Wealth = attractiveness?

VestanPance

There seems to be a lot of women with hang-ups about plumbers going on the replies so far! :rotfl:

notanewuser

SailorSam wrote: »

What's the name of that fella who runs Formula 1 racing, he always has a good looking young woman on his arm ?.... Bernie someone.

Ecclestone.

Izadora

VestanPance wrote: »

There seems to be a lot of women with hang-ups about plumbers

Which is strange considering the fact that the plumbers I know are on pretty good money...

As other people have said, I think that it's not wealth itself but the traits which will often lead to someone being wealthy which are attractive.

For me, I would find a man with drive and ambition but very little money more attractive that someone who was lazy but loaded.

Wantobeasaver

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

If anything it would probably be a turn off as I'm not a high earner and most likely never will be so I'd forever feel inferior

My bf is certainly by no means a millionaire but there's quite a big difference in our incomes (he earns more). It can be very difficult when he wants to do something & I can't afford it...I think things would be a bit easier if our incomes were more closely matched, in some ways.

j.e.j.

I haven't seen that daft film, but I can say that wealth in itself isn't a factor, for me. I've got to like someone and find them attractive. No amount of money would make me bed some horrible old slob.

Marisco

j.e.j. wrote: »

I haven't seen that daft film, but I can say that wealth in itself isn't a factor, for me. I've got to like someone and find them attractive. No amount of money would make me bed some horrible old slob.

Like Bernie Eccleston!! :eek: You'd have to be a serious gold digger to go out with him!! From all accounts, he's not a very nice bloke either. When I met oh he didn't have a bean, in fact he had debts, courtesy of his ex wife, but I didn't care, I fell for him, not his wallet.

engineer_amy

millysg1 wrote: »

financial security is "attractive" to me. E.g. if someone had lots of debts and never saved, id probably be "put off"!

Probably because im so on top of my own finances it would stress me out!

This ^^^^^


Financial security 'usually' goes hand in hand with other traits that I look for, such as being organised, will deal with things rather than bury your head in the sand, not frivolous with money.


I dated someone who had their wages spent within hours of it going into his account, lived in an overdraft, had defaults, could never arrange a night out because he was broke, always borrowing a tenner etc. it didn't last too long, mainly because of the money thing.


But im not a gold digger in any shape or form, my current boyfriend and I keep our finances completely separate. But its nice to know that he is financially stable and you can at least plan a weekend away, split the costs etc.


Wealth in its extreme form like Christian Grey doesn't impress me, nor does flashiness. I couldn't date a millionaire/billionaire if I did not find him physically attractive (or at least an attractive feature like eyes or smile) and I couldn't have a decent conversation.

Gloomendoom

My wife freely admits that the car I drove played a significant part in her initial attraction to me.

System

So are you attracted more to someone who has a bit of money/assets?

No but I couldn't see myself with someone that was so deeply in debt that he couldn't manage either. I'd be worrying what I'd got myself into.

and do you think doing so makes someone more shallow/gold digging?

Yes

margaretclare

I've neither read That Book nor have I seen That Film, nor have I the slightest intention of doing so.

An attractive voice has always been a big 'turn-on' for me.

The first time my DH phoned me, after we'd been in contact by email, the world turned over for me. At that time few people ever phoned me and when they did, in most cases it was to ask me to do something, like work an extra shift, change from days to nights, or for me to sympathise with someone else's problems. To hear that clear English male voice asking 'how was your day?' did it for me. Few people at that time gave a good goddamn how my day had been. That was what it was all about - that he came over as a gentleman (in the best possible interpretation of the word) and was concerned for me.