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newgirly

I am sure the school will help him adjust to working in a team Alex, try and relax a bit

Glad he enjoyed playing today, hopefully he will settle in soon. My dd took a while to settle , some days she came home upset she had no friends in the early weeks , as long as there are no underlying issues (ie.. Bullying etc.) I've always found it best to take a deep breath, smile,promise a treat after school and push them through that gate (hopefully not literally :rotfl:) That first year I remember taking her to buy a xmas tree at the start of november to put up in her room for being a good girl at school. Anything that helps really.

Would he enjoy having a few classmates for tea?

Best of luck reaching your target , you can do it

AlexLK

I'm somewhat failing at relaxing a bit, NG.

He just prefers being at home: there's no bullying, no real dislike of being there or any other children. I think he reckons he's 'missing out' by being at school rather than being at home. Today he decided to say "My Daddy is better than you" to his teacher at the end of the school day after he'd introduced his Grandparents. That was embarrassing. Mind, he thought the teacher would be interested to know Grandmother lives in "the big house" and one day he'll live in "the big house".

At the moment I cannot face having classmates over and I don't really talk to the other parents. Yes, I'm the antisocial one that stands just far enough away to prevent having to deal with the small talk. ... and before you ask I use the dog as an excuse because not all children like dogs ...

Here's hoping for the target, I do want to get there. This week I've focused on the house. Spent a lot of time throwing rubbish out and generally trying to make the place a pleasant place to live in the hope that will make me become a bit more productive.

edinburgher

AlexLK wrote: »

Just looking through this now, also looking at his 10%, 7% etc. post.

I do feel there's a lot of jargon to learn with investing and quite daunted that this is all a bit beyond me. Seems like it could be quite interesting to learn about it though. I've bookmarked the P2P forum and will start reading.

If I can wrap my head around it, you can too. It a lot of ways, fixed income investments are 'easier' than S&S. I find the evaluation of risk and strategies to avoid it more intuitive.

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

He just prefers being at home: there's no bullying, no real dislike of being there

And that Alex is the downside of being such a good father. Try ignoring him or give him a good hiding when he's at home .

edinburgher

Try ignoring him or give him a good hiding when he's at home

:rotfl:

Hahaha - I'm not too young to remember getting a smacked behind!

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

He just prefers being at home: there's no bullying, no real dislike of being there or any other children. I think he reckons he's 'missing out' by being at school rather than being at home. Today he decided to say "My Daddy is better than you" to his teacher at the end of the school day after he'd introduced his Grandparents. That was embarrassing. Mind, he thought the teacher would be interested to know Grandmother lives in "the big house" and one day he'll live in "the big house".

Oh Alex, this is such an echo of the Special Snowflake conversation we had a week or so ago where I said to be beware of LittleK thinking your way of life was better rather than different. I know you said you'd never told him that but he's obviously picked it up. I can see his comment about his dad being better is innocent and just praising you and his love for 1:1, centre of attention teaching. That's fair enough. But it's hard to explain the 'big house' comment without an element of boasting. I'd suggest you find ways of 'bigging up' the school in conversation with him and with MrsK and the parents in his hearing.

smallholdingsister

Alex I hope you are socialising that puppy? Rod for own back otherwise.

Goldiegirl

AlexLK wrote: »

At the moment I cannot face having classmates over and I don't really talk to the other parents. Yes, I'm the antisocial one that stands just far enough away to prevent having to deal with the small talk. ... and before you ask I use the dog as an excuse because not all children like dogs ...

You're worried that your son isn't mixing with the other children, yet you are doing exactly the same, by not mixing with the other parents.


Being of a shy disposition myself, I don't enjoy small talk, but sometimes needs must, and you have to push yourself to come out of your shell.


There's no need for you to make new best friends, but by mixing with the other parents at the school gate, it might encourage your son a bit. He'll see his dad getting a bit more involved, and might want to copy his dad by getting more involved himself

AlexLK

edinburgher wrote: »

If I can wrap my head around it, you can too. It a lot of ways, fixed income investments are 'easier' than S&S. I find the evaluation of risk and strategies to avoid it more intuitive.

You have more faith in my capabilities than I do. At the moment, I'm really struggling with concentration and everything I read seems to be forgotten. Either I've lost whatever intellectual capabilities I once had or when I can get through the day to day, I'll start to understand it all a bit more.

To be honest, these last few days I've not read about investments or even thought about how I'm going to reach my savings target.

gallygirl wrote: »

And that Alex is the downside of being such a good father. Try ignoring him or give him a good hiding when he's at home .

:rotfl: Thanks, Gallygirl.

Are you permanently living in Spain, now?

edinburgher wrote: »

:rotfl:

Hahaha - I'm not too young to remember getting a smacked behind!

:rotfl:

You're not the only one.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

Oh Alex, this is such an echo of the Special Snowflake conversation we had a week or so ago where I said to be beware of LittleK thinking your way of life was better rather than different. I know you said you'd never told him that but he's obviously picked it up. I can see his comment about his dad being better is innocent and just praising you and his love for 1:1, centre of attention teaching. That's fair enough. But it's hard to explain the 'big house' comment without an element of boasting. I'd suggest you find ways of 'bigging up' the school in conversation with him and with MrsK and the parents in his hearing.

I suppose the house thing is my fault, really. Before you ask, I most certainly do not call my parents' house "the big house", not even sure where he'd got that one from. However, I have often told him in the past that we won't have to live here forever and that we will be moving to my parents' house at some point in the future. He loves it there and likely already realises it's a better place than where we live.

As far as the school goes, whilst my parents didn't want him to go to the village school, no body has mentioned anything other than praise for the school in his presence. I still think for these first few years he's at the best place for him.

smallholdingsister wrote: »

Alex I hope you are socialising that puppy? Rod for own back otherwise.

She sees lots of other dogs as we go to my cousin's place a lot where there are her dogs and other dogs of friends that 'turn up'. We've also started taking her to a puppy training class where she sees other dogs as I know it's important.

Goldiegirl wrote: »

You're worried that your son isn't mixing with the other children, yet you are doing exactly the same, by not mixing with the other parents.

Being of a shy disposition myself, I don't enjoy small talk, but sometimes needs must, and you have to push yourself to come out of your shell.

There's no need for you to make new best friends, but by mixing with the other parents at the school gate, it might encourage your son a bit. He'll see his dad getting a bit more involved, and might want to copy his dad by getting more involved himself

I know you're right, Goldie. At the moment I just can't face speaking to new people, in some ways I'd like to but when the time comes I just can't.