Snoring

torbrex

I had a deviated septum which was causing me all sorts of problems and when that was fixed my snoring stopped instantly, I had been a loud snorer from my early teens

dontone

DH used to terrible for it. There were times that when he came off his night shifts, I could hear him snoring when I was sat downstairs, he was that loud. So I really sympathise with your OH.
If I were you, I'd go and see my GP but, take your OH with you. I insisted on going with DH as he actually mentioned it to his GP before, and they seemed to fob him off. When I went with him, I explained how loud he was, and not only the noise of the snoring, but DH seemed it do a sort of 'blowing' noise, like he was trying to clear his throat.
Anyway, after various tests, it was the dentist who came up with the solution - a mouth guard that stops the palate in the roof of his mouth from slipping back and vibrating. It was costly, but it did the trick. It's worked so well, that it's not often DH needs to use it now, it seemed to settled everything in his mouth down.
Short term, earplugs or separate rooms will help your OH's sanity, I remember being close to tears some nights because of the noise. Didn't help that we had idiots for neighbours who though nothing of door slamming or knocking lumps out of each other, so for us, separate rooms wasn't really an option. Earplugs helped a bit, but long term, please go and get checked out. Your OH will thank you for it (but again, ask her to go with you)
HTH.

Peter333

Simon1878 wrote: »

I think my snoring is going to destroy my relationship. I can imagine my OH slowly resenting me the more she doesn't get sleep. Neither of us want to sleep in separate rooms either which makes it hard.

So far I've tried.

Nasal strips (cheap) - Didn't work
Little finger ring (ebay cheap) - Didn't work

I think it's hereditary, my mums side are all chronic snorers. However I'm not going to deny that my weight is probably playing a part, I've started making an effort with that so we shall see how that goes.

My next stage is to try Nasal spray by Nytol..

Any other suggestions?

hazyjo wrote: »

Are you sure you don't want to sleep in separate rooms?

Why?

I thought the same - but actually I think I was more worried about what other people would think. I started going in the other room to get some sleep, and haven't really looked back. I always thought I suffered with insomnia, but now realise I just sleep better on my own (with a cat usually!).

My OH goes to bed about 10pm. I go up around 12.30am. I never just get straight into bed which he finds annoying. Also, he likes the windows (if not too cold) and curtains open - I don't. His snoring is sometimes really bad.

Anyway, maybe try a month apart in separate beds and see how you get on? Could always sleep together on a Fri and Sat night.

We're a very loving happy couple, btw

Jx

fluffnutter wrote: »

Separate rooms are what you make them. There's something quite sexy about being visited in your own boudoir so don't write it off. Seems odd to be prepared to leave someone without considering separate rooms first. Surely being apart for ever is worse than being apart when you're asleep??

I have to echo what many peeps are saying here Simon. There is no reason WHATSOEVER to not have separate rooms. I have no idea why sleeping apart is so frowned upon and so 'taboo.' Me and the lady wife have been married almost 30 years, and have had separate rooms for about 8-9 years... since our two oldest left home. (They left just a few weeks apart.) Only the daughter lives here now. (Though she is at uni most of the time!)

We started to sleep apart because my snoring was bothering my wife. It's not THAT loud, honestly! but she said it aggravated her. We actually got separate beds about 12 years ago, as I got sick of her quilt hogging, and she got sick of me coughing in her ear. LOL! :rotfl:

But it's WONDERFUL having separate rooms! I have made my room my own, with all my hobby stuff, and all my clothes and bits and bobs, and all my clothes and possessions in the wardrobe, and she has made her room hers. Doesn't mean you aren't close, doesn't mean you aren't in love, doesn't mean you don't have a sex life.

I personally think bed-sharing is an outdated idea, and it really isn't comfortable: especially as you get older, as you keep waking each other up!!!

I think people just used to do it in the dark ages, to keep warm, and it just stuck! People feel embarrassed and ashamed to have separate bedrooms, and I don't know why! So what?!

Also, I agree that being overweight can make you snore.

But why NOT have separate rooms if the opportunity is there?!

Peter333

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My husband snores but personally I'll put up with it and no way would think of sleeping in separate rooms. His GP suggested separate rooms previously when he had night terrors which could be violent but I'm going nowhere. We always go to bed at the same time so bed-time depends on what shift he works the next day.

To me snoring is something worth putting up with for the comfort of having him there.

I am not judging, but I genuinely wonder why?

You say you will put up with the snoring for the comfort of having him there, and there is no way you are moving out of the double bed, no matter how bad it gets (snoring/night terrors etc.)

But if he is in a room 10 feet away, he is still there: he is just across the landing. Why would you never consider moving into a separate bedroom?

And why, no matter how much of a nuisance the snoring or night terrors become, you will not move out of the double bed, and go into another bedroom?

Why?

hazyjo

Maybe go to bed with the intention of sharing a bed. If you fall asleep, great! If not, just get out and go in the other room. I used to do that but it used to niggle me that I was having to move. Now that I just go to the other room, it's lovely


I remember when I first went to my (now ex) in-laws and was shocked that they slept in separate beds (in the same room!). I felt really embarrassed, and it just felt wrong to me. Like they didn't love each other or it wasn't a marriage. My parents had always slept in the same bed and as far as I knew, so did all my friends, etc.


I look back on it so differently now! And it turns out quite a few of my friends actually end up in different beds (often each of them with one of their kids). Some of their OHs work shifts/nights, so often it's cos of that.


Jx

dandelionclock30

Stop drinking alcohol if you drink it as its weight gaining and makes snoring worse as people can fall into a very heavy sleep.
Try to loose weight and go to the Doctors, the hospital can do an operation which can make it better.I actually know a lot of men who are thin who snore really badly, so its not always weight that's the culprit.
Ask you partner as well what they want to do about it as its them that's putting up with it.

tea_lover

Will be reading this thread with interest, my OH snores v loudly (you've probably all heard him ) The cat also snores... but somehow it's cute when he does it. The OH... not so much :rotfl:.

ripplyuk

My partner's snoring was driving me crazy for 10 years. He tried everything you can buy over the counter including nasal strips, throat sprays etc. I tried earplugs but the noise was still unbearable and the bed moves when he snores so that would also wake me.

Then he was seen at ENT and they did surgery on his nose to correct a deviated septum. He had two further surgeries to reduce his palate which was apparently too long. Then he had another surgery to reduce his turbinates. Also was prescribed a jaw/mouth thingy to pull his lower jaw forward.

All to no avail. The first surgery reduced the snoring a little for about 6 months but soon it was as bad as ever.

We eventually went private to see a specialist and basically asked him if he could prescribe a cpap machine (I'd read they can help with snoring, not just sleep apnea). The doctor didn't believe it would help but agreed to let my partner try it.

Absolute miracle! From the first night, the problem was solved. He's been using it for 5 months now and still no snoring whatsoever. I almost get emotional thinking about it but the snoring was damaging our relationship and this little machine solved the problem completely.

System

My snoring drove my ex crazy thankfully new bf is a heavy sleeper so it doesn't bother him (i'm not advocating getting a new partner though, its a tad extreme :rotfl: )

Torry_Quine

Peter333 wrote: »

I am not judging, but I genuinely wonder why?

You say you will put up with the snoring for the comfort of having him there, and there is no way you are moving out of the double bed, no matter how bad it gets (snoring/night terrors etc.)

But if he is in a room 10 feet away, he is still there: he is just across the landing. Why would you never consider moving into a separate bedroom?

And why, no matter how much of a nuisance the snoring or night terrors become, you will not move out of the double bed, and go into another bedroom?

Why?

I acceot this is my and my husband's view but the thought of not having him there is not a good one. In his job he sometines does sleep-overs and I hate not having him there and don't sleep even though no snoring.