Advice needed over aggressive buyer

Hoploz

P.s. I'm sure once he's got the house he will just get on with it and forget about you. I'd be very surprised if he bothers you afterwards, though I can see why you want to do the videos and photos in this case.

Pyjamas

I think I am crediting him with too much intelligence but I am concerned there is something we are missing, he is making this strange request and I wonder what he intends to gain from it, like you say it is probably just a mind game to assert his authority. I suppose it is like when he sat outside my house with his cronies after the altercation, it is all to assert some power.

We are supposed to complete next Friday, I am counting down the days! We have refused his request and said that we find it to be inappropriate given that the property is his the next day and we would understandably be up to our necks in boxes trying to be ready for the removals men the next morning. The estate agents are going to wander round the house with me before the van pulls away so that they can corroborate the state of the house when we leave.

I truly hope that we do not hear anything else from him after completion, he has got a good deal with our house and he should be focusing on renovating it. I will have a full set of photographic and filmed evidence to counter any silly claim he may make. I just hope we are doing enough to protect ourselves.

Hoploz

Well whatever he intends to gain, he won't, as long as you don't let him in and give him the opportunity.

(Personally he wouldn't have got across my threshold after he had gazundered - but it's all very well saying that with the benefit of hindsight)

Jhoney_2

NO, no, no, no, no - Not only has he been intimidating, disrespectful etc, it just totally inconvenient and inconsiderate.

He had access at your generosity for many a visit. If he had concerns, he should not of exchanged contracts. The rest is immaterial now so tell him to crawl into his cave until completion.

moneyistooshorttomention

Personally, I don't think he has deserved being treated honestly and openly (as in telling him "No you cant" quite honestly).

By now, and to protect yourself, I'd just be mysteriously unavailable to answer my phone or my doorbell. That way, he cant find a way to put further requests for entry by and large. He might try and put a letter through the door...but it got mysteriously swept up with the junk mail if so.

That's certainly what I do if someone has honestly had something explained to them and told "No" is the answer..I just turn deaf/apparently out at all times/etc and literally don't hear any further unreasonable requests made.

Giddypip

Ensure you are out of the property at the time specified in your contract to ensure no comeback from him.

DRP

Make sure you have a redirect setup for your mail

AMILLIONDOLLARS

Do not allow him in the day before, (I was thinking of the damage he did to the wall) you can't keep an eye on him and anything could happen whilst he is out of sight. Take lots of pictures of the condition of the house and everything you are leaving behind.

If he doesn't like it, tough! He no longer has the upper hand. It would be interesting to see if he threatens not to complete, but I am sure his Solicitors will have advised him of the implications.

Good luck with the move.

AMD

Pyjamas

Update, I came home from work today about 7.00pm and he was sat outside my house again. I am just not coping with this anymore. I drove straight off to my Mums, to avoid having to get out of the car with the baby and be accosted. I have since heard he sat there for a bit and then went in talking to my neighbours. I really don't care about him talking to the neighbours but these mind games are just horrendous. Police were great again and did a drive by he had just gone though unfortunately so they couldn't have a word. I will be getting my solicitors on to his in the morning. I just can't wait for this nightmare to end, I am constantly checking outside as I am paranoid he is there, I know that makes me crazy but I am so anxious now.

moneyistooshorttomention

Not long now. Keep your pecker up and I'm pleased to see you followed my advice of "Do NOT have any further communication with him". I am convinced that is the best thing to do.

You were wise to just drive straight off to your mothers place.

Just keep in mind a list of places you can go, if need be, whilst you wait for this to be over (through from coffeeshops for a cup of coffee whilst you wait it out for him to go away again to parents/good friends places).

Have in mind somewhere you can stay overnight if need be.

Stay well away from him.

Remind your solicitors about the Protection from Harassment Act.