Renovations and Repayments.

smallholdingsister

Alex your father lost the argument with little K.
It is now that your son REALLY needs you to step up for him.

Sure you will do the right thing. X

Mike_Moore

Hi

If you are renovating your house then you can place the skip bin outside your home.

You can hire the skip bin from various skip bin companies. You can place all the rubbish in that bin. They are also regularly cleaned by the service provider.

maman

Watty1 wrote: »

Shocked by line crossed.
Alex that is totally unacceptable.
Am quite outraged on your behalf. Shall I pop round and have a chat with them? Think quite a few folk will come with me

What time are you planning to get there Watty? I'm with you.


That's truly appalling Alex but today you need to focus on LittleK and his birthday party. Then tomorrow I'd suggest you adopt my earlier suggestion of cool civility and no more. Perhaps you could forego the delicious beef Sunday lunch tomorrow too and you three could go out as a family either for a meal or the car picnics that he loves and finish the birthday off in style.

cazmanian_minx

Hope the party went well today, Alex - agree with what everyone else has said about your father stepping waaaay over the line

You asked me to let you know how I got on with Battersea Pen Home. It arrived back today with its new nib (which is the same width as the original, as requested - it feels a little different, but I'm certain that will go when it's been worn in sufficiently) and they've also given it a full service, put a new sac in it, replaced the tassie/derby (which had been missing for a good 30 years), tightened the clip so it doesn't swivel around the cap any more and cleaned it thoroughly. Total cost, including a £7 charge for return by Special Delivery, £52. I am delighted!

https://www.instagram.com/p/-Wkc0sjwey/

ourcornercottage

Really hope the party went well for you all

AlexLK

Debsnewbudget wrote: »

You need to make sure that Little K is willing to go back there tomorrow for the party as he is the important one in all of this. If not, just a couple of games at your house might be better. Musical bumps, musical statues and a pass the parcel will keep the children amused

Party went ahead as planned but thanks for the suggestion, think this could be next year's sorted.

ourcornercottage wrote: »

Oh dear, I'm afraid that's a line crossed right there. In your shoes I would move party. That behaviour, if I'm reading correctly between the lines, is totally unacceptable and now it's not just effecting you but littleLK too. Sometimes you have to accept that whilst you love some people they are just not very nice. If my parents did that I'd never speak to them again, I really wouldn't. Shocking behaviour.

Keep strong though as you are doing so well.

His behaviour yesterday didn't surprise me. Disappoint, maybe.

You probably are reading correctly between the lines. Father is from a different generation and I suppose what he did would've been perfectly acceptable in those times, so I don't think it's because my father is cruel. He was very upset and apologetic today.

Today was really good, weather (despite being freezing) was perfect and everyone had a really good time, except for my parents (they agreed it would be better for all concerned to stay in the house away from party).

newgirly wrote: »

Oh dear, he has crossed a huge line there.

I agree with the post above, focus on little k for today and what he feels comfortable with, save dealing with your dad for another day! How many do you have coming?

If you have to hold it at home, as debts new budget says, old fashioned games and plenty of little sweets to hand out as prizes and let them run wild around for a couple of hours, you won't enjoy it but they will!

Sorry didn't see occ's post above.

I've told them for at least the near future, they won't be looking after him on their own. Think this will mean me stopping some work, which won't be great for the finances but he has crossed a line. Don't want this to happen again and don't want son to grow up with this factoring into his life, to be honest.

In the end we had 18 attend but more adults and older children. Only four son's age (including son).

AlexLK

Bluefire wrote: »

Something to add to the long list of reasons why it's a terrible idea to move in with them. I get the distinct impression you would get disregarded as parents on a regular basis.

I'm sorry your son is upset, I hope he still manages to enjoy his party today.

You're likely right about my father, he quite often loses his temper first and apologises later. Until he decided throwing a book at me was OK, I thought he'd mellowed somewhat. Should've seen that as a warning, I think. I suppose I can deal with him being angry at me (I'd probably be angry too if I were my son) but really don't think it's fair on my son.

Can't see us moving there anytime soon, to be honest. Mrs K is very against it and I'm quite enjoying having some time away from them at the moment. They can be demanding, have to see them enough in the day without them walking into what would become our part of the house if we were to move there during the evening too.

Son enjoyed party, thanks.

Watty1 wrote: »

Shocked by line crossed.
Alex that is totally unacceptable.
Am quite outraged on your behalf. Shall I pop round and have a chat with them? Think quite a few folk will come with me

I know in these times it's something he shouldn't be doing. Hopefully won't get the opportunity again.

:rotfl: Re. having a chat with my parents.

smallholdingsister wrote: »

Alex your father lost the argument with little K.
It is now that your son REALLY needs you to step up for him.

Sure you will do the right thing. X

From what I can tell there wasn't an argument. Apparently, my son was running around their house "uncontrollably".

Think I've done all I can, to be honest.

AlexLK

Mike_Moore wrote: »

Hi

If you are renovating your house then you can place the skip bin outside your home.

You can hire the skip bin from various skip bin companies. You can place all the rubbish in that bin. They are also regularly cleaned by the service provider.

Not sure if you were meant to be replying to me or not but we're not in the first steps of renovating the house.

Therefore, we don't require a skip bin at this stage ... whether Mrs K would argue otherwise is a different matter, though!

maman wrote: »

What time are you planning to get there Watty? I'm with you.

That's truly appalling Alex but today you need to focus on LittleK and his birthday party. Then tomorrow I'd suggest you adopt my earlier suggestion of cool civility and no more. Perhaps you could forego the delicious beef Sunday lunch tomorrow too and you three could go out as a family either for a meal or the car picnics that he loves and finish the birthday off in style.

:rotfl: :eek: I'd be quite apprehensive on father's behalf, maman.

It seems we think alike as I've told them we aren't going to their house tomorrow. I think son needs to have a week away from them. Can't say either of them are happy with that, though. What we'll do depends on the weather. Quite looking forward to the Sunday off but not the circumstances which have forced this.

cazmanian_minx wrote: »

Hope the party went well today, Alex - agree with what everyone else has said about your father stepping waaaay over the line

You asked me to let you know how I got on with Battersea Pen Home. It arrived back today with its new nib (which is the same width as the original, as requested - it feels a little different, but I'm certain that will go when it's been worn in sufficiently) and they've also given it a full service, put a new sac in it, replaced the tassie/derby (which had been missing for a good 30 years), tightened the clip so it doesn't swivel around the cap any more and cleaned it thoroughly. Total cost, including a £7 charge for return by Special Delivery, £52. I am delighted!

https://www.instagram.com/p/-Wkc0sjwey/

Thanks, Caz. Party was really good and son had a really nice time.

Your pen looks lovely for something that's used everyday. Really pleased for you that they've done a good job.

AlexLK

ourcornercottage wrote: »

Really hope the party went well for you all

Thanks, OOC.

Party went really well as I've already mentioned. Everyone seemed to really enjoy it and the weather was on our side. Only downside was lots of set up and tidy up. In typical fashion son went to cousin's for that part and did his horse riding. :rotfl:

Son let his friends help him to blow out the candles on his cake, which Mrs K and I thought was really nice of him. Can't quite believe how much he's grown up since his last party, to be honest. I have to admit, I'm a little sad he is growing up and at school because I miss him when he's there. I actually quite want us to have another at the moment.

ourcornercottage

Sounds fab, you handled that well. Not sure I would have been so calm about it all.

Also sounds like littleLK is really happy. Nice to see he's making friends and having relationships with kids his own age. What a little star