Miserly friends

Soleil_lune

TheMagician wrote: »

One of my friend's boyfriend is so tight he won't ever pay for dinner when they go out, always makes her pay for exactly what she ate.
However, he's obviously aware of how tight that is as she told me when they're out with family, he'll pay for them both but ask for the money back as soon as they get home! :huh:

He also keeps a tab of what he's paid for in case she doesn't have cash or internet access to transfer the money straight away.

When she was made redundant he told her that he hopes she's got enough savings to cover her half of the bills while she's in between jobs. She was adamant to me that he'd not pay her half no matter what.

Why on EARTH would someone stay with a man like this???

I know none of us are perfect, but this just takes the biscuit. Does he charge her for petrol if he drives her anywhere? Does he ask for the money back if he gets a prescription for her from the pharmacy? If he gave her a couple of nurofen plus tablets out 'his' packet, would he work out how much each pill costs, and charge her accordingly?

Being a couple is about sharing, and being a partnership. IMO the behaviour from your friend's man shows a lack of respect, and that he doesn't care for her, and that he doesn't love her.

What a dreadful relationship this sounds. I would prefer to be single for life rather than have a man like this. But I suppose she comes out with the usual guff that other women who have awful men do, that 'he is kind and nice to me sometimes, and thoughtful in other ways' or 'well he doesn't cheat on me or hit me.'

Words fail me when I see the behaviour that some women tolerate from men.

meritaten

If my OH tried to charge me petrol money for taking me shopping - he would be facing a rather large bill for
Laundering his clothes
Cooking his meals
Picking up after him
oh and whats the going rate for 'intimate services'?

Soleil_lune

meritaten wrote: »

If my OH tried to charge me petrol money for taking me shopping - he would be facing a rather large bill for
Laundering his clothes
Cooking his meals
Picking up after him
oh and whats the going rate for 'intimate services'?

And a whole lot more I bet!!!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Maybe we should all set up direct debits for our other halves!!!

Wouldn't work with us though, as we have a joint account, but it's a good idea for couples with separate finances.

ithinkyourcrazy

I've had this, been for a meal with my friend and her family before. I was broke, popped £25 in my account to use for my meal and £10 petrol. The place was quite cheap. Burger £7, drink £2 etc.
We get there, my friend's family order the expensive things on the menu, pints, bottles of wine. When the bill came I was told my share was £34. I had to pay it on a credit card. I never said anything and vowed to never go out for a meal with them again. I have stuck to that!
On another note. A few years ago I went for a meal with some friends from work. 3 of us were drinking out of 4. We ordered some wine and make a mistake on the price. It wasn't £4.99 a bottle, it was £49.99 a bottle, My non drinking friend tried to pay £25 towards it despite not drinking a drop! She thought it was normal! She just paid for her own. Splitting the bill is fine when you all have the same thing. But people shouldn't order half the menu at the expense of others.

meritaten

this happened at my sister in laws hen night. about 14 people went out to an Indian Restaurant. my mum hates 'foreign food' so asked for a grilled chicken breast with salad, I just had a Lamb Biryani and neither of us had a drink. the rest of the table were merrily ordering starters, drinks, desserts .................I just had this feeling we were about to get stiffed...........and was right. mums meal was about £8 and mine was just over £10 and when the bill came - yes it was about £43 each! mum would just have paid up - but being a 'Mare' I just said - Not paying that, we only had chicken salad and Lamb Biryani, and put £25 on the table. my sister in law has hated me since!

BargainJunky

Normally if I go out with friends we just split the food bill but make sure that drinks are paid for separately as sometimes not everyone is drinking alcohol.

I used to work with a group of older women and it was common practice to pay for exactly what you had eaten or drank. We went to out one evening and the bill was allocated out to every person yet we were around £15 short - it turned out that the restaurant had added an extra main course and had we just split the bill no one would have been the wiser.

It took a while to convince the restuarant that we had been charged for more main courses than people and they finally altered the bill. One colleague went with the cash to pay the bill - no tip was given due to the mess up. The manager then proceeded to bring us the 20p or so change and my friend asked for it in 1p's so that it could be shared!

We did return to the restaurant again and surprise surprise they tried to overcharge again but we were ready for it.

NICHOLAS_2

There's always a kill joy (tight !!!!) that goes to the restaurant and eats virtually nothing and drinks water (why leave your house) which complicates the bill situations.

When i am out having a good time i don't really treat money as an object, i know that even if i have a bender it's not like i'll spend more than a couple hundred on beer and food before i'm face down on the pavement.

I buy drinks for people too, even the ones that are tight with money. I never really judge people like that but when other people point it out i sometimes think people have a cheek being first out of the taxi and to the bar types. It's not something i lose sleep over.

I knew one kid who was really tight with money and i think he was happy that everyone knew it and thought he was a complete coq head, he was a PCSO and a complete moron as well as tight. He had a smile like the grinch.

I remember when he got a free bed in a hotel room because someone pulled out of a holiday last minute. Like a mug on the way down i gave him petrol money even though the others told him to do one, they just told him to do one irrespectively and didn't realise he had a cheek asking.

He was doing 100mph on the motorway in his shed of a car and i mentioned his petrol would be going down quick, he pulled and awkward face as if he had pooed himself and didn't speed after that.

I remember when a mate managed to borrow a tenner off him, god knows how... and the next day he called him 'where the is my money' was the first thing he said.

People tolerated him as he was an old school mate.

A_Phoenix_of_Tangerine

Mr_Toad wrote: »

My BIL is a swine for this trick. When we go out as a group we usually simply divide up the bill but he started to abuse this by ordering the most expensive food on the menu and filling his boots from the bar, wine, shorts, beer, the lot.

He never had to drive as his idea of sharing the driving is that he drives there and his wife drives back.

After a couple of times when he abused the rest of us we made a verbal agreement not to put drinks on the bill, he got round this by going to the bar but telling them to put it on the bill then breaking his neck to get the bill at the end of the evening so nobody would see his drinks. Didn't work.

On one very memorable occasion the rest of us decided enough was enough and let him fill his boots then at the end of the meal we each put the exact amount owed into the kitty leaving him with a very large bill and under no illusion that he was busted.

He's so thick skinned he still tries it on but we don't let him get away with it.

Another of his tricks was to get in a large round but always be last to buy in in the expectation that most of us are driving or don't drink as much so when it's his turn it's a cheap round. He's always first to the pub door but holds it open for everyone so he's last at the bar.

These days we always make him buy the first round and when he tries to wriggle out we point out exactly why, he hates this, he like people to think he's generous, go figure!

You should see him hopping from one foot to the other later in the evening when people later in the round are paying less than he did

Once while on holiday we had a lovely meal in a restaurant and the two waitresses were absolutely superb. It wasn't an expensive restaurant but we left them a generous tip. I caught him taking a large denomination note from the tip and replacing it with some low value coins. 'Hold up' I said in a loud voice to the others 'Mr tightwad is just robbing the waitresses of their tip while he thinks nobody is watching'.

He rather sheepishly returned the note with some lame excuse and tried to take his change back, I made him leave that as well.

It's true what they say. You can choose your friends but not your family.

Jeeesus! :eek: :eek: Imagine welcoming THAT into your family?! I honestly don't think I could be friendly with someone as selfish and calculating as he - much less inviting him on holiday / nights out! I know he kind of comes as part of the package, but yowzers... I think I would choose. :cool:

mellymoo74

Nicholas did he work in health and safety?

burnoutbabe

TheMagician wrote: »

One of my friend's boyfriend is so tight he won't ever pay for dinner when they go out, always makes her pay for exactly what she ate.

I'm not sure how the man not paying for dinner but splitting it makes one tight? Surely it should be shared cost if a couple are living together?