We all need to be heard for a little while.

calleyw

WaS I am sorry to hear that.

I too am shrinking my world. I chat to people on line and am very good at making people who know me think things are ok.

But my family don't care. I am aunty and not seen them for nearly 2 months not for the want of trying. There mum has to prime them before I arrive so them know who I am.

if I don't phone my parents never hear from them unless they want something.

My social life is my husband. And have one other friend but he is busy and has a gf so can't be there for me all the time. He is a really nice person.

So it just me, myself and I. When i went to see a counselor the other week. he said don't retreat. Oh well I never knew that one did I. It does not help that I am shy and really just don't seem to play well with others and make friends.

At the moment everyone seems to annoy me even though they are doing nothing wrong. next door is driving me mad. Just a bit of banging here and there but it just hacks me off. There are other reasons I don't like her but that's not a story for public consumption and makes me look bad.

Its got to the point where I have cashed in some stocks and shares so I don't have to rush back to work any time soon. I know the longer out will make it worse. But I need to get a grip on everything at the moment before I can get back out in the big wide world and get my life sorted the way I want it to be.

Yours

Calley

dragonette

I'd happily take the plants WaS, I love bromeliads!

I too have shrunk my world, both for physical and MH reasons. Yes, I will start a diary and ask to be referred to MH services. And self refer to local charities, of i can face out! I consider myself lucky that most of my issues are physical and I can usually make a plan of attack - carrying it out is another matter.

Hugs to all

Pyxis

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Remember I bought WaSp a couple of plants? The bromelaid has reached the stage of producing offspring. A few days ago I noticed a single baby plant, I have just checked and now there are 6! I quickly looked up what to do and they need to be removed when the babies reach half the size of the adult which takes a few months. Then the mother plant immediately creates more babies and this can go on for 2 years! I hadn't planned for this and of course me being me I can't throw them away! What happens when the babies start producing babies?! Anyone want a plant? Or 4?

What you could do is snip out the runners as soon as they appear, before there are any 'baby' plants.

Otherwise, give them to charity shops or church fetes etc.
Trouble is, you'd have to keep getting pots and compost, just to give them away! Best to start snipping! Think of it as pruning, to keep the plant healthy. A lot of effort goes into reproduction! Or maybe let it produce one new one a year, so that if anything happens to the main plant, you still have another!.


Edit.
Calley, do you feel up to giving yourself a timetable?
Allow yourself a given number of weeks (you decide) when you don't have to think about anything, unless you want to.
Then a period of time when you would like to........whatever.......sort the house out, do this, do that, to get things in place for what you want/need to do.
Then a period of time when you will start to think about a return to some work, be it part-time, full-time, a stop-gap temporary job, or whatever is best for you.

Stick the timetable up somewhere. You can bring things forward if you feel up to it, but you don't have to. Tell yourself you won't go beyond the periods of time, though.

That way, you are allowing yourself to pause and take stock, without feeling guilty or stressed about doing so, AND you have a Plan in place.

Waves_and_Smiles

I think you have done the right thing for taking a bit more time, Calley. You need to give yourself time to heal and concentrate on you for a while. I am so sorry that your family aren't supportive, that must be even harder. Have a huge or warm handshake, whatever feels safest today.

Would that be a standing order of bromelaids, dragonette? Two every 3 months? *Looks hopeful*
At no point when I bought this thing did the details mention a ridiculous amount of babies! I don't have enough window ledges! WaSp thinks this is hilarious, incidentally.

Oooh, pruning could work, Pyxis! That is being kind to the plant, isn't it? I have visions of these babies having 6 each, I will be known as the crazy bromelaid woman!

dragonette

Pruning is def kinder to the plant than constant reproduction, allows it to have a rest

heartbreak_star

We apparently have a fig tree in our garden.

No idea where that came from!!

HBS x

Waves_and_Smiles

You you know what would look great with a fig tree? A circle of bromelaids to surround it, HBS!

(Is it working yet?)

Pyxis

heartbreak_star wrote: »

We apparently have a fig tree in our garden.

No idea where that came from!!

HBS x

Ooh I love love love figs! I have a small fig tree in a large pot, but like all my garden, it's very neglected.

mellymoo74

Help

Do I want to work at JLR doing 12 hour days? It will look good on my cv and gain some new skills or stay where I am?

Help not had enough sleep to make decisions

heartbreak_star

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

You you know what would look great with a fig tree? A circle of bromelaids to surround it, HBS!

(Is it working yet?)

Are they good at looking after themselves? Unless I can bung it in a small greenhouse or leave it well alone, I'm not very green-fingered!

Pyxis wrote: »

Ooh I love love love figs! I have a small fig tree in a large pot, but like all my garden, it's very neglected.

This one has looked after itself for quite some time *blush* it was basically a little sproutling in the middle of the lawn that OH spotted and we left it be to see what it was haha!

I have bought a Chardonnay grape-vine to nurture - I would love to make a bottle of wine that I'd grown the grapes for

HBS x