The Ultimate Incentive Part 11 (or 10B) It's The Final Countdown

clearmydebts

Thanks for the Happy Birthday wishes. He woke up this morning and I said 'How do you feel?'. His reply 'stronger and taller Mammy'!!! So cute We are just having cake for him today and on Sunday we are having his party in a local community centre with bouncy castles and a Minecraft theme!


Birdie - just love the room. Especially the Merde hanger! hee hee. Have you any before photos. I love before/after photos. Can't wait to get my hands on mine!!!

Birdie85

I think I've got an old one of the bedroom from a couple of years ago (forgot to take 'proper' before photos), will try to remember to post it tonight. It's just a lot of cream and some mismatched furniture really.

Max's party sounds fun!

Birdie85

Before pic

clearmydebts

Birdie85 wrote: »

Before pic

Oh wow. Big change. Looks way funkier now! Great job

shrimpy_80

Congratulations again Cinny! I hadn't clicked that Oscar and Zach were birthday buddies, that's so cool!

Love the room Birdie and especially the pineapples - am thinking where I can pinch that idea for in my house

tinkerbel

Congratulations Cinny so proud of you and happy for you and your family!!! Hope youre manging to settle into being a mummy and you're doing okay! Love love love the name too!! And the middle name!!!

Couldn't be happier for you!!

The room transformation looks fab Birdie love the pineapples too! afraid my house is so boring and I have no inspiration/inclination to do anything about it!!

zigmeister

I need some advice - don't know what to do. Recently found out OH of 4 years has been cheating on me for the last 4 months with two women from work (two different workplaces as he changed jobs part way through). One of them he brought back to our bed. I feel absolutely sick and can't think straight. I'm moving out to my mum's but I just can't believe he could betray me like this when I thought we were so happy. Please has anyone else been in this position or know of anyone who has who can give me some advice? I just can't believe it.

archersluck

Oh gosh, I'm sorry Zig. 2 women? That is horrid - he can't pass that off as a blip. Don't let anyone tell you it must have been something wrong with your relationship, this is not your fault.
I think you've done the right thing getting out to get space. How did you find out and are you still in touch? Look after yourself x

clearmydebts

zigmeister wrote: »

I need some advice - don't know what to do. Recently found out OH of 4 years has been cheating on me for the last 4 months with two women from work (two different workplaces as he changed jobs part way through). One of them he brought back to our bed. I feel absolutely sick and can't think straight. I'm moving out to my mum's but I just can't believe he could betray me like this when I thought we were so happy. Please has anyone else been in this position or know of anyone who has who can give me some advice? I just can't believe it.

Oh Zig I'm so sorry to hear this


I've not been in your position but I think you are doing the right thing by going to your Mums. Is he showing any remorse at all?


Being honest (and you know I am v honest) I'd get rid of him straight away. That's disgusting bringing someone back to your bed, not to mention downright disrespectful. I'm sure you are hurting so much after 4 years together, but as Archers says it's not your fault. It's a fundamental flaw with him, not you.


Big hugs xxx

starnac

Zig - I only want to echo what Archers and CMD have said. It is NOT your fault. I agree that moving out may be a good idea to give you some space. Personally I would have said to let him move out but after his cheek of bringing her back to your bed I couldn't sleep there any longer.

One woman is a blip. Can be excused as a moment of weakness but two. I'm sorry lovely but I can't see any way back for him.

I'm so sorry he has done this to you. You do not deserve it and he is a !!!!. You are better than him.