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Does wife own half of everything

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  • ajp166
    ajp166 Posts: 78 Forumite
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    It's less than a year... Can't start.
  • patman99
    patman99 Posts: 8,532 Forumite
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    Yes, you can divorce someone from day 1 of mariage.
    You sound like my b-in-l. You ask for advice, but are so threatened by her, you do nothing.

    Grow some and go take her name off the debit card. Even change Banks and have all uor wages etc paid into the new account.
    Apply for an occupation and non-molestation order.
    Wait until you know she is not in the flat, then let yourself in and change the locks. When she returns and starts to kick-off, call 999.
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  • Tigsteroonie
    Tigsteroonie Posts: 24,954 Forumite
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    Cancel the bank card. If there's any other way she can access your account, cancel that too.

    Then say "Legal moves? Bring it on."
    :heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls

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    :) Proud Parents to an Aut-some son :)
  • pmlindyloo
    pmlindyloo Posts: 13,091 Forumite
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    Have a read of this:

    https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/relationships/relationship-problems/ending-a-marriage/#h-housing-rights-at-the-end-of-a-marriage

    You both have matrimonial rights to live in the house unless there are court orders saying otherwise.

    Whilst I respect everyone's opinions urging you to do this and that, the truth of the matter is that the only people who will gain financially from this are solicitors.

    From what you are saying OP your wife is doing a dissertation. This suggests to me that she is studying and so is unable to work at the moment and support herself financially.

    I understand that she could find a job and give up studying but it may make more sense to be a little more understanding whilst she is trying to do the dissertation/studying.

    You need to talk to each other, perhaps with the help of a third party (ggogle Family Mediation). There must be a way of coming to some arrangement both financially and with regard to your living arrangements until your wife is in a position to get a job and manage her financial affairs. A little give and take at the moment would be the most sensible way forward.

    If you can't agree how to move forward in the current situation until you can get a divorce then you are going to have to seek the advice of a solicitor. You might like to see if one will give you a free/reduced fee for the first half hour (CAB might have a list of local solicitors who do this.)

    If it ends up in court then you will be expected to try and sort things out yourselves first.
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    Phone a lock smith, change the locks. Tell her she can pick up her belongings when the police attend.

    Put a notice onto the window stating clearly to any other locksmith that the locks are not to be changed without speaking to you, put a PAYG phone number on there.
  • Tigsteroonie
    Tigsteroonie Posts: 24,954 Forumite
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    pmlindyloo wrote: »
    I understand that she could find a job and give up studying but it may make more sense to be a little more understanding whilst she is trying to do the dissertation/studying.

    Very nice, but why should the OP fund her life (roof over her head, food) while she studies? He was happy to do so while they were making a life together and would presumably benefit in the future from her career, but now there is no incentive.

    You are correct in saying that they should try Mediation, this will be expected.
    :heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls

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  • ajp166
    ajp166 Posts: 78 Forumite
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    Yes everyone says kick her out but I don't really want to be nasty. She will turn nasty for sure and make life difficult. Today she emailed as if she has had some legal advice. She said I can come back whenever I want but not to talk to her and bully her. She says she will move out shortly once she has a job. She always brings the past up and makes me sound like a devil. But it's all old rubbish.
  • [Deleted User]
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    I would suggest that rather than listen to lots of people who don't know your situation, you book one appointment with a solicitor and get an understanding of what you can and can't do. Your situation sounds a bit dicey so you need to be properly informed before making any decisions.
  • agrinnall
    agrinnall Posts: 23,344 Forumite
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    The OP is so submissive that I doubt if he'll do any of the things that have been recommended, and in the end it'll be his wife who initiates the divorce once she feels she's taken all she can from him. Unless he grows a backbone and starts to take the initiative he may as well just accept that she's running the show.
  • ajp166
    ajp166 Posts: 78 Forumite
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    I don't agree she is running the show. She knows I'm in control and can divorce her if I want to. I have all the emails as evidence along with evidence we even sleep separately so I could even go for an annulment if I wanted to. I believe she will leave shortly but I just wanted to know if I wanted her out could I kick her out and I realise the answer is no as she has matrimonial rights until a judge rules otherwise
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