I am not overly fussed about receiving a birthday card and any gifts that I may be fortunate to receive after the day itself.

I know my sister stresses about such things, even though she also gets text messages from all of us on her birthday, so she knows that we have not forgotten her special day.

I don't see the need to make a special trip, especially if you are going to be seeing the person soon afterwards anyway. Not very :money: to be posting things or making special journeys when you will be seeing people soon after the day in question.

Yeah that's fair enough. But when they send cards almost a week late, and moan and whinge when WE do, well that is something quite different! :cool:

baza52

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Glad it's not just me.

It doesn't upset me, it makes me angry because THEY kick off if theirs are late.

And I agree, saying someone is ungrateful because they are cheesed off with cards being late is just ridiculous. Do people actually think about what they are saying before they click 'post?' Or do they do it just to be deliberately provocative?!



It is possible to reply without provocative personal attacks you know. Or are you in the 'always send late cards' camp, and my thread has hit a raw nerve? :rotfl:

And no I have not mentioned it to them. Why should I? Thing is, when we send stuff late to them or their family, they kick off.

so you get angry when a card arrives late and also get equally as angry when someone disagrees with you when you asked for peoples views.


I would think your sisters would also get angry with you if they knew you were getting so worked up it about and chose to go public rather than confront them about it.

fierystormcloud

baza52 wrote: »

so you get angry when a card arrives late and also get equally as angry when someone disagrees with you when you asked for peoples opinions.

I would think your sister would also get angry with you if they knew you were getting so worked up about and chose to go public rather than confront them about it.

There is a bit of a difference in having a difference of opinion, and coming out with damning comments like 'you sound ungrateful..' That is an unnecessary and spiteful comment. You could have easily have responded to my original post without saying that.

And it's amazing that you know my sisters so well. :rotfl:

You are being deliberately provocative, and you know it. And for that reason, I am done with you on this thread.

Does my head in, no matter what anyone puts on here, someone just has to come along and put an unnecessary provocative and spiteful remark, and then they come out with 'well you should not ask for opinions and views then should you?' yada yada. Well yes I DID ask for opinions and views; but opinions and views: not insults!

Now run along. :wave:

Jagraf

I hate getting cards early. It makes me feel older than I really am oh, unless its really really late from the year before!

fierystormcloud

Jagraf wrote: »

I hate getting cards early. It makes me feel older than I really am

:rotfl: I would definitely rather have that, than a card that is a week late, especially when I make so much effort to get others cards to them on time. And like I said, certain family members go ape when someone sends them (or one of their kids) a late card or gift. Hypocrites!

bizzybee

I am not depressed, I am not insecure, I am a friendly person, I chat to neighbours for 5 minutes and then go into my house, and I do not want them in my house. Me and my OH are fiercely private, we do not bleat our business (even though some people we know are always prodding and prying into our personal business and finances,) and we never tell anyone anything private.

What you wrote on an earlier thread seems to be contradictory to this thread.:undecided

fierystormcloud

bizzybee wrote: »

I am not depressed, I am not insecure, I am a friendly person, I chat to neighbours for 5 minutes and then go into my house, and I do not want them in my house. Me and my OH are fiercely private, we do not bleat our business (even though some people we know are always prodding and prying into our personal business and finances,) and we never tell anyone anything private.

What you wrote on an earlier thread seems to be contradictory to this thread.:undecided

No it does not.

That thread was about friends and acquaintances, and this one is about family.

This is a completely different scenario.

Even if this WAS about friends too. Your comment still makes no sense.

Better try harder next time.

bizzybee

As Mark Twain said

"To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence."