Partners ex keeps pestering him

sulkisu

divadee wrote: »

Thanks pickle. That's actually what I needed to hear. It's just hard night after night getting disturbed with a silly text or voicemail, I'm not insecure about the relationship I just struggle that anyone would need to cling for so long. Maybe I'm colder than I thiught. Hopefully it will all die down, that's all I want.

If he wants to maintain contact with her son, then it won't all die down - not until her son reaches adulthood anyway. For him to try to arrange and maintain contact with her child, without her input or knowledge, is just wrong on so many levels. Surely you can see that? I have three sons and while they are minors, the only person that can have a relationship with them without my permission or involvement, is their biological father. As for being 'disturbed every night by a text or voicemail'...really? What kind of ringtone does he have? [smiling Smilie].

sulkisu

Voltaire7 wrote: »

The boyfriend is obviously enjoying it as well, otherwise he wouldn't be playing the whole drama queen act every time he gets a txt.

My thoughts exactly. He could just read and delete, or not read and delete, without making a fuss. OP wouldn't be annoyed, in fact she would be none the wiser - why the need to draw attention to the fact that his ex has texted again - especially if the messages are as pointless as OP says?

misspickle_2

Let us know how you get on diva. It will all sort itself out x

morocha

I hope you are ok diva.
In our family I have seen this situation recently, My cousin has moved on and found a new GF, this GF hates his ex wife who he was married to for 10 years. His ex wife cheated on him too but he deeply cares for her, even tho he has moved on and does not love her anymore. He has been pushed by new GF to stop contacting and seeing her aswell.( they remained friends and she has a new partner too)... now she turned his family against the ex wife so they broke all contact with her. The Ex wife is obviously very upset about this.

I sometimes worry how my situation will be, I have two kids and me and my ex are very good friends, we both moved on with our lives, albeit we both are still single. I dread to think how my life will be like the day he finds a new GF, I am obviously sure she will not like that his parents are like my own parents, i love them so much, the same with the rest of the family, I will not just go away because my relationship with him has finished and of course, even if I do get married in the future, I will make sure my kids are close to their grandparents. I will not lose my relationship with them.

Things change constantly, give her time, she will get the message eventually and I don't think 1 year is long enough to move on with your life after being in a relationship for 10 years.She might be feeling lonely.