The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

Jazee

Morning fencers.

RainyDays - we too moved to our holiday destination and felt that if it didn't work out that the worse that could happen is that we would move back. For us it has worked out, but if we'd had to return it wouldn't have been a failure. A failure is where you don't even try something. I second Mrs LW's words of getting involved in life in the village where you can. I hope it all works out for you soon.

Dry today fencers so you'll find me walking the dogs and then in the garden all day.

Have a great day everyone.

ivyleaf

Knit_Witch wrote: »

ivyleaf most supermarkets stock miniatures and some off licences as well (I have needed a mini bottle of something on numerous occasions!)

Thank you Knit Witch Local Co-Op didn't have any but we'll be going to Sainsbugs in the next couple of days so I'll have a look there. Or I suppose I could buy a bottle of the cheapest sherry and keep it just for cooking (I sure as heck wouldn't want to drink it, my stomach wouldn't be at all amused )

Rainy-Days Sending you some hugs and hoping you feel a bit better this morning. Northumberland is beautiful, but so very different from the Home counties. It's bound to take time to feel settled and find your own place in the community x

Rainy-Days

Thanks Candlelight, MrsLW and Jazee those kind words were really appreciated!

The local neighbourhood bigot is a Councillor. Both husband and wife and equally hideous and moved from the Midlands up to here with his job. Found out last week that he has this Tin Pot Hitler style attitude and he got moved by his bosses (frankly they had had enough of him and moved him to get him out of their hair). I had a blazing row with her in front of six locals and called her an effing old cow. They have rowed with their neighbour, rowed with me (which was spectacular and I feel terrible about blowing my stack and her waltzing around as though she is the victim) and have brought the local newspaper into disrepute by having articles printed which are frankly bordering libellous - the newspaper has had to bring in legal help with regard to one of his articles which is being dealt with - yet they still paint themselves as being hard done by and pointing the finger at everybody else saying it's their fault.

I was 'advised' by one of the neighbours that I should apologise to her, yet she was the one who started it and to be honest here I did actually finish it! The point being that these pair are the classic 'lets start a row and then walk away and leave em to it' type brigade.

I have crushing iolation syndrome. Friends are brilliant and I speak to them on the phone allot, but this has not worked out - for me!

MrsLW - jobs are pretty hard to come by up here and this local nieghbourhood bigot would make sure that they put their 'spoke' into the wheel at some juncture. I am hoping that when the newspaper runs it's article about them then hopefully people may see them in a different light. For me though the damage is well and truly done. I know you get vile people like this everywhere you go, but these pair are disgusting! I don't know they seem to be 'feted' because he is a councillor yet frankly he is nothing short of a short ar$sed ars$hole. Some of their neighbours are not taken in by them at all, but others are. Never had to tollerate anything like this and I am finding it hard, particularly because my friends are over 230 miles away and I don't really have anybody here that I can pop in to have a chat with.

My good friends have said the same that it is not a failure - even though i feel it is! I didn't think it would be a bed of roses, I was not fooled by that at all - I knew there would be tough avenues! I think it's time to perhaps think about moving back home!

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Oh lovey, I so know how you're feeling, the day we arrived here one of my lovely neighbours came to the front door as we were moving in and said' Don't expect coffee or to be invited in, you can ask for assistance in an emergency but other than that we're to be left alone!'.....welcome to your new life Mrs.L! she then introduced her daughter who was the same age as my youngest and daughter asked if they could take our dog to the park, now bear in mind my home was still being carried from lorry to house when said neighbour looked totally horrified and said' you're not sending bags to pick up after the dog? I've carrier bags indoors, I don't know what you've been used to where you lived before but HERE we pick up after our animals, WE HAVE STANDARDS!!!' again, oh so very welcome to your new home Mrs.L!!! I didn't take to her very well, and I guess there are absolutely vile people in all places. I did find bags, I didn't speak to her for years despite both the girls ending up at the same senior school and being mildly friendly. She speaks now and so do I, but there is less of the superiority being thrust in my face each time and sometimes she's even disposed to be friendly. I remain on my guard. Luckily the other neighbours have all thawed out and we're now on good terms with them.

If jobs are few and far between in your neck of the woods is there anything voluntary that might give you an introduction to the 'real' local people, they're usually much nicer and easier to get on with that bumped up incomers ever will be!!! Good luck pet!!!

lucielle

I'm in Northumberland, anything I can do to help?
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Nargleblast

Rainy Days - don't even think of moving away! If you do then the pond life neighbours will have won! It is obviously them who are out of step with everyone else, as you say they have caused trouble elsewhere. Just ignore them, let them fester in their own bitterness and bile, and get on with making your life as good as you can. Focus on the good things that drew you to Northumberland and do as Mrs LW says, find a way to become part of the community - you already have one thing in common with others, your mutual dislike of this obnoxious pair. I suspect in the fullness of time they will have to move on and make some other folks miserable.

Nargleblast

One more thing, Rainy Days - You have been in Northumberland for two years, that is now your home. In two years a lot can happen, and if you went back to the Home Counties now you could find a lot of things have changed, and not all for the good. People come and go, times change, neighbourhoods change. Some folks say you should never go back to the past because you will only find disappointment.

Floss

Rainy Days, it took me over a year to settle into my new town after relocating, but that was only 50 miles / an hour away from my family & friends. I think seeking voluntary work is a good one if it I affordable, and you may find life away from the unpleasant people to be a little less isolating.
Floss x

Rainy-Days

I will be honest, my confidence is pretty smashed in large part because of this! I am having the estate agents coming round on Wednesday with the view to selling.

You have to be happy in your home and despite the local neighbourhood bigot being in a position to claim a victory I do believe in Karma and I truly know they will have their day.

There are nutters everywhere, but I live in a small town and that can mean little spiteful minds!

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In that case pet do whatever it takes to get your balance back and go where you KNOW you'll be happy. Dreams sometimes turn out to be just that and the reality of living them isn't always as you've imagined it will be. Good luck to you in all you decide to do and we'll be waiting to hear your relocation plans and eventual move back to where your heart is, Lyn xxx.