The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

pollyanna_26

See NM Ivyleaf has come to join us . I love everything Charles Rennie Mackintosh but even I was sick of seeing my Glasgow Rose avatar .
Belated happy birthday to your son and good on him on sticking with the language course .
I've done plastering in the past but not big areas and most was patch plaster . Wouldn't manage a smooth finish these days .
We were talking a couple of days ago on os poor health thread and someone mentioned loss of future , my problem is more not feeling like me anymore . I used to be able to tackle pretty much anything .
I'm lucky my ceilings are only 7ft 6 high and I'm 5ft 6 . I have a very stable platform ladder with a hand rail .Big problem is not starting a flare , getting the brain to sound a warning if I'm about to do something stupid in time and generally being able to operate as I used to . I'll be 69 in June so it's now or never this year . So I'll eat the elephant bit by bit and do what I can with what I have and sing the theme from Shirley Valentine as I go .
Hope you feel a bit better now .
polly

mardatha

Maggie the blind man is a wee local long established company, he's an older man in his late 5os, very reliable and good at his job.
I have a big Kenwood thing that my lovely DIL got me for xmas one year. It's in the high top kitchen cupboard over the cooker, and the RV has to get it down for me. I hardly ever use it cos the noise scares me silly
I seem to live on FB now, once I couldn't stand it but all my groups are on there now.
I know what you mean Polly about life changing and not being the same as we used to be. I used to paint rooms for fun, was always moving the furniture round, loved interior design and revamped chairs chests lamps etc. Now I'm scared to tackle anything in case I run out of energy halfway in and can't finish it. As always happens now. And the Addisons is a whole different ballgame to ME - which I thought was the worst illness ever. This is a lot more complicated and they say it takes 12-18 months to get stable.
I AM JUST NOT THAT PATIENT !! pun intended

Knit_Witch

mardatha wrote: »

I like the sound of easipanel too Polly, hadn't heard of that. I had a lovely day yesterday, hit one of my fav wee shops in the middle of a 70% off refurbishment sale, came out with soft slim trousers in deep purple and another pair in black, for £12 each. Then a purple & black Regatta jacket, and jam scone in a cafe
Polly I've got 20cm of snow forecast for tomorrow, I dono what that is as I deal only in inches. But don't tell me cos it's probly one and a bit inches. 20 sounds better so I'll stick to it lol.
I got lovely blinds for my bedrooms, the man fitted them this morning. Not at all moneysaving as not cheap - but WOW. Been a long time since I got anything for the house that made me go WOW Plain cream open weave linen look. roller blinds. So elegant that I keep going through just to look at them Happyhappy.
Oooh and my other big achievement is that for 3 days I have cooked and it tasted like real food!

8 inches Mar - so not an insubstantial amount

Time to stay in and declutter some hot drinks :rotfl:

monnagran

Mar. your opening sentence reminds me of the old joke about the young woman soaking in the bath when there is a knock on the door and a voice saying, "Can I come in? I'm the blind man". Thinking that she was quite safe she invited him in. It wasn't until he came in, leant over the bath and asked if she was thinking of Roman or Venetian that she realised her mistake.

Sorry I've not been around much. It has been a manic couple of days. It is half term here so we have DGS for the week. DIL took pickle up to her parents for the weekend as we haven't seen them since Christmas. You may remember that last summer DIL's mother had a twinge in her back that turned out to be a tumour round her spine, and that was the secondary, She also had Myeloma. Anyway, DIL came back yesterday evening saying how much better her mother seemed, that she could get from her wheel chair into the car now and was waiting for her stem cell treatment soon.
In the early hours we had a phone call to say that she was being rushed into hospital, DIL booked the first ferry she could get on which didn't run because a 500 lb bomb had been dredged up in the sea off Portsmouth. She finally managed to get on a ferry as a foot passenger going to Southampton and 5 minutes into the journey had a call from her father to say that her mother had died.
Obviously we are all in a state of shock. We haven't told the children yet so if DS2 goes up to be with his wife, which he wants to do, I will be looking after an autistic teenager, a pre-school DGD, an ancient, on her last legs, huge dog and a lively, naughty, incontinent puppy.
I feel awful being so sorry for myself, my problems are miniscule in comparison. But I have to say that DS2 has just come in to say that they have decided that he will stay here and I am sitting in my room weeping with relief.

Sorry for the self-pitying moaning. A couple of years ago I would have stepped into the breach without a second thought and coped with one hand tied behind my back, but suddenly I feel very old and frail and I don't like myself very much.

Life has this sneaky habit of pulling the rug out from under you when you least expect it, doesn't it?

I do apologise to those of you with REAL problems.

Normal service will be resumed tomorrow.

Thank you for listening.

x

ivyleaf

mar The running out of energy thing sounds familiar. Our living room has one-and-a-half walls stripped of wallpaper and painted several years ago with white base coat. The other two-and-a-half still have the pale green vinyl wallpaper

pollyanna_26

Monna Your post has made me count my blessings , my thoughts are with your dil and all the family .
polly

Floss

Monna a big hug from Blackpool is winging its way to you. Your DiL will have her family when she gets to them, your DS will be her rock when she is back home with you all. Whisky cat sends some big-eyed love & snuggles too.

NM love that your DS believes you can't lift - long may he remember! Also well done for sticking with his Japanese. Are there any online video classes he could do to gain confidence with his spoken language?

Polly I'm still here! Been reading, but have all my family due this weekend so have been busy changing beds & cleaning the bathroom!

Storm Doris is beginning to blow a little, Whisky cat has just galloped inside after a quick "visit" and is warming her cold toes on me. She will get fed up soon an return to her haunt on the chair back above the radiator!

nannywindow

Monnagran just popped in to send you and yours as many hugs as you can carry.

nan

nursemaggie

Monna a big hug from me and no it is not worse trouble. It is a big responsibility when you are getting older to have complete charge. I don't feel I can manage, especially when today's parents still think their babies are made of the most delicate glass when they are 3 and half.

I knew what was coming when you said how well she was. It is surprising how many people have their best day just before they die. When I called my brother and our minister neither of them would believe me because they had both been in the afternoon. It's so much better for them that way to have chance to have a good day with relatives. It was Saturday so we had all been. Ill remember you all in my prayers.

Floss his course is online. The rest he does is he reads the Japanese papers, not the heavies, and watches Japanese TV. He has a few friends who are also doing it but he is the farthest ahead. I missed the r out there funny seeing as he is back to being a string bean. This morning he said he had made sense of his first Japanese song.

knitwitch I suppose you used one of those conversions I just turned my tape measure over.

mardatha

Monna pet it just hit you at a bad time, unawares. If you had to cope then you would have. And I've had the same sort of moments myself with my daft kids.