Does wife own half of everything

booksurr

you are not in control otherwise you would not have returned to this forum 4 months after being originally told what to do and what rights you and she have

your solution is in your own hands, at the moment you cannot face that and are prevaricating. She is calling the tune not you otherwise this would already have been resolved and you would have seen professional advisers, be they free at CAB or a paid for solicitor

TBagpuss

Agree a fixed deadline for her to move out - not a vague 'when I get a job'

Do you have savings? One option would be to offer to pay a deposit and first month's rent on her behalf for a rented property (possibly a room in a shared house) . Make clear that the offer is on the basis that she moved out on the deadline you agree.

In the mean time, speak to a solicitor. If you have now been married for 12 months, start divorce proceedings. If the 12 months is not yet up, get a separation agreement drawn up to protect yourself . Make it a condition of th any payment you make to her that she agrees to remove the MHA notice and not to reapply for a further notice.

If you have not already done so, change all our internet banking passwords, ensure she does not have access to your card (if necessary, get the bank to block it an issue a new one)

make it clear to her that if she attempts to use your card again without your consent you will report it to the police and the card issuer as (attempted) theft / fraud.

Is she a full time student? What steps has she taken to find out what, if any benefits she may be entitled to? Has she looked into whether she would be entitled to a student loan, or to apply for an help from any bursaries or scholorships If she is full time, when does her current course end?

What has she done since January to improve her own income?

If she threatens or harasses you, log that with the police, so that in the event that she later makes allegations against you, there is already a record that she has been the aggressor in the past.

Pixie5740

OP, have you actually sought legal advice yet. If not then DO IT! Do it sooner rather than later.

How can your wife use your debit card? Is it actually a joint account that you have, each with your own card, or have you been supremely stupid and give her your card and PIN?

If you've given her your card and PIN then either cancel the card and get a new one or take the card off her and change the PIN.

I agree with booksurr, you're not in the driving seat at all.

Bowes100

ajp166 wrote: »

its so difficult.. when im there and we argue I go into the spare room but she follows me to continue the arguement... its amazing how the police cant help me ;(

Put a lock on the door and carry a recorder. Video the lot as evidence