The Ultimate Incentive Part 11 (or 10B) It's The Final Countdown

wendz86

Zig I am so sorry to hear this. I haven't been through this but have been through a break up last year and know how heartbreaking it is. Go to your mums and take some time out to think but I agree that I don't see how you can get past this and carry on with the relationship. Massive hugs xx

wendz86

Just to add i have a lovely friend who found out her husband was having an affair and she tried to make the marriage work. They carried on the relationship for a while but it wasn't right and when they split he went off to live with the other woman so it obviously had never really ended.

Birdie85

Oh Zig, I was happy when I saw that you'd posted but now I'm so heartbroken for you! What a terrible thing to find out. What a... well I can't type it as the filters would block it, but you can guess what I want to call him!!! :mad:

I don't think there's any coming back from that level of betrayal. I can kind of understand it if it was a one-night mistake and he's truly sorry, but a pre-meditated, ongoing thing... nope. Just all the nope.

It's awful that he's destroyed your life together with his selfish actions. But it is all his fault and don't blame yourself one bit.

I do know people who have carried on after an affair (always the husband doing the affair-ing...) but in the cases that I know, there was a child involved (young babies at the time and husband feeling 'left out' so went looking elsewhere for 'affection' !!!!!!) so I think a lot of it was giving it a go for the sake of their family...

Massive huge squishy hugs for you.

clearmydebts

Hope you are okay Zig xxxx

roomontheend

Hi zig, hope you are managing to move forward. I have been in a similar situation and I took him back for the sake of our child. However he did it again. I think that in your particular situation the worst thing is that it was in your bed. There were undoubtedly many opportunities for him to stop it before opening that bedroom door and stepping inside. For me there would be no going back.
I look back now (25+ years ago) and think I made a luck escape for myself and my DD. I met a wonderful man who still takes care of us both.

Tesco_points_addict

hello, long time no see :rotfl:

Where is everyone?

TPA x

Cinny91

Keep on meaning to log on and post but it's extremely rare I have both hands free at the moment!

Hope you're doing okay, Zig. You're a fantastic and brilliant human who deserves so much better than a bag of !!!! walking around in a skin suit treating you like that. I hope he feels bloody ashamed of himself a crawls into a hole to live out the rest of his days. Burn him, burn the bed and remember you're better than this situation. Still sending you lots of love xxx

And hello TPA!!!! How're you?? How're the dogs? How's the house??

Oscar is also 12 weeks old yesterday :eek: I do put pictures of him on Instagram if anyone wants to follow me, username is appledough

clearmydebts

Cinny91 wrote: »

Keep on meaning to log on and post but it's extremely rare I have both hands free at the moment!

Hope you're doing okay, Zig. You're a fantastic and brilliant human who deserves so much better than a bag of !!!! walking around in a skin suit treating you like that. I hope he feels bloody ashamed of himself a crawls into a hole to live out the rest of his days. Burn him, burn the bed and remember you're better than this situation. Still sending you lots of love xxx

And hello TPA!!!! How're you?? How're the dogs? How's the house??

Oscar is also 12 weeks old yesterday :eek: I do put pictures of him on Instagram if anyone wants to follow me, username is appledough

Can't believe Oscar is 12 weeks old. He is such a cutie (am getting to see him though FB messages). I must say I am missing the banter on here. I am still around and looking likely to be for the next while due to a lot of debt from moving house.

tinkerbel

Hi all it feels like ages! Oscar is so cute Cinny looks like you are doing incredibly with him too

Zig - how are you doing?

Flower08

Cinny91 wrote: »

Oscar is also 12 weeks old yesterday :eek: I do put pictures of him on Instagram if anyone wants to follow me, username is appledough

Have followed you, hope you don't mind! He's absolutely gorgeous!!!