Mothers-in Law

sulphate

fluffnutter wrote: »

How did all these terrible women manage to raise such pleasant sons?

From what I can gather DH's grandparents did the lion's share of the childcare, I'm convinced that his close relationship with them made him the person he is today as he actually has little in common/to talk about with his parents.

I think the worst thing MIL did was last summer when DH picked up his GCSE certificates from their house that he needed for a job interview. I remarked on him getting an A in drama and MIL just laughed and said (in front of him) "yeah shame he didn't get good grades in the subjects that actually matter" :eek: DH pointed out that his dyspraxia might have had something to do with it as it wasn't picked up until his uni days. MIL has never believed there is such a thing and yet again laughed at the very idea, told him not to be ridiculous and that the educational psychologist was obviously wrong etc etc etc. Sigh.

catkins

Jagraf wrote: »

I would just say son and daughter, as that's what they are. Sounds awful though, but that's the MIL fault not the daughter's.

Sounds still like you're saying being adopted isn't equal to natural, I think that's the problem.

My MIL spoils my OH (her son) rotten, yet isn't half as kind to her daughter. Strange how some parents behave.

Yes it is my MIL's fault but the daughter plays up to it always bad mouthing me and OH.


Parents should treat all their children the same. If they are not capable of that then perhaps they shouldn't have children?


She has always made it plain that she only wanted a daughter and not a son so it's a shame she didn't just adopt and not bother having a natural child

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browneyedbazzi wrote: »

I definitely get on better with my partner's mum than with my own mother! If my mother wasn't my mother (ie I met her at school or at work) I would steer well clear but I'd happily be friendly with my partner's mum even if I didn't know him.

I do feel sorry for my Wife, as my mum is a rubbish MIL and a half-arsed excuse for a grandma to our kids. For a long time I would get very worked up when they visited. I can't believe i'm getting worked up about them visiting in 2 weeks time now just thinking about it!

She never liked my wife from the get go.. it's a good job she lives 200 miles away from us!

My MIL just looked after my youngest all day whilst my wife and I worked, and looked after our eldest after school. On the other hand; my mum has never even changed one of my kids nappies.

ognum

This all makes me very sad, of course I don't know what my DIL and SIL think of me but I truly love them, think they are both very good for my children and my grandchildren.

Both my kids are better people for marrying the partners they have and there was nothing bad about them but their partners make the whole.

I hope not all MILs are bad and I really hope my in laws love me like I love them.

Jagraf

ognum wrote: »

This all makes me very sad, of course I don't know what my DIL and SIL think of me but I truly love them, think they are both very good for my children and my grandchildren.

Both my kids are better people for marrying the partners they have and there was nothing bad about them but their partners make the whole.

I hope not all MILs are bad and I really hope my in laws love me like I love them.

Of course they do. There are some fab MILs and some really awful SIL and DIL too. It's more about the person rather than their title x they are lucky to have you by the sound of things.

annie_d

I think i have spoken here previously of my mother in law.

I was 40, divorced, 3 teenage children...i was from the North. Her son was 24 just graduated, living at home and we met on the internet. That was 2000.

We married and have been together, verily happily ever since.

My mother in law ( and father in law) have only ever been absolutely wonderful to me and my children and I am very thankful to have them both in my life.

I don't know that i could have behaved so nobly if i was in their position. x

onlyroz

My MIL has Alzheimers and has no idea who I am (or my husband for that matter). I haven't seen her in about 3 years.

My husband gets on extremely well with my mum, better than he ever did with his own parents, despite a shaky start (there is a significant age gap which my parents were a bit dubious about). My mum occasionally forgets herself and does things like ruffle his hair, although she's never yet called him "son".

gayleygoo

I'm not actually married to OH, but I have two lovely "mothers-in-law" (his parents divorced and his dad remarried.) They are both easy to get on with, good to us and their grandchildren, and we've never fallen out. I haven't agreed with everything they've ever said, but they are fantastic really

MIL has told me how much she loves me, thinks I'm great for her son and thinks of me as one of her daughters - I couldn't ask for a higher compliment, even if she hadn't had several glasses of wine at the time FIL and "step" MIL often look after the children, take them on outings and would generously help us if we ever needed it. I've been a bit run down with pregnancy this week and they've all been round with support and hugs, and I feel loved by them.

Actually I'm very lucky that I get on well with all of OH's family. I don't know if I could put up with the drama of nasty in-laws!

meritaten

my MIL when I first met her, I thought she was lovely - but, when I really got to know her, I realised she was a narcissist. ever so sweet on the surface but a real 'back-stabber'. she played her sons off against each other and did it to us DILs too. all for her own ends. as she was convinced the world revolved around HER.
I am a MIL and I try very hard to be a good one. I actually love both my DILs and my SIL. and I do bite my tongue and don't criticise even if I think they are wrong.

sassysar

My MILis in India with her toy boy who is two years older than my DH !
She is out of the country most months and ran off and left the family when they were small .