Renovations and Repayments.

hiddenshadow

I really liked visiting Denby pottery a couple of years ago - hope you and LittleK have fun exploring.

Good for you for setting clear boundaries with the parents. They may or may not change their behaviour/attitudes, but you've made it clear what you won't tolerate - it's up to them to respond accordingly (or not). I hope they do mellow!

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

I haven't. I told my father that for the next month or so, the only relationship I have with both him and mother is purely a business one. They are aware that as far as I am concerned for the next month they don't have a child or grandchild; they have a partner in business and nothing else. No favours, no taking father to appointments, no going there to be lectured to about the past or my failings. I'm hoping they'll step back from the whole situation, realise they need to apologise and take a good look at their own behaviour before stepping back into the role of 'parent' or 'grandparent'. They've both really upset my son and it has knocked his confidence. To be honest, I'm too angry about that to go to dinner with them and pretend nothing has happened.

I think that's a wise decision Alex. Is the month arbitrary or just to coincide with MrsK's leave and the school holidays?


I'm so pleased you're having a great time and don't worry that it's expensive. You've spent money on far less worthwhile things in the past.;):rotfl:


I thought of your parents when I read this
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/08/23/japanese-man-stabs-12-year-old-son-to-death-after-he-failed-to-s/


I know even they aren't that extreme but it just shows up their comparison with Japanese children for the nonsense it is.:mad:


ETA: Sorry they compared LittleK with Chinese children but I'm sure you get the drift.

AlexLK

hiddenshadow wrote: »

I really liked visiting Denby pottery a couple of years ago - hope you and LittleK have fun exploring.

Good for you for setting clear boundaries with the parents. They may or may not change their behaviour/attitudes, but you've made it clear what you won't tolerate - it's up to them to respond accordingly (or not). I hope they do mellow!

Denby was fantastic. My son had a fantastic time and so did my wife and I. Managed to pick up a few items from the factory shop (our everyday crockery is Denby Greenwich). Our son was amazed by the windmill at Heage, also. Now to finish our project before summer ends.... :eek:

Can't say my parents are particularly pleased, nor do I feel particularly good for what I've done. They probably don't realise that I'm rather concerned about my father's health.

maman wrote: »

I think that's a wise decision Alex. Is the month arbitrary or just to coincide with MrsK's leave and the school holidays?

I'm so pleased you're having a great time and don't worry that it's expensive. You've spent money on far less worthwhile things in the past.;):rotfl:

I thought of your parents when I read this
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/08/23/japanese-man-stabs-12-year-old-son-to-death-after-he-failed-to-s/

I know even they aren't that extreme but it just shows up their comparison with Japanese children for the nonsense it is.:mad:

ETA: Sorry they compared LittleK with Chinese children but I'm sure you get the drift.

I think it'll take me a month or so to be able to face them on non-business terms. Nothing to do with my wife's leave or summer, that's just how it has worked out.

Thank you. I can honestly say I cannot remember a time when my marriage was this good. My wife also wants to spend time with our son at the moment and is getting involved with parenting. She told me today that she's really enjoying being a Mum at the moment; you've no idea how pleased I was to hear her say that. We are working together. She is no longer trying to leave me penniless, we've gone back to only having joint accounts but with the bonus that I now realise money does in fact not grow on trees. Well aware we're still far from being truly frugal but we do at least live within our means and are not wondering how we'll pay the next bill that arrives.

Re. the Japanese lad. It's horrifying, to be honest. Reading such reports and also how children from the Far East are abused into playing piano so well at a young age are the reasons I'm so angry with my parents. I had to explain to my son that some children are forced to have that relationship with piano (or violin or any other instrument) and their parents. On Sunday I sent my father an article about Lang Lang's childhood asking to consider if he'd really like his grandson to have such a relationship with the piano (and such a father). No idea if he's read it (he's not exactly known for checking emails).

newgirly

Just spotted your signature Alex, that a good amount of saving this year well done :T

Ps. It looks like a mouse has snuck in and written your posts lately, why are they all in tiny writing? Perhaps it's just on my iPad though

AlexLK

Had a meeting with an old customer this morning, it came somewhat out of the blue as he apparently doesn't want to deal with my ex-business partner. :rotfl: From what I've heard hardly anyone does want to deal with him direct as he's not the easiest person to talk to and seems to think his work is worth a lot more than it is. Unfortunately, he doesn't realise that it's not just quality of work that sells but often customers go for some kind of branding / 'name' and if the customer wants something, they want it regardless of whether you think it's tasteless or not. All that said I remember why I didn't want to pursue expansion of the business (which it needed to go any further, really). To be honest, I think I'm ready to let go of it. Far too many bad memories, little margin and a lack of will to put the effort in that it would need.

Just finished doing a bit of project work and reading with my son. Now he's doing a little art project with my wife and it seems I'm rather redundant for the afternoon. :rotfl: Quiet day today with no real plans but should get on with putting a few things up for sale.

newgirly wrote: »

Just spotted your signature Alex, that a good amount of saving this year well done :T

Ps. It looks like a mouse has snuck in and written your posts lately, why are they all in tiny writing? Perhaps it's just on my iPad though

Thank you, NG. I'm not really doing as well as last year. For the most part of this year I've rather lacked in motivation. Realise I need to get on with it and I'll likely not match last year.

Doesn't look like tiny writing to me? Could be your iPad or something has gone wrong?

carolbee

It's tiny writing to me on my iPad too

cazmanian_minx

I'm reading on a laptop and the text looks the normal size to me.

maman

cazmanian_minx wrote: »

I'm reading on a laptop and the text looks the normal size to me.

I think I may have inadvertently skewed the size of the page posting the DfE advice on NQT induction year. Not sure if that's what's caused the problem but if Alex would edit the link out of post 1966 it might help.

AlexLK

carolbee wrote: »

It's tiny writing to me on my iPad too

cazmanian_minx wrote: »

I'm reading on a laptop and the text looks the normal size to me.

maman wrote: »

I think I may have inadvertently skewed the size of the page posting the DfE advice on NQT induction year. Not sure if that's what's caused the problem but if Alex would edit the link out of post 1966 it might help.

Thanks all.

Maman: Will do. Must remember to bookmark it first, though.

ETA: Has this worked?

Debsnewbudget

Yes thanks Alex
Have been able to stop squinting now :rotfl: