The Birds and the Bees...

TheMagician

My son knows about all human parts and is comfortable with it all. He also knows where babies come from.
But what I struggle to explain in words is intercourse itself. I don't actually want to say things like insert penis into vagina and have to describe having sex itself, sounds too much for 7yo and I'm honestly not comfortable with that since he is so innocent still. I've said kissing and cuddling and that seems to suffice for now but I know I'll have to go into detail at some point and explain how the sperm gets inside so what words exactly would you use? Would you simply be this blunt with a Child?

clark24

Last year, when my son was 5, he asked me about where babies come from so I told him in an age-appropriate and honest way. He didn't believe a word of it and thought I was being very silly.

Since then he has asked similar questions and we have given him the same answer, he still refuses to believe it and so as we don't yet want to go down the route of getting too graphic about the physical realities we are just leaving it for now, we answer questions honestly but he just isn't ready for the actual truth.

He does think it is extremely unfair that babies only grow in mummies tummys though as he wants to grow one in his and 'doesn't see why the girls get to have all the fun' (his words!)

j.e.j.

What do the age-appropriate books tell 7 year old kids? I think I'd go by that.

Telling a very young child exactly how a woman gets pregnant is probably a bad idea, in that they will be confused at best and horrified at worst. That said, you don't want to be telling stupid stories about 'special cuddles' or anything like that. I'm sure most parents tell their kids only what they need to know at the relevant age.

Corelli

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He does think it is extremely unfair that babies only grow in mummies tummys though as he wants to grow one in his and 'doesn't see why the girls get to have all the fun' (his words!)

Oh yes, little boys do want to be involved don't they. I've seen so many little boys playing at breastfeeding toys and dollies, and feeling sad when they realise that this is something they never will be able to do.

Corelli

There are people who hate it, but Babette Cole's Mommy Laid An Egg was a favourite with my children for a long while. This Youtube reading has the best view of the images that I could find. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=776tHs69wL8

lulu_92

I can't remember if I did have "the talk" - I think I just worked it out for myself.

I remember once when I was about 8 I was playing in the street with my friend and sister and a woman drove past us and swore at us for playing in the road. My friend went inside and asked her mum what the word meant. That was a fun conversation and the first time I had ever heard "see you next tuesday"

System

I pretty much felt i learnt all i needed to know in the horrible sex education video we watched in year 5 :eek: That was enough to deter any further questioning from me! I never felt the need to ask my mum about it, so we never had "the talk".

alwaysskint96

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Apparently, after I read the book about how babies are made aged 4, I asked my mother: "Did you do that?" To which she replied "Yes I did". My answer caused much hilarity: "That's disgusting!" :rotfl:

Haha when i was pregnant with my son my eldest daughter- then 11 came out " thats disgusting you would need to have had sex and you are far too old for that" I was 32 LOL

onlyroz

Do they teach sex education in primary schools any more?

Armchair23

We never did 'the talk' with our son or daughter. If you just answer questions as they arise it's much easier.

If you have kids fairly close in age chances are they'll get bunged in the bath together, so when they're old enough to talk they'll ask questions just answer them simply. It really isn't a big deal. Whether it's same gender siblings or not, the kind of what is this, why is it big/small/stiff, different, stuff , just answer simply.

Tampons, Durex, KY, birth control pills, some or all are around in most homes. Kids will look and notice so don't hide stuff away just keep the explanations simple.

You''ll have been born with a vagina or penis (most likely) and though everyone has 'pet' names knowing the real names helps when you realise how many different and completely bizarre euphemisms there are out there. Some we probably all know and use, but there are some weird and wonderful to behold!

Embarrassment usually comes from the parents and kids pick up on that really well. I'm embarrassed about virtually blooming everything thanks to my upbringing I'd really not want to pass that on to my kids and grandkids.

There's a big difference between honesty and privacy. You don't need to talk about stuff that is private to you, it's your business not your kids. But not saying what a sanitary towel is for is just daft.

I've not looked for years but http://www.fpa.org.uk/ did have some good books to leave about the place and Usborne as well.

Do it sooner rather than later, nobody ever got pregnant or had a STI just because they were well informed, lots of us did because we weren't !