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Softstuff

Sometimes (ie extremely often) the only way I managed to "hold it together" in my last job and not tell them to go take a running jump (more or less politely phrased) is because I absolutely knew with cast-iron certainty that they were longing/hoping/praying for me to do exactly that and were deliberately trying their best to drive me into doing so.

At which point - they would have sat back/given each other "high fives" and started partying basically....

I was not going to give them the satisfaction - and just kept a close eye on my finances and reminded myself how things would be for me financially if I made their day and walked out of the job.

I was viewing my future job prospects if I walked out with a cold/hard realistic eye and I knew that I would have gone from my 9-5 Monday-Friday job with reasonable amount of holiday and steadily more money being paid into my pension to a situation that would have equalled = periods of unemployment interspersed with even lower-paid work than I had and, possibly, antisocial hours. Which would have led to me being, increasingly obviously, tired/upset at having my Life disrupted with antisocial hours and probably sacked for being useless at hiding it etc THEN another period of unemployment, followed by another job that tired me out/disrupted my Life and a longer period of unemployment. All culminating in basically eventually getting fed-up with uselessly trying to get a decent job and probably feeling ill with my health worsened by lots of standing around/irregular hours worked/etc.

Put like that - there was NO way they were going to hear their longed-for words of "I'm outa here"....The ones they got instead were "Better the devil you know".

Hence - my message to Hester is "Don't give them the satisfaction - better the devil you know". In Hester's case - management will have picked up the message that she basically wants out of the job and had expected to be able to retire soon and may figure that they've identified her achilles heel and they intend to play on it. Somewhere along the line someone amongst management will have a little list (if only in their head) of "People we can expect to leave soon of themselves - eg retirement" and be planning on using some of those departures as an excuse to cut jobs. They will have thought "Hester is on that list - she'll be retiring soon" and it will be as big a disappointment to them as to Hester that she can't do so for a while after all and they'll have to make mental revisions to that list accordingly.

fuddle

Uh Oh Hester. Don't overthink anything. Over thinking leads to paranoia and negativity. Easy said than done as when the rough got rougher I walked but if you can hack it then make sure you're blaze about any reasons the power that be appear to be x,y,z towards you.

You're a cracker, everyone you work with appreciates what you do and you're better than thumbing your nose at folk I reckon.

Here's to breezing through the day shrugging off whatever comes your way Hester. Rooting for you

Hard_Up_Hester

Ivyleaf, one of my DD's is a foster carer, it's a standing joke that every time she takes on a new child she gets headlice and worms!

Very successful meeting at work, the only thing I am in trouble for is worrying about things I cannot do anything about.

My line manager sent an email to all staff explaining the problems. She also reminded management that I had advised them not to buy X machines, the advice was ignored despite my years of experience and now we are faced with these problems.

The company that provided the machines aren't happy, we have an all inclusive contract and we are using way more consumables and receiving way more engineer visits than they budgeted for. Oh dear, what a shame, not!!

fuddle

Yey! That sounds like work are backing you Hester. It makes sense why the company fancy complaining about you complaining because it's costing them money. Like you say, such a shame.

You're valued alright.

nursemaggie

FPk I would have thought you would have written storms at least. I think Manchester must have had it worst as it was on the BBC News at 10.

Our electricity went off, I was in the middle of unpacking a rather large Ald! shop £103 :eek: Not so bad as it seems as it should last us until I go to Malta on 14th next month. DS bought 2 long sleeved T shirts and a sweatshirt and I bought some T shirts for DGS.

I will have to buy a few veg, bread and milk. I have enough meat for a month already in. Will have another big shop when I get back as I will leave stuff in the freezer for DS while I am away. I thought I would end up having to unpack in the dark but it was only off for a few seconds. I never thought I would ever spend that much in Ald!

nursemaggie

Hester So glad it was a someone has complained about you interview and you were justified.

milasavesmoney

Trying to catch up here. :wave::coffee:

Still mourning the loss of our darling boy Toby dawg. We all really miss the old rascal. I start to put my plate on the floor for him to get the last licks and he's not there. (Yes I put bleach in the dishwasher :A )

My only sister/sibling is in hospice care. Stage 4 lung cancer. She smoked a long time before quitting 15 yrs ago. We are not close...her choice...but it still hurts. Memories and all.

I had a lovely FaceTime with Quoye. :happylove. I had online shopped a 70% off fall clothing site of a good brand and brought her lots of autumn/winter things. Big girl now in a 2T. Her mom had opened the box and every item she pulled out was hugged, smiled at, tried on and I got a big Thankyou Mila! Well more like ank you but that's cuter anyway.:p

westcoastscot

Hester fantastic news - you must feel so much better, knowing your manager has your back!! :-)

nursemaggie

Hugs and more hugs Milla. How lovely to get such a reaction from Quoye.

monnagran

Hester: I am so disappointed. I'm having to send back the suit of armour and box of poison arrows that had just been delivered.. I was really looking forward to arriving with my posse and doing battle on your behalf. The helmet was a purler too. It had a full face visor and my family said they had never seen anything that suited me so well.
Never mind. I can always reorder if the occasion arises again.

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