We all need to be heard for a little while.

Pyxis

Well, if ever there was a good reason to rant, Tea, this was it.

In fact, you could have ranted even more massively than you did.

Rant as much as you like.

What a shame you absolutely had to clean the mess up. But good on you for not doing the bedding.

This surely gives you leverage for insisting he moves, like now!

If he has his own place, he has to go to it after this.

I'd get his suitcases out and start putting his clothes out neatly to go in the suitcase.

tea_lover

He's had the keys for his rented place for nearly a month now. He's paying rent, council tax etc there, and still paying into joint account. The money alone would be enough to make me move!

He was saying on Friday again that he didn't want to go, that he knew he'd been useless, that he'd change. Blah, blah, blah. Told him that's not happening, that its too late and that he really, really needs to just.move.out

He's had his last chance to do this nicely, he has to go today.

Pyxis

Absolutely, Tea. :A

Errata

A very similar thing happened to someone I knew. She threw a bucket of water over him and the bed, which woke him up and he moaned - so she threw another bucket of water over him and the bed.
Desparate times call for desparate measures.

Chuck his stuff into bin bags and chuck them out of the door, swiftly followed by him. You deserve better than cleaning up after a drunk who doesn't give a monkey's who has to clear up after him.

Pyxis

Also, Tea, I'd put a rocket under the solicitor dealing with the completion.

It wouldn't be FOH telling them to dawdle over it, would it?

mellymoo74

God tea.
Are you ok?
Chase the solicitors on Tuesday for a completion date. Is there anyone you can have stay with you?

Neighbours been bouncing around (think 2 year old screaming and jumping off sofas) from 6.50am - 1.15pm so no rest.

OH just fed me a valium from his and told me to try and get calm while their out.
He will take me to TIA unit when I want to go (reasons for putting it off are twofold, OH wont deal with it which will set me off again, I hate going it achieves nothing apart from being prodded pocked and fed oxygen.

I know I need to tho

Still haven't showered, when it gets like this the water hurts

Pyxis

Poor Mellymoo, what a very rough time you've been having, these last few weeks.

tea_lover

Thanks guys, have calmed down a bit now. It wasn't quite the scene from trainspotting, bit I feel any poo in the bed is too much (maybe I'm just fussy?!:rotfl:)

Annoyingly I now feel a bit guilty about shouting.

Melly, is a bath an option? Or maybe just a good flannel wash. Sometimes a shower can feel a bit much. Take care x.

Pyxis

Tea, do not feel guilty for shouting! Poo in the bed, or anywhere, from someone who is not incapacitated by illness, is never acceptable!

Do not feel sorry for shouting!

mellymoo74

No excuse for a grown man to not just poo himself but poo himself in 2 rooms and not clean it up.

I will fall over if I try to bath. Difficult to get up once lying down thanks to bloody arm and leg weakness.

OH helps me to step in the shower when I build up to the pain. (Stupid head)
Plus the cool neck thing of wet hair helps (He's been known to really gently wash my hair for me, not touch the scalp)

Back to lying down with snoring dogs.

Froo has cleaned the weak hand and arm up to the shoulder.

Promised OH roast pork dinner if he helps with the getting things in and out of the oven.