The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

nursemaggie

Thanks for all your good wishes leaving the house in a few minutes. see you on 6th June.

mardatha

Burtha, nothing lasts forever pet, all things pass and ease in time. Sending you love & stength xxx

pollyanna_26

Burtha Wise words from Mar there which will hopefully bring you comfort .

It is probably too early but many GPs have a counselor on site .
I like you have always been the doer and fixer but have over the past decade sought that service twice . Sometimes we have to accept we need to step outside our independent comfort zone and say the words out loud to a stranger .
We don't do it to friends and family as we don't want to upset or worry them but to spill the unfairness of life is a human thing to do .
It eases the thoughts flying around the mind and slows the rollercoaster and can provide useful tools to cope .

Sending you warm , gentle hugs and much love x
polly

silvasava

Burtha - I know you've been sent tea and biscuits along with all our hugs and caring thoughts but if necessary I can supply Gin xxxxxx

burtha

Thank all,
Just plodding on , believe it or not I haven't had any alcohol in the last 2 mths , think if I have one I may not stop lol ... so I will just stick to coffee
The death of a child is just not right , takes a bit to get your head around and no matter how bad you think it's going to be before it happens the reality when it does is like a thousand voltes going through you body ... and not stopping for a few weeks .. but time to move on , ..... sure at some point it will get better , sitting moping around will do nobody any favours .... and in this house no time to stand still , dogs ,kids ,work ,bar, meetings, life, bring it on

X

elona

burtha

I am so sorry and right now I can really empathise even though it is not my loss.

Don't underestimate plodding as it takes strength and determination and all we can do is all we can do.

camelot1001

It's not surprising you are feeling very low burtha, love and hugs to you.

Well done on the bootsale Mrs LW. I did one once, it was frightening!

Would you like to come and sit in my garden monna? We have had some biblical rain, it's been dark here since about 4pm with the rain actually arriving about 7, it really looked like there would be thunder and lightening (I love a good storm).

Floss

Burtha, that must take an incredible amount of grit, you have my utmost respect and a HUGE hug with added sunshine from Blackpool.
Floss xx

monnagran

Oh burtha, so much love coming your way. No one should have to go through that sort of pain. I would love to wrap you up in a soft blanket and take all the sadness away. Can't do that but you be gentle with yourself my pet.

x

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BURTHA my lovey, it's such early days to be able not only to take in what has happened but also to accept it and move forwards. You are all still mourning and reeling from the suddenness of the shock and sharing the pain and grief of your child over her child is possibly the hardest thing any parent can and could do in life BUT you have supported her, and your other lovely kids and all the people you hold dear and at a time when you were not only hurting for their hurt but your own too. You're pretty amazing love , a strong and sound woman, a loving and supportive parent and they will love you all the more for your care of them during this nightmare. There will come a time when the raw hurt will not be quite so raw and you'll find your pathway again and life won't be so hard, you, your children and family will begin to heal and life will click back to normality give it some time and normality will find you all again, when you're not expecting it. We're with you, standing with a hand at your backs ready to hold you up when you need it, hugs and more hugs, Lyn xxx.