Mothers-in Law

ChristinaC

Nice article, thanks for sharing! My mother-in-low is nice, but a little crazy. She is too emotional. Every time when I speak with her she asks me what I've cooked for her boy!? haha

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I think i get on better with my MIL than my own mum (as my mum can be a tad narcissistic and cold)

tea_lover

Me ex-MIL was a nightmare. I thought that as she lived on another continent she wouldnt cause too much trouble... I was wrong. I realised this when she phoned my parents (who she had met once) to complain that I was making her son get a job. Apparently as he wasn't working when we got married (having graduated the week before), I had accepted he didn't need to work.

I wasn't sorry to see the back of her, her v odd husband or her pathetic son.

SingleSue

When I was married to her son, my mother in law was awful, nothing I did was right and we didn't have a good relationship at all.

Since our divorce, she has been absolutely amazing, really supportive, helped out when she could and even badgered her son (he got the nagging of his life apparently), into paying maintenance for our children.

Faith177

I hate my MIL with a passion she is a controlling, meddling, manipulative scrounger and how she ever managed to produce and raise my OH into the semi normal person he is I'll never know!

I have detailed some of worst crimes on her in the past but the main issue is money she constantly borrows all the time and OH just won't say no she owes us £1000's

Six weeks before our wedding she called us asking for us to pay her, OH's 2 brothers and MIL's partner (who is also OH's older half brother but that's a WHOLE different story) travel and accomodation as they couldn't afford it. They had know about the wedding for 3 years !!!!!!!!

She is constantly on at us about having kids despite knowing full well OH might not be able to have them

We use to get on great until me and OH got engaged and then it all changed

michbright

My mother in law is lovely most of the time but seems to blow hot and cold, more cold since my BIL (her son) remarried and finally had children.

When I was pg with my 3rd, I was told I was having too many children and I should make sure I have a c-section and get myself sterilised at the same time :eek:. Needless to say, I didn't speak to her for nearly 3 months after that.

However, when my SIL was pregnant with her 3rd child (BIL's 2nd), no mention was made that 3 is too many. In fact, she had more digs at me - even said to my sister (who is number 3) that having more than 2 children is too many!! She keeps going on about me getting myself sterilised because obviously I've forced my DH into each and every pregnancy or they've all been immaculate conceptions.

She's also quite critical of our house and the fact that it's 'lived in'. When I say I've not had time to keep the house pristine, her response is, "Why not?" BIL doesn't get this as he has a full time housekeeper, so doesn't have that issue.

She can be nice, I just think she doesn't think before she speaks and tends to speak her mind more to me than my SIL, maybe because I don't speak my mind back - my mother raised me to be polite to my elders, whereas my SIL feels there's no reason why she shouldn't discuss her love life (and mine) with our MIL!

My BIL, well he's another story entirely. If it weren't for the fact that his children are my children's only first cousins (at the moment), I would quite happily have nothing to do with him. He makes my skin crawl.

Thankfully, they live abroad, so we don't see them very often.

kathrynha

fluffnutter wrote: »

How did all these terrible women manage to raise such pleasant sons?

Whether or not my mother-in-hell managed to raise such pleasant sons is up for debate. Hubby in prone to strops just like a toddler, and used to question whether it was right for him to be doing housework.
Also brother-in-law is in his 50s and still takes his washing to his mums for her to do, can't cook, can't clean and can't budget. Hubby is more like his Dad and isn't thankfully quite so bad.

heartbreak_star

VestanPance wrote: »

My ex mother-in-law was awesome. Shame about her daughter!

This made me chuckle a bit

Ex-OH's mum was a little scary as she had mental health issues and I think she expected me to look after her for some reason. She was, however, lovely and her son is a nice bloke if a little spoilt as a youngster

Current OH's mum is wonderful - she does fab dinners and has kind of adopted me as one of her own. She's also very understanding about the fact she won't get any grandchildren from us

HBS x

catkins

My mother in law is a nasty, vindictive, bigoted, evil woman. She is nasty to almost everyone (except her beloved adopted daughter). She has no friends and most of her family don't talk to her.


I haven't seen or spoken to her for almost 5 years and then only because it was father in law's funeral. Before that I hadn't had any contact for about 6 years. OH also has no contact with her.


She was nasty from the first day I met her. According to her it "wasn't normal" that I am 3 years older than OH. Then when we told her we were getting married (after 5 months) she said I must be pregnant or tricking him into it! Because I didn't want a church wedding she told everyone I had been married before when I hadn't and on the day of the wedding she said "I'll give it a year if you are lucky" and then denied to OH that she had said it!


Everything we have ever done is wrong. We lived in a 3 bed house and she said we were greedy wanting a big house when there is only the 2 of us. We then moved to a 2 bed and she said "oh what a small house, is this all you could afford"!


Her adopted daughter though can do no wrong.


She occasionally leaves messages on our phone saying how lonely she is and no one visits her. Well I think that serves her right

tesuhoha

fluffnutter wrote: »

How did all these terrible women manage to raise such pleasant sons?

That's a good question. In my case my husband had an abusive childhood both physical and mental but being very intelligent as he got older he saw through everything, including the dominance and lies.

There was a period when he turned against her after she rejected her grandchilden (not just ours) over a family dispute but he did make peace with her just before she died.