Snoring

Littlebettyboop

hazyjo wrote: »

I think I was more worried about what other people would think about us having separate rooms. I started going in the other room to get some sleep, and haven't really looked back. I always thought I suffered with insomnia, but now realise I just sleep better on my own (with a cat usually!)

My OH goes to bed about 10pm. I go up around 12.30am. I never just get straight into bed which he finds annoying. Also, he likes the windows (if not too cold) and curtains open - I don't. His snoring is sometimes really bad.

We were driving each other slightly crazy - so now I just go straight into the other room and OMG it's lovely! I can sit there stroking Lottie playing Candy Crush before I nod off, or read FB, or read a book, and not worry about waking him. I can straighten the sheet, make sure the duvet is the right way round (unlike with him where it seems to end up sideways by the time I come to bed), and I can actually sleep!

Maybe try it for a month or so.

We're a very loving happy couple, btw

violettasomerset wrote: »

Definitely worth trying separate rooms. I have a sleep condition, not snoring, that means I make a right racket - OH claims to be able to hear me from downstairs, over the TV. Pretty much since we first moved in together, 9 years ago, we've slept apart and it works so much better - we both get a better night sleep as I'm not waking him up, and he's not waking me up to tell me to shut up. It also works well as we go to bed and get up at different times. If you're concerned about intimacy then you just go to one room or the other first, and then one of you leaves when you're ready to sleep, or one of you goes to the other room first thing in the morning.

Having said all that, we only admit to a few people that we don't share a bed - but since we've been together over 10 years, it's clearly working for us! I'd also second trying your GP and getting a referral to the sleep clinic, particularly if you find yourself exhausted during the day all the time, as that could be sleep apnoea which can be dangerous if you drive (I had a boss who had that and he used to drift off to sleep at the wheel - I had to report him to management as he wasn't safe).

I would also recommend separate rooms, And like many have said n here, I wonder why it's taboo to not share a bedroom ? Some people do assume that your marriage is in trouble, and that you almost certainly do not have sex. Nothing could be further from the truth for most people who don't share a room.

In fact, getting poor sleep is not conducive to a good relationship, so why people would not have separate rooms (if there is a snoring problem) just baffles me (if they have a spare room of course!)

freda

I asked my doctor, as an afterthought, whether it was worth sending my oh to see him regarding his snoring. He said no, and prescribed ME sleeping tabs. I am 'allowed' 2-3 per week and they keep me sane!

dinky_dragon

Ive been with my partner for 5 years, and apart from being on holiday together - we have always slept in separate beds. I NEED my sleep, and good quality...we had tried to sleep together on numerous occasions (because we felt like we weren't a "real" couple if we didn't..) and it just made us miserable.

His snoring was so bad that he went to the GP and they referred him to ENT and he ended up having an operation earlier this year - it cured his snoring - but we still sleep in separate beds! We are very happy together, it doesn't make us any less of a couple, and we will both happily admit that bedtime is our favourite part of the day - doing our own thing in our own rooms!

Good luck!